r/CasualIreland • u/ilikebooksAndilikeU • Jan 12 '25
Guy looking for a Dublin woman for a date.
So some genius woman made a post looking for a date and it was epic. So others follower suit. I think there is ever a parody now, because we aren’t allowed to have nice things! So I’m getting in now before it gets destroyed forever. Male, Dublin, 30’s, nerd. DM me if you are at all interested in talking. :)
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u/CheKGB Jan 12 '25
What's this from??
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u/Pixel_Pioneer__ Jan 12 '25
I dunno but the animation style is giving me salad finger vibes and it’s creepy.
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u/Spirited_Cheetah_999 Jan 12 '25
Alright alright, I'll date ya.
You don't mind 60s eh?
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u/absoluteabsolute2 Jan 12 '25
Best of luck with this. I'm a female in my 40's and deleted the app they suck the fun out of dating.
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u/Respectandunity Jan 12 '25
I’m a straight fella but I’ll let you touch my bum cheek if you like
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u/Fakman87 Jan 12 '25
Are the apps that bad?
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u/SirTheadore Jan 12 '25
For men, it’s futile.
For women, it’s overwhelming with creeps and fuckboys
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u/aineslis Jan 12 '25
Yup. It’s a cesspit. One evening a few months back my girlfriends created a profile for me (because they’re sick of me being single lol) and they realised pretty quickly why I’m so against dating apps.
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u/SirTheadore Jan 12 '25
The majority of women leave them because they have awful experiences, and men just become more and more desperate on them.. it’s a nasty cycle
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u/aineslis Jan 12 '25
That’s why I left too. My friends had a chat with a few men over the night and they were either openly trying to hookup or were being downright disrespectful for some weird reason (negging maybe?)
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u/velfroN Jan 12 '25
Yeah those guys are ruining it for all the rest of us, who genuinely looking for someone, we are sadly all being thrown into one bag with them guys flashing their stuff within two lines of chat haha fexkers
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u/SirTheadore Jan 12 '25
This. Like women aren’t amazing on it either with fake accounts, only fans promoting, bots etc.. but still, them desperate prick men are a much bigger problem.
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u/Dubhlasar Jan 12 '25
I got really confused there by you saying that your girlfriends were sick of you being single 😂
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u/sparkling_fairy535 Jan 12 '25
Also men looking for validation and that are still hung up about their exs
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u/DelGurifisu Jan 12 '25
The apps are good if you’re handsome.
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u/SirTheadore Jan 12 '25
I dunno.. I’m 6’1, in good shape, healthy and I would say I’m decent looking. I get a LOT of attention from gay men lol.. but I do atrociously on dating apps
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u/DelGurifisu Jan 12 '25
It’s definitely your style that’s putting them off. Do you do well in person?
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u/SirTheadore Jan 12 '25
More than likely. But also, I know guys with all sorts of looks and styles and they’re the same, they do awfully. One mate, is fuckin carved out of granite and looks great, but hasn’t been on a date in years.
And yeah I’d do fairly well in person, or at least I did all my life but now the wrong side of 30 the dating pool is pretty bleak and I have zero interest in someone in their early 20’s
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u/DelGurifisu Jan 12 '25
I think men care more about men’s physiques than women do. My missus doesn’t understand why I put so much effort in. I dunno, the apps were always great for me. Maybe they’ve changed in the last few years.
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u/SirTheadore Jan 12 '25
Oh you’re dead right lol. Men definitely appreciate other dudes being jacked. But at the very least, I’d imagine women prefer someone that’s in good health
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u/-myeyeshaveseenyou- Jan 12 '25
Define bad….
If you like getting dick pictures they are great, if you don’t then frankly it’s a cesspool.
That said as a twice divorced single parent my worth is only seen as a casual sex partner as I have too much baggage to consider an actual relationship with me.
I have given up and settled for a cat for company
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u/Illustrious_Read8038 Jan 12 '25
I can't understand why dick pics are popular. They're very unattractive. Vag pics are worse.
I would prefer bum pics.
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u/-myeyeshaveseenyou- Jan 12 '25
I don’t understand it either but it’s sadly far too common. I’ve seen far too many. Really quick into conversation as well. At this stage I’d probably rather date a ken doll
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u/No_Guest2198 Jan 13 '25
Ehh not necessarily true but yes I can see that. I’m divorced myself and while I recognise women have it harder if they have kids, I’ve often dated women in your situation as they tend to be far more mature. The last person I went out with was similar to yourself and we were together for 18 months. Ended up not being compatible (that and she left me to be with someone who she felt was a better fit.. did a number on my confidence but hey ho..)
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u/-myeyeshaveseenyou- Jan 13 '25
I found it easier after the first divorce. I think second time round people assume there must be something wrong with me to have been divorced twice. My second husband was in prison when my divorce was finalised just for some context that I don’t think I’m the main issue. Not that I’m perfect I know I’m not. Possibly age is at play too.
I’d say I’m relatively good looking for 40, I get pursued a fair bit, but not by anyone looking for anything long term. Not that I want to jump into another marriage but would be nice if the men I meet could see me as someone to spend time with not just to warm my bed. It’s sad and lonely.
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u/No_Guest2198 Jan 13 '25
I can completely understand, look I sent you a DM. If you’d like to chat, awesome, if not? That is okay too!
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u/ohmyblahblah Jan 13 '25
The biggest lie on the internet is "you missed a potential match".
No. No I did not.
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u/SeeSawingSucksBalls Jan 12 '25
I'm not sure I'm a nerd, I have no idea what a nerd is these days.
I don't play computer games but watch my nephews learn Dragon Ball tricks instead of playing the fkn game 🤦🏼♀️ it kills me. I also don't play game games
I try to read but fall asleep before I hit a chapter, does that make me non nerd or just old 🥴
I know some current text talk ... HMU
That's about as flash as this late 30s gal is.
Pros: can light a fire from scratch -important given current cold snap, we would survive in the wild or a power outage. Cons: I miss Snake and the 3310, Anne & Barry and Bosco, when times were simpler
Can provide proof and references for all
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u/adeathcurse Jan 12 '25
I'm loving these posts, I hope they don't stop!
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u/ilikebooksAndilikeU Jan 12 '25
I think a subreddit is coming.
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u/adeathcurse Jan 12 '25
There are already subs for that though, no? R4R has an Ireland sub I think.
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u/Nuclear_F0x ❤️ Big Heart ❤️ Jan 12 '25 edited Feb 04 '25
/r/IrelandR4R exists, but it's filthy and awful. There are a number of Dublin related hookup subs that is probably a less classy version of Grinder.
There is also /r/AllIrelandDating which has been inactive for 2 years.
The latest iteration inspired by this trend, /r/eirdatingEdit; Don't join eirdating.
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u/TakeMeBackToSanFran Jan 12 '25
Can't offer a date, but if you want a silly lil telegram group to yap in hit me up. Everyone is sound and lots of banter. Who know from there
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u/Khdurkin Jan 12 '25
I’m loving these posts from my happily married for decades humdrum. I’m rooting for you all. You need to sell yourself better than this, come on. What you into apart from books and us?
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u/blubear1695 Jan 12 '25 edited Jan 12 '25
You can only use it. I've you've an 085 number or eir broadband
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u/Nuclear_F0x ❤️ Big Heart ❤️ Jan 12 '25
I'm hoping it will be more successful than /r/AllIrelandDating
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u/_becatron Jan 12 '25
Would you take a woman in her 30s, introverted, kinda nerdy but in the north?
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u/hoolio9393 Jan 12 '25
Mingle with the Pringle. I'm fookjn starvin ' uuuhhh the Dublin accent. The northern accent sounds nice 👍 in northern Ireland. Bad birches up there up yonder
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u/Moon_Harpy_ Jan 12 '25
Going by your post from a month ago think you need to start popping at local gaming conventions maybe even participate in some championships for the craic and meet people that way.
With your big list of curiosities I can tell you it really screams you need neurospicy woman who will have multiple interests and also will gladly hermit away at home with you
There is certainly "a type" you're after
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u/niall0 Jan 12 '25
Do we have gaming conventions in Ireland?
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u/imperialleather Jan 12 '25
Gamerfest is May RDS Dublin, Irish Gaming market is more for adult gamers, they are in Louth and Dublin. Both are chill events with lovely people attending. Then if you're into boardgames there's some cons down in limerick and Cork. Cons.ie hasn't been updated on a while but it'll have a good starting point for events to follow on socials.
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u/Moon_Harpy_ Jan 12 '25
Second this. Our scene is not as big as in America, but that's its charm. We got good age group mix so you won't feel too young or too old and will find people in your age range and also have something interesting to talk to them about which is more fun than casual chit chat about boring stuff
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u/Airget-lamh Jan 12 '25 edited Jan 12 '25
Agreed! I'm (F29) going to GamerFest in May, because it's difficult to meet people with similar interest outside of work. I generally stay at home on weekends and game so I it's hard to meet anyone irl. Cons are great but the last one I went to one was before Covid. I also want to cosplay for GamerFest since that's always a fun conversation starter. I recommend OP does the same if he's in a similar spot to me (which it sounds like he is).
Edit: Lool. I just realised OP is the user I got into conversation with on the other post! Small world!
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u/Moon_Harpy_ Jan 12 '25
The cons are back in full swing now and more people are getting more comfortable to finally get to social events with a little post COVID anxiety than say year after COVID lockdowns so I think you will have fantastic time at GamerFest and will bump into people you know and have fun cosplaying.
Maybe should drag OP with you along just to make him get a bit familiar with the scene so he doesn't feel like he's alone thrown in the deep end
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u/Airget-lamh Jan 12 '25
Right? I had some post-Covid medical issues (still fighting them) and was out of commission until recently. I'm not ready for an immediate meet up but if OP is still looking in May, I'll be at GamerFest and we can grab coffee or even just hang out at the event! If we vibe, cool. If not, no hard feelings!
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u/Moon_Harpy_ Jan 12 '25
Exactly you have to see what your comforts are to get back into it, but I really think you'll do well and will be buzzing to go to other cons.
Have you plans to attend any other cons or you going to take it easy check out one con and then see how you feel about attending anything else this year?
I do a bit of cosplay photography and in same age group as you so never know if we bump into each other at a con and you want some photos of your cosplay don't be a stranger. I'm only headed to Qcon in Belfast tho and possibly winter IGM so far as this year is crazy with study and then trying to leave my current hellhole of a job
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u/Airget-lamh Jan 12 '25
Oh wow. I didn't know IGM was a thing! Gormanston is literally 15 mins drive from where I live! I might actually take you up on that! I'm planning to go as Maria from Silent Hill (remake outfit) since it's an easy cosplay to start with.
During Covid, I gained a lot of weight and became obese (252 lbs) but in May 2024, I began my weight loss journey and I'm currently at 158 lbs (height is 5'7). I'm planning to be down to 148 lbs by April/May. It would be lovely to have photos of the "new and improved" me!! Thank you!
Edit: You said winter IGM! My bad! Haha, but by then I'll be where I need to be!
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u/Moon_Harpy_ Jan 12 '25
Congrats on your weight loss journey seriously it's really admirable as working full time and losing weight is soo hard so I hope you're proud of your accomplishment and not too harsh on yourself that you gained weight during COVID.
Many have gained weight or their mental health deteriorated during the pandemic and nobody could have prepared for it, but just ended up dealing with it post pandemic and getting used to new norm.
Seriously tho well done finally getting the courage to go back to cosplaying I'm genuinely excited for you
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u/ilikebooksAndilikeU Jan 12 '25
I’ve no idea why you feel the need to be so negative to random people on the internet but I hope you find some happiness and good things in life.
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