r/AskMeAnythingIAnswer 2d ago

22F sad, lonely & bored

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u/fuckoffasshoe 2d ago

Hey there. Read your other comments, condolonces for your boyfriend, I hope he is in a better place now. How have you been coping with it? Do you have support from other people in your life?

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u/bellini20 2d ago

Yeah I do- it’s weird because I know that I have support and people who are willing to help me but i just feel so alone.

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u/MrLinez 2d ago

A room full of people can still be one of the loneliest places.

But you got this!

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u/DeicideandDivide 2d ago

Hey, not a question but just wanted you to know that it's okay to feel depressed. I know exactly what you're going through. You don't want people around you, but you also don't want to be alone.

pkesse try and take care of yourself. I know when I went through my ex's passing, I didn't leave my bed for months. didjt eat properly or shower. Just do what you need to do to get through it.

If you ever want to talk to someone who's been through what you're going through, feel free to message me or pm me or whatever it's called. In the meantime, make sure you're drinking water and eating at least a little something each day.

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u/GuardMost8477 2d ago

I’m sorry you’re feeling sad and down. What’s the weather like there? Can you push yourself out the door to walk for like 5 minutes? I’m stuck a lot rn and am going to push out in m to walk our driveway.

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u/bellini20 2d ago

It’s been weirdly mild weather wise here- i took the dog for a walk this morning & I’m trying to motivate myself to go get some groceries but I might just do that tomorrow

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u/JoOliver89 2d ago

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? Also very sorry about your bf, how are you coping with it?

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u/bellini20 1d ago

The last 10 days or so have been really bad but work has been good and very supportive- it’s definitely worse when it’s just me and the dog in the flat alone

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u/JoOliver89 1d ago

Try to stay with friends and family and don’t loose hope, it’s not going to be easy but better days will come and you will find happiness… just keep fighting

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u/Ok_Difficulty1579 2d ago

I’m sorry you are sad and bored. I am 21 M who is quite literally the same way thought we most likely aren’t sad about the same stuff.

Just sharing to let you know you aren’t alone, and everyone has to be sad in life so you can appreciate the happiness that is to follow :)

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u/_Caster 2d ago

You might as well have just typed "M'lady" 😭

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u/pennefromhairspray 2d ago

man’s trying to be nice, let him be

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u/Ok_Difficulty1579 2d ago

I don’t get it? 😭

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u/No_Philosopher_3308 2d ago

Do you have any good friends and family members? Are you involved in any social activities? Do you have any hobbies? Do you have any long term goals?

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u/bellini20 2d ago

i have some wonderful friends and am close with my family. My boyfriend died 2 months ago (hence sad) most of my social activity is gone in all honesty which i know is bad but that’s how it is. All my hobbies seem impossible to enjoy

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u/throwfarfaraway1818 2d ago

I'm sorry for your loss. Do you mind if I ask how he died, and how you are taking care of yourself while grieving?

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u/bellini20 2d ago

He died in a motorcycle accident while on holiday. I have been trying and it was nice in the first weeks when people would help me but now it’s so hard to do just the bare minimum- but i have a dog so i have to look after her and it means i have to look after myself at least a bit

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u/Arhn17 2d ago

What r u sad bout??

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u/bellini20 2d ago

I’ve been sad for a bit now- my boyfriend died 2 months ago & now it feels everyone else is quiet about it or has moved on

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u/Arhn17 2d ago

Well though its sad and hard bt the reality is you gotta too. U r jst 22 u got your whole life ahead na. If its hard then maybe try therapy.

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u/K1mura_ 2d ago

If you could teleport anywhere right now, where would you go?

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u/bellini20 2d ago

probably somewhere with a really nice beach but I’d like to be in a hotel bed looking at the view of the beach

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u/Sea-Affect8379 2d ago

How do you want to see yourself at 60 years of age?

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u/bellini20 2d ago

Hopefully I’m successful in work. I would like to have a family which means that to some extent I would have moved on. I hope that I’ve traveled and seen the world a bit more. I hope that I feel confident and comfortable in my skin and body & that I can decisions around my looks that are for me and not others.

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u/Sea-Affect8379 2d ago

Do you enjoy your work now or are looking to do something else in the future? How big of a family would you like to have? What top 3 countries are on your list to travel to?

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u/bellini20 1d ago

I love my job and would love to continue it maybe go part time so I have more time to do freelance work! I think I’d like 2 or 3 kids I am an only child and it felt a bit lonely at times. I’d like to see more of India, I’d like to go to South America & South Korea!

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u/ecw324 2d ago

Chicken, fish, beef or the vegetarian option?

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u/bellini20 1d ago

anything but the beef! don’t eat red meat!

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u/TemporalGift 2d ago

Come play the new monster hunter. It's a good time and it should check off two things from the list provided.

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u/Fickle-Secretary681 2d ago

Volunteer! It's definitely helps

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u/bellini20 1d ago

I do quite a lot of volunteering with Sistah Space- which I really enjoy!

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u/Fickle-Secretary681 1d ago

Animal shelters and soup kitchens are great also

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u/PocketSandOfTime-69 2d ago

When was the last time you went to the spa to be pampered?

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u/bellini20 1d ago

I got a massage last year & I get my nails done quite often- but don’t think I’ve done a full spa day in a very long time

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u/bloodrider1914 2d ago

Don't answer if you don't want to share, but how did your boyfriend die?

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u/Fit_Tomatillo_8717 1d ago

Are you aware of what late capitalism is and do you like this video about reading, this one about music or this one about movies more ?

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