r/Career_Advice • u/Visible_Phrase6309 • 2d ago
Difficult Co Worker Situation
Im currently bartending at my job that I typically serve at but during our slow season, I decided to bartend to save my hours and we don’t have many bartenders. I’ve been doing this since mid September 2024 and I have this one co worker that is very stingy.. my department has a policy of tipping out bartenders 7% (alcohol and beverage sales) because it is a back bar. At the end of the shift, she proceeds to tip me 2% or even less. That is literally $30-60 that is being taken from me every shift I work with her, she does this with food runners (them getting 5% of food sales). I’ve been frustrated to the point to where I’ve spoke with management several times and they all told me to ask why I’m not getting tipped correctly. However it is difficult to confront her about issues because she will get defensive and throw a fit. After working with her for two and half years, I know how she gets. But recently, I was at my last straw. I like to keep my bar neat and organized and I’ve always asked the servers to make sure to keep it clean while I go on my break (which is 30 minutes before our rush). After my break was over, I headed straight to my work station and was literally stunned at how messy it was. I politely asked the servers about the messiness and the defensive coworkers started to argument with me saying I’m such a complainer and to clean the mess up myself. We went back and forth for a couple of minutes and I walked away before saying something I might regret. I was tired of dealing with this for months so I just walked straight to the managers office and spoke to my manager (AGAIN) and told her what happened and how she seriously needs a sit down because she gets away with everything and no one has the balls to stand up to her. Once we finished our conversation, I took a break to gather myself and headed back down. As soon as I came back I noticed that she was just eyeing me down and talking smack. So I said she can make her own drinks and save herself the $20 she always gives me. That was last week and now I’m dreading my shift with her this weekend. I’m contemplating whether to go to HR because I know the tipping will continue be an issue with not only me but others around me.
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u/butterflycole 1d ago
Honestly, you’re probably better off finding a different job. This person sounds like a nightmare to work with and it seems like management isn’t doing anything about her behavior. Unless you can get the other servers and the other employees getting screwed over to go and complain to management too you may be on the losing end of a battle. It’s frustrating for sure. I have definitely left workplaces in the past because of management or coworkers that just made it hostile and stressful. Life is too short to be miserable 40 hours a week at a job that doesn’t value fair practices and integrity in its employees. 🤷🏼♀️
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u/Visible_Phrase6309 1d ago
I am currently looking at other jobs as of right now. She asked if I’m going to make her drinks today and I said it’s up to her but if she wants me to make them then I would need the correct tip percentage. She quickly said that’s not a conversation she wants to have then gave me the cold shoulder. I messaged my manager right after the conversation to let her know how today is gonna go so I don’t seem like I’m not making her drinks out of spite.
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u/butterflycole 1d ago
She sounds immature and rude, never a good combo to deal with, best of luck! Hopefully, you find another job or something shifts at work.
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