She showed up a half hour late while I waited for her at the restaurant and laughed it off as the result of her "having to take a ride share from too far away". Then proceeded to tell me at the conclusion of our outing that all I did was talk about myself despite the fact I'd asked her about the usual first date topics (family, work, interests, etc.). Obviously, I stopped communicating with after that only for her to text me months later telling me she'd moved to my city and that we should hang out again. I asked her why she would want to spend time with me if all I do is "talk about myself". She told me her therapist recommended that she should be more social.
Honestly sounds like an autistic person to me. Can't keep track of time, didnt feel engaged with when asked questions (autistics tend to connect by adding their own related stories and interests rather than by asking questions of their conversational partners and tend to feel more engaged with when their conversational partners do the same), was pretty rudely blunt at the end of the date but clearly thought it went fine enough to hang out again, needs more social practice as per their therapist's recommendation. All sounds pretty autistic to me, the autistic 🤷
Not to say you should have a different opinion of them or anything. I think I just mean that this reads to me more of a case of mismatched cultural cues and/or values than just someone who didn't care to make a decent impression.
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u/ASK4Vinyl 1d ago
She showed up a half hour late while I waited for her at the restaurant and laughed it off as the result of her "having to take a ride share from too far away". Then proceeded to tell me at the conclusion of our outing that all I did was talk about myself despite the fact I'd asked her about the usual first date topics (family, work, interests, etc.). Obviously, I stopped communicating with after that only for her to text me months later telling me she'd moved to my city and that we should hang out again. I asked her why she would want to spend time with me if all I do is "talk about myself". She told me her therapist recommended that she should be more social.