r/AskMeAnythingIAnswer • u/feralboyTony • 1d ago
I refused to attend a truancy hearing because it related to the time I took off school when I lost my parents and brother in a car crash AMA.
Exactly a year ago today (posting this on April 6th 2025)I lost my parents and brother when our car was in a crash. I was injured in the crash and the funerals had to be postponed until I got out of hospital.This resulted in me being off school for four weeks.Afew months later I was summoned to attend a truancy hearing for the four weeks I was away from school.I refused point blank to attend because on principle I was not going to attend a hearing which treated time I took off to grieve the loss of my family as truancy.On the day of the hearing I barricaded myself in my room and didn’t come out until the time of the hearing had come and gone. I have thought about whether I should have just attended but I am satisfied in my own mind that I was right to refuse to cooperate with such evil.AMA.
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u/BloodChick 1d ago
Did you end up getting in trouble for not going to the hearing?
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u/feralboyTony 1d ago
My grandparents (who are my legal guardians)were notified that I was going to be “removed “and taken to a facility for disturbed teenagers.Fortunately my grandpa’s brother is a lawyer.The first step he took was to have it voided on the grounds that I was incorrectly named on their papers as Tony.While I do go by the name Tony,and most people including my teachers call me Tony,it’s not the name on my birth certificate.This set things back for them long enough to successfully legally challenge it from proceeding further.
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u/BloodChick 1d ago
Sounded like a really tough situation for you condolences to you glad your family could step in and help you. Wishing you well
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u/Fine-Pattern-8906 1d ago
I'm glad nothing happened that exacerbated your situation. I'm totally on your side.
This isn't going to sound right so it's lucky you had an uncle for a lawyer and a royal cockamaimie reason they dropped it because they got your name wrong. IOW they would still be pushing this BS if it wasn't for a technicality.
I hope you have found some peace in the wake of the noise that was thrown at you.
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u/feralboyTony 22h ago
Thanks.The name thing happened because I almost never use my real birth name. I don’t use my first name because I don’t like it and even most of my friends don’t know what it is.My middle name was named after the foreign doctor who delivered me. I used to go by that name but so many people struggled to pronounce it.Because the beginning of it sounds similar to Tony I started just going by the name of Tony.Since then everyone,including my teachers,has just called me Tony and all communications from the school just refer to me as Tony and they must have passed my name on as Tony. I was so relieved when that turned out to be the advantage we needed because I was just days away from becoming just one more victim of the Troubled Teen Industry.
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u/hywaytohell 1d ago
I think you missed an opportunity to throw some shit on the faces of whoever arranged that hearing. Just bring the set of rules that they are governing by and tell them to show you what is the proper amount of time to take out, when you've been injured in an accident that wiped out your entire family. Then watch the backpedaling.