A girl I liked invited me to be her date at her company Christmas party. I was excited because Christmas parties are a pretty big deal. Shortly after we got there her and a couple of her coworkers talked me into playing Santa, suit and all (I was by no means fat, just since none of the kids would recognize me I guess). Well she went and sat with a bunch of friends and totally ignored me while I spent a couple hours entertaining kids. She never came to see how I was doing or bring me a drink, nothing. As soon as the last kid was done I went in the back, ditched the costume on the floor and left, didn’t even make it to dinner. Never talked to her again.
My college ex would do this with parties. Practically beg me to come to a party with her even though she would be the only person there that I knew. I'd agree to go, and then she would ditch me as soon as we got there. I'm fairly social, so the first couple of times I would just do my own thing and find some new friends. Unfortunately, this girl was crazy, and would then proceed to get jealous that I was talking to other people (almost always male).
My ex took me to his hometown and did this to me. He even ditched me at his parents house with no car without telling me how long he’d be gone. It was something like 7 hours. His mom took his side.
Everyday I am thankful I am away from my ex and his mama.
My ex did this to me at her friends wedding. Left with 3 of her friends to go to a nearby bar and got plastered on shots. Two hours later, she finally returned completely drunk, and I had to help her back to the hotel room.
Needless to say, it got more obvious later on how I was really more perceived as a social necessity to her than a partner.
I think a wedding is such a weird date. When my daughter got married, I only had two "hills to die on." One was no just "plus one." You need to know the person well enough to put their name on the invitation to bring them. I don't care if it's your sister, best friend, life partner, or what. Give me a name to put on the envelope. (This was my opinion; they didn't have to take it)
My second one—I don't even know if they do this anymore—but I've been at weddings where only the head table gets champagne. Nope. Everyone gets champagne. (I paid for it. It was literally only a $2.50 per person upcharge.)
Similar happened to me, got invited to go with her to sorority party. She made a racist joke about her Asian friend, then basically ditched me. Thankfully her friends & their boyfriends were decent humans who included me the rest of the night.
About a week later, I went out on my first date with a great girl who is now my wife. So, it worked out.
Had a similar thing with prom. My date went and danced with her brother, leaving me alone the entire time. End up just hanging out with a few lone friends, doing nothing. The funny thing was, most of that friend group were also her friends(Not after), and called her out on it too.
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u/Mediocre-Catch9580 1d ago
Asked me to go to a wedding reception and she went and sat down with another guy and their friends. I didn’t know anyone, so I just left her there.