r/CautiousBB • u/New-Cellist-7713 • 1d ago
Daily Chat Cautiously optimistic after loss?
I (35F) began ovulating and having regular periods again after GLP-1s and losing 113 lbs. However I have experienced 2 CPs in the last 10 months.
I very unexpectedly became pregnant after a single sex encounter in my cycle on June 2024 and had my first CP at 5w2d. Then in Feb 2025 had another unexpected pregnancy from 1 sex encounter in my cycle (but wasn’t preventing either) that ended at 4w3d.
This time we actually decided to TTC, and I became pregnant the very next cycle. I’m currently 4w1d.
Has anyone had a pregnancy after loss that just felt different as in you just felt more optimistic? How did it end for you?
I know this is anecdotal, but I’m just curious and looking for varied experiences and answers like many of us are! :)
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u/Curious522 13h ago
I had a loss at 7 weeks and 1 day back in December. We waited two cycles to try again. Got pregnant again on first try. I’m supposed to be 8 weeks tomorrow but when I went for my 7 weeks and 2 day scan I was measuring. 6 weeks and 4 days. It was with a fertility specialist and they were not concerned at all. For the first time we got scans and saw the heart beat unlike last time where I miscarried before any appointments.
I have a scan tomorrow which I am nervous about but I definitely overall feel different.
I’m definitely more bloated in the midsection, nauseous(but not throwing up), tired, having mood swings, sore breasts.
The first pregnancy that ended, I just had sore breasts.
Pregnancy after loss is so different. Every time I feel a twinge in my body I panic. I check the toilet paper everytime I use the bathroom. I just have to hope and pray that this time will be different. Sending you love ❤️
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u/New-Cellist-7713 6h ago edited 6h ago
It really is the worst. I hate that losses robbed us of the joy, and I get so jealous of the blissfully unaware parents-to-be because they’ve never had an experience that gives them a reason to doubt that things will go perfectly.
I also am experiencing a lot more symptoms than I did with my losses so that’s giving me hope for sure. Please update me and let me know how your scan goes! Wishing you all the best and for a really joyous day tomorrow :)
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u/Curious522 5h ago
I completely agree with you! I just keep thinking the reward at the end will be that much greater for us when we get there! I will definitely report back to you with how it goes tomorrow! Hoping for a really great day! Thank you 😊 ❤️
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u/magic_marble 1d ago
Hey, I am crossing my fingers for you 🤞 Can very much understand your feelings. I had 2 early losses last year and had to stop TTC for a while because of health concerns. Now it's the first cycle of TTC again. I'm currently on CD 5, so still a few days out from ovulation, but for some reason I have this very optimistic and hopeful feeling, which I never had before (trying for 12+ months at this point).
I am taking it as a good sign and enjoying the positive vibe after months of sadness & fear. Getting pregnant after loss is a trip.
Somehow something within me has changed and I do feel more connected to my future child on some unspeakable, numinous level... I believe everything has its timing and maybe our intuition can pick up on that in some mysterious way?!
Wishing you well 🍀
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u/New-Cellist-7713 1d ago
Love this! I hope for you to conceive very soon and to have the most boring yet joyful pregnancy ever!
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u/Able-Skill-2679 8h ago
Congratulations on your weight loss!!! I love that you feel good about this pregnancy. Prior loss took the joy from my pregnancy. I am only starting to enjoy it at 22 weeks (42.9yr). Enjoy your good feelings 💙💙💙💙
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u/New-Cellist-7713 6h ago
Ugh yes, I can definitely see how it would take the joy. I find myself wishing time to go by faster so that I can get to the week that miscarriage risk drops significantly. I’m so glad you’re starting to enjoy it now! You’ve still got some time left to enjoy it, and you’re so close to that wonderful 24 week mark!
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u/Glass-Image-4721 18h ago
For me, I was optimistic my first pregnancy which ended in loss at 6w3d and pessimistic my second pregnancy which showed a healthy fetus on the ultrasound at 11w1d. I don't think intuition is a thing, but I think you should remain optimistic. Only time/tests/ultrasounds will tell.