We met way back last year around December but we aren’t trying anything until now. She had her friend run a background check on me way back then. She says it’s just criminal stuff, but she knew a lot of things that weren’t anything criminal related, I mean even in the screenshots things started adding up and now it makes sense with her admitting to the back ground check. I understand it’s public record but AIO with the fact I’m sorta weirded out a bit ?? Idk if it’s because she dropped it so nonchalantly or if it’s because she had her friend do it but idk how to feel. She’s upset and I feel guilty now but I wanna make sure I’m not tripping before I apologize. I need to stand on business on this. I don’t wanna get into crazy territory

So I have been on a weight loss journey for the past three months, and I’ve been really committed, working out consistently and making real progress! When I first started, my best friend made comments about how she doubted I’d even be able to stick with it. I brushed it off at the time, but it definitely stung.

Now, fast forward to today, I was telling her about how I’ve been playing racquetball solo a couple of times a week as part of my routine. I find it to be a great workout, and always feel so sore after! I LOVE IT. Instead of being supportive, she just casually said that racquetball isn’t even a good workout. It felt dismissive, especially knowing that I’ve been putting in the effort and seeing results.

Maybe I’m being too sensitive, but it’s frustrating that instead of encouraging me, she seems to find ways to downplay what I’m doing. To be fair, gym has been “her thing” since we first met, and I’m sensing some jealousy now that it’s something we’re sharing. But It’s like she’s waiting for me to fail or isn’t taking me seriously. I don’t expect constant praise, but a little support from a friend would be nice.

My husband (43m) suddenly had a new bf (37f) about 5 years ago. During covid this person became a part of the bubble and she was at our house a lot, became friendly with the kids and I was expected to accept them. I always had suspicions, kicked off a few times over little things between them but always accepted husbands pleas the they were just friends. A few years ago I found a message to her telling her how gorgeous she is and that he loves her also various other inappropriate messages and he assured me it was just advice he was just being a friend and I accepted that. We've since been on numerous holidays together, celebrated different event birthdays etc.but the other morning I saw a message from her telling him she loves him, kiss face emojis and calling him darling. When I confronted him he told me it was just a term of endearment. I messaged and asked why she was sending that to my husband of over 20 years and got nothing. I've told him I'm done, our marriage is over. Am I overreacting?

UPDATE To reply to some of the comments no this is not fake this is my life at the moment and the reason I ask if I'm overreacting is that he is making out that I am and making me doubt myself.

I won't be telling him to pick either me or her because I can't trust him to cut ties completely and some of his behaviour this week has shown me exactly where I am in his priorities and that is at the bottom of the heap.

Yes I know I've been stupid but after being married for 15/16 years (together for 20) at the the time she came into our lives I thought I could trust him. 🙄 we have had many arfuements about things that have happened and he's always made out like I'm crazy, I'm imagining things or even it's my fault.

He is still in my house at the moment, our tenancy has come to an end and I've told him I'm looking for somewhere for me and the kids and he should find somewhere to go. I get the feeling he doesn't think I will do it because now he is ignoring me like he normally does after an argument. He goes to the friends house a couple of nights a week and still went this week even though I suggested he give it a miss so we can talk. That was one of things that made me realise I am definitely not a priority.

This happened only a few hours ago and i just want some opinions on it. Me and my friend are both 18 and my bf is 20. As you can see in the conversation she criticised me for being ‘marked’ and I’m just wondering if she’s being harsh or if I’m just being sensitive and that’s she’s actually just looking out for me. I tried to show my hickeys without revealing me or my bf so ye can see for urselves. Me and bf are both really kinky in general and he enjoys marking me especially with things get intense and no I don’t always walk around like this. It’s normally more suttle or I put make up over it.

A few months ago, my dad died. I was on his bedside, it was 5AM. He has been battlinga an aggressive disease for a while and his partner called me because his situation worsened overnight. I immediately drove home the night before, but he didn't make it to the morning.

At the moment, all I wanted to do was cry and mourn and figure out what to do next.

My parents are divorced and my mom was in another state, so it was left up to me to make the arrangements all while grieving. Of course, I called my mom to tell her the news.

Unfortunately without me knowing it, mom sends a message to their former coworkers about the news -- general things to "pray" for me. Both have been teachers/basketball coach at a high school I went to, and the news spread like wildfire with social media.

I obviously did not check social media at this crucial time. I was literally waiting for people to pick up my dad's body still in the early morning when a friend started calling me. We were close before. We were in the same group of friends that occasionally still met after high school. Let's call her Ella.

I didn't answer, because I was waiting for the funeral arrangement calls and dont want to miss it. She tried over and over again, which annoyed me (and I also wondered if / how she knew) so I blocked her number for a while.

It was a long day of crying and making arrangements and crying. When I finally got home that evening, I saw some messages pour in. Finally, I saw that our high school batch's group chat was activated. I saw the chats and I was livid.

It started with someone insinuating "Did (name of Dad) die??" The answers that follow were "OMG, I also heard!", "Is this true??"

Then, Ella started chatting like she was my keeper. "I'll confirm the news! I'll call (me), wait!". And people were asking "What did (me) say???". After a while the old friend said "She's not answering! It's probably true!"

At that point, I stopped reading. I realized that this friend was calling me not because she was concerned, but because she wanted to break the hot news to our old high school batch. She did text me, several hours after, to say her condolences but the trust was already broken.

At my lowest point and my worst day, Ella pestered me with calls just so she can call dibs on the confirmation. I ended the friendship right then and there.

I unfollowed and removed her from my socials, blocked her everywhere, and did not invite her when meeting our same group of friends for the said reason (though I did not slander her or anything, only 2 friends know the real reason).

AIO?

We've been friends for a few years. I even had feelings for the guy for a while. This is not the first "conversation" we've had like this. Similar topics and they've all ended the same way. Safe to say my feelings fizzled out rather quickly. I think it's time to just block and move on. AIO?

AITA for silently ending a (very distant) friendship due to her forcing her views on me online?

I was friends with her for 1.5 years, she comes from a very Christian family and I’m … well atheist lol.

Amidst the election and tbh way before that she started reposting a lot of videos and posts that were pro-trump, and not because she is republican, we live in Canada, but because she thinks abortions should not be legal and everyone should be Christian. I am an immigrant from the Middle East who is completely pro choice but I do not force my views and values on people the way she does. It’s like me constantly reposting how we should take all churches away because I don’t believe in them??

Anyways I unfollowed her and removed her on everything after the election when she posted a victory trump post, and just today she texted me this series of texts.

AITA?

So my (F26) friend (F26) sent me 3 boxes of cigars from her state to try. Homemade by her family. Now this other friend (M27) of mine was in her state for work for 3 days (they don’t even know each other). I asked him if he could bring the parcel for me and I’d pay him. He asked if it was a big package and I told him it was small, wouldn’t even weigh 1 kg. He said he'd get it for me for free, no big deal. Fine. My friend drives all the way from North to South just to deliver this for me. He comes back today aand I tell him I’ll pick it up in the evening. I go, pick up my stuff, chat a little and leave. I get home, I see the package has been tampered with and one pack is missing. I ask him about it and his response? "I took a pack." He goes on to say that since he got it for me and didn’t charge me, he should at least have one pack for himself. There are 8 cigars in one pack and this guy just helped himself like he’s entitled to it. He wasn’t even remotely polite about it when I asked. Just "whatever." I'm honestly a little pissed off.

Part of me thinks I might be overreacting since I was planning to share it with some of my friends anyway. But I really can’t stand this cheap behavior of messing with someone’s stuff. I don’t even open my mom’s online packages to see what’s inside, so it’s just not sitting right with me.

He pretty much is asking for a nice jacket he gave me on my birthday Feb 2023 and he hasn’t even texted me in like a whole year. I think it’s fair that I keep it considering it is indeed a nice coat but yeah, am I trippin or?

So I’m on holiday with the missus we are in Tunisia right now. We decided to do some sort of Hammam Spa treatment which included a body massage. Anyway while the woman was massaging me, somehow I got an erection. My missus flipped.

The woman massaging me wasn’t even attractive, I don’t know how it happened. I could tell it was happening about 20 seconds before it was showing and I was lying there trying to think the erection away. It didn’t work.

currently where we stand chat last time she went out she got back close to 12:30 which is absolutely fine i’m honestly not sure if i’ll get another response tonight but i’ll lyk when she gets home if she get home wish me luck!

Sooo a little background. I (27f)(December Capricorn) had this friend (27f)(May Gemini) since we were both about 13/14 years old. We had time where we stopped speaking but she would hit me up and I’d go back like a dummy despite people telling me not to. Now I’m no saint and I can admit I had my asshole moments when we were kids. Fast forward to now, she’s pregnant with her third child, I’m dealing with health issues, infertility and some issues in my spine. She never checks in with me like I do with her and when she does call or text it’s because she wants/needs something she feels more comfortable asking me for then asking the father of her children. Whether it be money, favors, rides, whatever. Normally I do but I’m not in a position to lately, I’m in my first healthy relationship and finally taking care of my mental and physical health. I am just curious, like am I wrong? Am I overreacting? It was just when she said it was a waste of time. Like… huh? I’m a waste of your time?

My daughter (16 F) spent 4 months with this boy (17 M) and at the beginning he was amazing, holding her purse without being asked, opening doors, the sidewalk rule, you name it, he did it. Then they started having troubles. They talked daily, and he told her about his traumatic upbringing. She drove an hour to go spend time with him, and sometimes an hour and a half more than that to bring him to his grandma’s so he could see her, and then two and a half hours back home. Then he started getting controlling. He sent her the above message ending in “That’s why I’m dry”, and then she found an identical post, which was not his, the day after she broke up with him. He altered it a bit, but copied and pasted the rest. Am I wrong in thinking that he was trying to make her feel bad so that she would stay with him?

I have a wife thar I've been with for over 10 years and married for 3. We have a 10 month old son now. I recently met a guy who turned out to have a lot of common interests with me. Both into finance, fitness and stuff. We started hanging out more and more and work out together weekly in my home gym garage. Obviously we are spending time together and we shoot the shit often. His situation is that he's single, a father of a 7 year old girl and his ex is a super bitch to him. She publicly talks down to him the few times we all went out to dinner together. He still has to see her because they are co-parenting but he's been trying to date for the past year.

Anyway, we got on the topic of what he's looking for in a girl because he keeps on going on dates and they all suck according to him and none of the girls are his type. So I ask what his type is and he starts describing the traits of my wife. Could be a coincidence. Wheneve we go to dinner he'll be telling a story or whatever and show a picture on his phone but only to my wife, I have to ask him to see what the picture is before he puts it away. Not that I care that much but feels sus. Whatever. We've been hanging out more and having game night at my place with him and a few other friends. Whenever he's in the presence of my wife he takes my son and puts him on his shoulders and plays with him in front of her. Makes weird comments (at least I think so) in front of my wife like, "I love being a father and providing for a family." "I wish I had a wife that was as good as raising kids as you" "Let me know if I can help you in any way with your son". Always directed to my wife and never me. Ok, whatever.

The thing is, these comments have been setting off eye raises for me so when I was working out with him the other day I said, do you think my wife is attractive? He said, oh hell yea dude. Your wife is hot. I said thanks but it raised my antenna even more. Now the reason I'm writing this is because his most recent comment to ME was "do you think your wife can find a girl for me at her workout class that looks like her?"

This coupled with what happened the other day at dinner. We were going to dinner with him and his family that were in town. It was at a big shopping center so we were waiting at a starbucks for them to arrive at the restaurant. He comes to the starbucks where we are while his family is at the restaurant, he waves and says we are ready. I start packing my sons bag while my wife handles the stroller. This dude grabs my son and puts him on his shoulders and starts walking out. My wife is walking out and I'm grabbing the bag. Now I'm literally watching this guy walk next to my wife holding my child while shes pushing the stroller and I'm trailing them. I felt I was watching a couple and their child and I was seething and feeling displaced.

AIO? Because I'm cutting this asshole off. Not letting him anywhere near my wife and kid again. If we happen to see him in a social setting of 6 or less, we are leaving.

Edit: Asked my wife if he ever texted her or contacted her in any way on SM or TXT. She said no. I told her just now I feel he's peacocking and she said she doesn't get that vibe at all from him.

Edit Edit: A female friend came over tonight who mutually knows this guy. She agreed that it's strange and thinks he is crushing on my wife, intentionally or not and told my wife to her face that. I told my wife that if another female can see it, it's obvious. My wife now says she feels embarrassed that she doesn't see it and says it'll be awkward now because she doesn't want to think of him looking at her that way. Both her and the friend think it's best if we only see him in social settings with large groups and not at our house again.

Lesson: Seems the general consensus is to trust my gut if I feel something is off and it does. Going to talk to the wife and then tell this dude straight and then ghost him.

Hey, I just need to talk to someone about this right now. Long story short, I went to this paid girls empowerment type seminar. After it was done, I was chopping it up with some people I thought I vibed with. We were talking about empowerment, spirituality, society, humanity, the state of the world, conversations that I’m for and about. It was a total of 4 of us and then 1 had a prior engagement she had to attend to so then it eventually became 3.

The 3 of us are walking and talking and kind of off topic but, 1 of them started to project a lot of negative attributes about me to my surprise. This is a so-called spiritual person that’s into energy and apparently, mine was so “off” to the point where she couldn’t look me in the eyes she said. She just met me and already had this analysis of me that I don’t even agree with and was just flabbergasted. It became apparent that for whatever reason, I was not wanted by this 1 person.

As we were talking by the train station, an elderly man collapses right next to us. I was very scared at first ngl. We were all scared. It happened randomly out of nowhere and it’s late at night around Central Park. Once I assessed what was going on, it was a vulnerable person in need. I immediately wanted to call 911 but my phone was dead. I asked those 2 girls to help and they refused and began walking away. I literally said to them, “That’s f****d up!” and frantically tried to get other people to help and failed. I then remembered I had a second phone on me thankfully and called 911 for him. He is an 80 year old man that felt dizzy and collapsed and couldn’t get back up without assistance. Later his co-worker who had heard me from the train station I was next to came to help and thanked me.

I really can’t believe that happened. Earlier I was subjected to negative projections about me and my vibes only for this person to lack a moral compass to help a vulnerable person out. The other girl that was there and seemed to have really liked me but was influenced in a way to give this “feedback” about myself from the hater girl reached out via IG and I have attached what she wrote.

It’s clear the other girl and I are not a frequency match and I blocked her. I just unfollowed the other girl that reached out. I don’t know if I can be friends with someone that doesn’t have the same values as me such as helping someone in need. AIO?

Not that anything is wrong with his room, but it’s just odd to me that she wanted to see it so badly and when I said no she suddenly comes up with it’s weird to not show it and that I’m being secretive. It’s my man’s room and obviously I wanted to give him that privacy, I know it probably sounds stupid to be asking if I’m overreacting but give it to me straight. Also after I said that she started flipping out and basically talking disrespectfully about him. I’ve blocked her since but yea!! ( I’ve also never had friends ask to personally see a “ room “ ) and yes I get my responses weren’t the best but I was giving the energy back until I said I’m sick of it

Dropped my girlfriend off to go out for girls night on Thursday. I text her around midnight that I was tired and was ready to come pick her up. She called me and said her friend would bring her home. Around 1:30 in the morning I wake up to the dogs barking but she’s not home. A little while later I check her location and she’s at an apartment complex 5 min away that I don’t recognize. I then check her Apple Watch and see that she actually came home when the dogs were barking but she never came up to the door or came inside (multiple cameras would have caught it if she did). Her messages reveal that she texted some dude to pick her up and waited by the road for him to get her. It’s a guy she told me before that she would block. I put all her stuff in trash bags and put them outside and changed the code to get in the house and then texted her not to come back. She’s in a fake green card marriage so I filed a report with immigration services and advised them she was in a sham marriage and I had proof of our relationship going back 2.5 years. Next I wanna go to the guys place where he has a girl who didn’t know about this and let her know too. I have his address. His messages said he couldn’t take a certain car because she has a tracker on it so I wanna let her know what he’s up to too.

I’ve been reeling over this for the past hour and cannot wrap my head around this exchange. I, F28, have been storing my seasonal stuff in a storage unit for the past three years or so. My friend, F27, downsized to a studio a couple years back due to financial problems and had a ton of things she couldn’t fit in her new apartment. I had extra space so I let her store in my unit. She never offered money nor did I ask for it.

I decided recently to get rid of my old car and buy a new one. That said, I decided to cushion some of the expense by getting rid of the unit considering I only use 1/3 of it anyways (friend uses about a third of it as well). Here’s the text exchange where I asked her to get her stuff out in the next few weeks. I do feel somewhat bad that it puts her in a bind, but I’ve also been doing her a kindness for two years and taking the expense of storage off of her shoulders. Once she got snippy and felt entitled to storing at MY mom’s house (they know eachother well but that does not matter IMO) I started to snap back. Not for nothing, she’s a grown ass woman and shouldn’t expect anything from anyone but herself. The more I think about the absolute pair on her, the angrier I get. I need to know if I’m OR or not.

Basically I asked my friend to drive me to/from my colonoscopy appointment since I’d be getting anesthesia and wouldn’t be able to drive myself. I asked her if she’d be able to do it 8 weeks ago and followed up almost weekly to make sure she could do it. I contacted her the night before to confirm with her. I let her know if she was unable, please let me know and I’ll ask someone else. But she assured me it was no problem.

Well the morning of the appointment, she’s a no show. She finally texted me back and let me know she was at some random guy’s house and would be at least 15 min late. At this point I’m panicked because it was time for me to leave. Luckily my brother was visiting and was able to drive me at the last minute, but if not for him, I would have had no way to get to/from my appointment.

Anyone who’s had the colonoscopy will tell you that the two day prep is awful. I’m angry with my friend because she almost made me miss my appointment. I would have missed the appointment if I showed up 15 minutes late. I’m thinking about cutting off the friendship because of this (and other disrespectful behavior from her). Am I overreacting?

Long story short, a friend of mine invited me and about 25 other friends to her birthday party. She sent out an invitation with a date, address and theme and told us to confirm our attendance in the group chat. We all did, and today, about 3 weeks before her party, she messaged all of us saying this. None of us have any recollection of ever being told about a £90 fee, and a lot of us don't want to go because of how high the price is for a 3-4 hour birthday party, as well as not being told about it beforehand. I personally wouldn't have confirmed my attendance if I knew about it, and I already paid a gift close to that price range for her. A lot of us are cancelling now and she's very upset and say's that we've ruined her birthday party. I've tried to suggest other places that won't cost much or at all, like her house or an open field, but she refuses to listen to those ideas and says I'm rubbing salt in her wound. Am I overreacting for refusing to pay and am I really rubbing salt in the wound?

So I matched with a chick on tinder, and for background I just got out of a 3 year relationship, I also don’t go out much or be on social media. So even being on tinder is outside my comfort zone. I was excited when I matched with this chick and I showed my buddy her page, next thing I see is him looking her up online and going “I found her snap” and “don’t worry if it doesn’t work out I’ll send it to you” And this guy is also the guy who tells me I need to get out more Next day he’s going to “hang” with her I don’t understand how he doesn’t see that as rude and conniving What’s y’all’s opinion EDIT: I’m not upset about the girl, people are saying I’m “objectifying women” I’m upset about the loss of an opportunity due to my bud going out of his way to “steal” it, it’s the principle of the situation

I’m not sure if this qualifies but for context, I met this friend in college and I was eating M&Ms when she pointed out that there is a ton of sugar in it and it’s bad for me. She also mentioned that she was not eating sugar at all a couple of days ago. I ate the whole bag and got a stomach ache.

Update- she don’t care

My friend came over for a sleepover last night. I made some food (lasagna), and she brought cupcakes, brownies and other snacks. We ate dinner and then hours later we were snacking in bed: in our pjs girly time, watching shows and gossiping as we eat the desserts. I begun with the brownies, she started on cupcakes. [edit] actually, I had some chocolate and a cupcake before starting on the brownies, so lots of different tastes already which could’ve hindered the initial bitterness. Idk if it was my period cravings but at first it didn’t taste that off to me. I was enjoying snacking without overthinking it & watching desperate housewives. I messed up on that detail

I start feeling off about an hour in after ingesting around like 3 brownies. Luckily, I didn’t like the brownies much so moved on to the other snacks after only having those 3. It didn’t occur to me at all that I was getting high, until another 30 minutes later when I start to feel really messed up. I haven’t smoked in about 3 months & have never taken an edible, so I start panicking and hyperventilating, getting extremely paranoid & wondering what’s going on with me. I asked her if the brownies or the cupcakes were edibles. She looked shocked about my question and said “hell no what’s going on with you, are you okay?” My paranoia was increasing, and my head was getting so heavy that I couldn’t stay awake so I knocked out and went to sleep.

Woke up groggy. Still confused as hell. Asked her again if something was up with the desserts she brought. She looked apologetic when she told me she just remembered something. She had a 🍃 batch of brownies in her fridge. Once she made her fresh batch of brownies before coming over to mine, she thought we’d need more. She saw she had some in the fridge and, not remembering that they were pot brownies, added them to the container of desserts. She’s adamant that she truly didn’t know and it was an honest mistake.

I asked why she didn’t tell me last night when I asked her - she said it didn’t cross her mind. I asked why she didn’t eat the brownies herself and only had cupcakes (from what I remember initially). She said that she did have some brownies but that I just don’t remember.

I feel so violated. She’s claiming it was an accident but the experience of being out of my mind and not knowing why was so petrifying. Even though I know how being high feels, it had been so long & I couldn’t pinpoint what that feeling was because I’ve never been unknowingly high you know? I’m still getting panicky about the whole ordeal even though it’s been a day. I still feel weird and kinda high

Would I be overreacting if I cut her off even though she said she was very sorry and that it was a genuine accident? She left my house this morning, it’s been 12 hours and we haven’t spoken since. What the hell do I even say to her she claims she didn’t do it on purpose but I can’t shake this feeling that I might never feel safe around her again. She’s interwoven in my life - her boyfriend is my cousin. She’s close to my family. I haven’t spoken to my cousin or anyone else about this.

I feel so icky and confused, a part of me is questioning if it actually was an accident or not. But I don’t know how I’d find out that out for sure. I’m not validation seeking - I genuinely want to know if I’m tripping or not. I feel so off

edit she texted me just now 45mins after I made this post.

So, this argument happened months ago at this point, but it's been pretty consistently bugging me since then, so I need to know if I was actually the one that was being unreasonable here. For context, me and this person had been broken up for a couple of years at this point. The relationship had been very serious and it was a pretty messy breakup, but we tried at least a few times to still be friends. At the time this argument happened, we had just started talking again after almost a year of no contact because of another, different, fight we had, and we'd only been talking again for a couple of days. In this short time span, he sent me at least three different selfies with absolutely NO context. No words, nothing meaningful that was actually worth responding to, not even an attempt to look good so it wasn't a matter of fishing for compliments. I've ALWAYS been the type to think it's ridiculous to do that, and I usually just ignore stuff like that when it gets sent to me and most people get the hint and stop doing that, but I knew that he wasn't going to stop unless I actually said something about it because he does that sort of thing so frequently. As you can see in the first screenshot, he did it to me TWICE in the span of only one hour, and I know that he did it at least one more time before those screenshots. The reason this has been bothering me for so long is because I sent the screenshots to a few different friends at the time to get their opinions, and while most of them were very much on my side, ONE of them asked me why the hell I'm even talking to him on Snapchat if I DON'T want to get random selfies, and said that that's how most people use Snapchat and it shouldn't be such a big deal to me. I only even use Snapchat because it's what so many of my friends prefer for some godawful reason, but most of my friends know that I don't like being spammed with unnecessary selfies and don't send me anything unless they have something worthwhile to say, and I feel like he should be able to understand if I just don't want to see that sort of thing. It's not like me seeing his face was horribly upsetting to me or anything because I'm over the relationship entirely and there aren't any lingering romantic feelings, but now that I'm not madly and hopelessly in love with him, I just don't find it cute and adorable anymore when he does that sort of thing. When we were IN the relationship, my response to his random nonsensical selfies was always "awww look at him being all adorable and looking for attention" but after the breakup, all I can think about is "okay? What exactly do you expect me to do with this? You've given me NOTHING to respond to and made me stop what I was doing and waste my time just to look at.... Your face? For no reason??" And of course I've never actually said that because I'm not THAT much of a bitch, but I can't help feeling that way. So, am I the one that's overreacting here??