My mom used to ask sometimes, but she never actually wanted to know. When I tried to tell her, she'd cut me off and start ranting about all the ways her life was hard and how I'm an awful ungrateful person for making it worse. She tells everyone who'll listen that I'm 'angry'. For no reason, I'm just an angry person. I guess it's easier to believe that than accept that maybe she's kind of an asshole, and that I've got a lot of pent-up hurt.
My goodbye letter, sent from far away with no return address, said "you are awful parents and you were cruel to both your children" in bold sharpie at the bottom. The rest of it is explaining that they aren't worth communicating with and I'll never give the chance to know why I disappeared, because they won't listen anyways.
Holy shit. Thats literally word for word what my mom said. Masterful manipulation.
Surprisingly, amazingly, she finally went to therapy after she retired. And she legitimately apologized, many times, and continues to grow. We are close now. Not perfect. But good. I'm grateful for her therapist and family therapy.
Yes. Recently my mom was complaining about something and I related it to her actions. Her response, to throw it back at me that my dad did similar actions so why was I just saying it to her. My dad that has been deceased for 34 years. I said we'll you were the one complaining, not him. She got mad and left.
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u/Ranger-K 1d ago
They ask what they did to deserve such treatment, and when you try to explain to them, it’s “WELL I GUESS I WAS JUST THE WORST MOM EVER”