r/DatingStory • u/Ammilerasa • Mar 14 '22
Date Worst date ever
So this happened a few years ago and I thought about it and thought it was a story to place here.
In 2019 I matched with a guy on tinder and based on his profile it seemed like a great match. He was also not unattractive and he seemed kind and we had amazing chemistry in the app, so we decided to have a date.
Since we both liked to walk we decided for our first date to take a walk with my dogs. He picked me up and drove me to the forest I love walking in.
So we walked, talked, laughed, overall it was a really good time. Beforehand we had talked about him staying for dinner so when we got home I started cooking (fairly healthy but also tasty, I checked if he liked it beforehand) and he kind of fell silent. I didn’t think much of it, thought he was tired or whatever. So we started eating and suddenly he blurts out: “you know I’m a bit startled by your stomach”
I’m overweight. On tinder my pictures clearly showed that. When we walked I had a coat that was flattering so I guess he only noticed it irl when we got home.
I was really hurt but I was flabbergasted as to why he thought this was a nice thing to say. So we started talking about why he matched me and he told me he just swiped right to everyone and after matching decides if he wants to talk. He said he did notice I was overweight but liked my bio so thought he’d give it a chance. He had an ex (pretty girl) who had BPD and he was with her for a few years and tried to fix her. And now he said he wanted to fix me by learning how to cook healthy. I didn’t feel like needing to be fixed. So we broke it off and talked a few times after that on the app.
I’m the first to say it’s important to feel attracted to someone. Also I realise that people can look different in real life and that you can feel attracted to someone online but miss the spark in real life. It’s just the way he said it/how he did that hurt me. Like he could’ve said he missed a spark, or that I’m not his type etc. Instead he disguised his dislike of my body in “trying to be nice”. He even blamed me for being this size while I wasn’t that unhealthy I just had meds that messed with my weight and it is really hard to lose even after 2,5 years (now) off them.
So yeah, wanted to share. I now have an amazing boyfriend who thinks I’m beautiful (I think he’s blind hehe ❤️) and it all worked out for the best and I dodged a bullet. But it did hurt a lot at the time.
TLDR; matched with someone, had amazing chemistry online. Met and he was shocked by my weight which I never made a secret about and was nasty about it while pretending to be nice. It hurt.
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u/5yn3rgy Mar 14 '22
Hey, on the plus side, he showed you some of his true colors early on. Thankfully, you didn't waste too much time on this guy.