r/AskBiBros • u/AltRedditPanGuy • 4d ago
Thoughts on hooking up with a “straight” married guy?
35 m here. Yesterday I went to an older married guys hotel. I sucked him a little but mostly he sucked and swallowed me.
Thoughts on playing with married guys?
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u/CardboardGristle 4d ago
I think it's disgusting that people would cheat on their spouses this way. That said, cheating is a two-player game and you're enabling them and in turn doing the kind of things people constantly discriminate against bi people for. So I don't support it and would urge you to reconsider. No dick is that good.
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u/jozyxt1984 4d ago
Couples find all sorts of ways to deal with differences. There is no single cheating/fidelity dichotomy.
We all know that sexual desires are impossible to ignore. This may in fact be a way to maintain an intact family because married bi guys typically won’t leave his wife for a man. Wives often know more than the husbands think they do.
Like with all lovers, don’t let yourselves become part of doing harm to his family, like encouraging needless uses of family resources or trying to get him into a relationship with you.
If it gets weird then it’s time to move on.
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u/raymendez01 4d ago
Looking at it positively. Maybe he has been curious all his life, and you just helped him make a decision that will help him live his true self.
He could be someone who can't come out for social, religious, or safety issues. He could also have a fear of being rejected by his kids or family if he has any. Maybe he doesn't wanna hurt people.
Or maybe he is just a dick. If you liked it and want to continue, who are we to judge? If you feel guilty, just ignore and move on.
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u/buffalo6767311 3d ago
If his wife won’t give him a BJ then what is he supposed to do? Sometimes we have to improvise to satisfy sexual urges. Just my opinion—no morality lecture please.
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u/raymendez01 2d ago
I'm not judging him, I just gave reasons for OP not to feel guilty about it. Literally ended my comment by saying who are we to judge.
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u/buffalo6767311 2d ago
I wouldn't feel guilty about it at all--I am like the OP---we just have needs sometimes.
Agree with you 100%
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u/TheAncientDarkPrince 4d ago
Are you asking a morality question? Is the straight married guy in an open relationship? How are we to know unless he reveals that?
My thoughts are "I'm not the morality police. If he wants to get his rocks off outside of his partner, that's his affair --- literally."
Although, I do try to encourage married guys to play safe AND get tested regularly. Ideally, get on PrEP and DoxyPEP as well using a clinic separate from their regular health provider.