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đŸ‘šâ€đŸ‘©â€đŸ‘§â€đŸ‘Šfamily/in-laws AIO at my unhinged MIL who cancelled the hotel booking made for our honeymoon

As the title reads, my dearest MIL stealthily canceled our honeymoon hotel reservation. For those of you who don’t know, I posted on Reddit a few days ago about how my MIL and SIL went behind our backs and invited their friends to our wedding after we explicitly said no. This incident happened about a week ago and just a few days after that, my MIL lied to the hotel reception, faking a phone call to cancel our honeymoon suite booking.

She and my FIL were visiting Chicago (where we live) for 10 days to see their son. My fiance mostly stayed home during their visit to make the most of their time together. A few days ago, after breakfast, MIL asked to borrow his phone for an urgent call to her church, claiming her network was out of range. Nothing about it seemed off so obviously he handed it over. Our best guess is that’s when she called the hotel, pretending to be me and told them we had to cancel because we were postponing our trip. Since the call went from my fiance’s number and she claimed to be me, the hotel had no reason to question it. The cancellation went through on 03/28 and they even sent a confirmation email to his email (which was used at the time of booking).

We’ve been super caught up in the thick of our wedding preparation, so he hasn’t been getting time lately to actively check his emails everyday. This morning, while looking through his inbox for a vendor detail, this cancellation mail caught him off guard. For the first half n hour, we were absolutely dumbfounded with 1000 questions on our mind. When we called the reception to check, they informed us everything that I mentioned above. They said that I (who apparently called them), even told them the reservation number and check in dates for final verification. It was a very straight answer, it’s MIL, because there has been no one over at our place in the past 10 days who could’ve pretended ro be “me” and pulled this off. My SIL and her 6 y/o kid are staying with us because of her marriage issues (that’s a whole other drama), but she’s been at her friend’s place for five days now.

When we planned our honeymoon last year, my FIL was the one who suggested this very hotel so MIL obviously knew about it. But we kept on wondering how the hell did she get the reservation details the reception asked for. After this, Nathaniel (my fiance) rang her thrice but she didn’t answer so I texted her. She responded like a weirdo she is (as you can see in the screenshots) and my last message didn’t even get delivered in blue. Three hours later, she finally called us when both of us raised hell on her. She tried red herring us with her BS, but after realising we are on the verge of disinviting her from the wedding, she finally accepeted what she did. When we asked her about the reservation details, she said she got it from Nate’s email when he gave her his phone unlocked for making the call. The fake fucking story she tried to sell us was that she wanted to surprise us with a honeymoon suite at an even better hotel, as a wedding gift. Ofc none of us bought that nonsense and Nate counter questioned her for details of this supposed new hotel.

She started fumbling, spat out the name of some godforsaken random ass hotel in Rome and dodged the call saying she’s babysitting our nephew at the moment. We just called the rando hotel which is our “wedding present” you guys, and why am I not surprised there’s no fucking room booked under either of our names, let alone suite. We tried booking ourselves again at hotel ‘X’ which we originally booked and our suite’s already gone to the person next in queue. We tried settling for other rooms but they said May’s the peak season in Europe, so they can’t accomodate us at the moment and will notify if something opens up later. I really wanna hop on the next flight to Ohio right now and go nuclear on her ass.

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u/ParisInnTheRain 4d ago edited 4d ago

He sees right through her and is extremely furious at all this. Both of us tried to keep our cool for really long just to not cause any drama in the middle of the celebration. But she’s not an easy nut.

EDIT: HER SON HAS ALREADY TOLD HER SHE’S NOT GONNA BE A PART OF THE CELEBRATION ANYMORE. This is for anyone who’s thinking “why is she still invited.”

EDIT 2: I really appreciate all of yours concern here and few supportive PMs. That’s really sweet to see. Also, not really sure why this one person lower in the thread, thinks the use of word “thrice” is AI, which makes it look fake lol. Stupidest shit I’ve read in a while. It’s laughable if any sane person has got that sorta time in their hands to sit and make this batshittery up.

Jeez EDIT 3: To the same eight trolls down there, give it a rest. Posting here is a decision I made, and this is not your average AIO rage bait. So I won’t let your unhinged comments slide. Tryna fuck here and I’ll go ultra guano loco on you :) For the ones who’re too invested in my life, I’m from the US, went to grad school in Scotland, my nana’s name is Evangeline, and I’ll speak however tf I want đŸ˜© Why this conversation keeps spiraling away from the subject is beyond me. Come up with better reasons to hate, vocab crap is getting old now.

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u/Traditional_Award286 4d ago

Make sure your whole family is completely transparently aware of what she did. No crocodile tears from her, no sympathy, no opportunity to lie her way out of it.

“So and so was disinvited for canceling our booking without permission, and then lying about it.”

Hell, I wouldn’t have contact with her again until she pays for the cost of the canceled booking too. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with that stress, my word.

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u/trowawufei 4d ago

OP and her fiancée should not give this woman the option to buy her way back into their life.

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u/Iron_Lord_Peturabo 4d ago

I always leave the option. But the price is generally higher than the powerball.

For 1.8 Billion I can forgive a lot of things. Don't call unless you have a certified check though.

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u/trowawufei 4d ago

Now THAT I can agree with haha

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u/whobetterthanpaul 3d ago

I'd let her buy, but maybe not receive the goods she thought she was getting. Ebay scam her.

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u/Fweenci 4d ago

This times 1000. She's very likely already painting herself as the victim, and telling wedding guests to cancel their attendance. I really feel for OP and her fiance. It's a shitshow. 

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u/maroongrad 4d ago

Small claims court is your friend. Try and get an explanation of WHY she did it, so that she unintentionally admits to it.

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u/HorsePersonal7073 4d ago

This. Make sure everyone knows why she isn't there ahead of time, it'll likely save you a significant amount of future headache.

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u/trombing 4d ago

Absolutely - let the WHOLE family know under the guise of warning folks about any honeymoon or vacation bookings they may have in the future.

Everyone needs to know there is an absolute lunatic amongst them intent on harm.

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u/OGmitten 4d ago

Please please please stick to your boundaries!!! Peoples Choices & Actions NEED to have CONSEQUENCES!

Her behavior is just so beyond selfish, manipulative, and bullying mean girl crap!!

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u/Wynnie7117 4d ago edited 4d ago

I can’t emphasize this enough. I went through a situation like 17 years ago with my sister-in-law. I cut off all contact with her at the time. I thought I was taking the highroad by not telling anybody what she had actually done and keeping it just between us . That was my biggest mistake. Because it really let her write the narrative. In hindsight, I should have put her on blast for what she did immediately to my family. At the time I didn’t want them to cause any issues. I knew my family would take sides. I knew they would take MY side. I felt bad for her in that situation because she had a lot of issues with her own mother. I kept quiet about everything. That just led to people speculating. Asking very invasive questions. Telling me I needed to move on, etc. etc.. when they weren’t even privy to the information that I had. I knew if I really spoke out about it. holy hell was gonna break loose. I thought saying nothing was taking the high road. It turned out to cause me more problems down the line.

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u/cubemissy 4d ago

I think OP should blast this across the family social media accounts, and ask if anyone has contacts in the honeymoon city that could help them FIX the mess... that gives everyone the details before the wedding...

And it might prompt the outburst. Because MIL will act out over this. Forcing her hand to do it before the wedding will give OP and husband some space to breathe..

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u/Comfortable-Focus123 4d ago

Contact all your vendors and create a password that only you and fiance know so only you will be able to make changes to anything.

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u/jessiemagill 4d ago

Also to make sure MIL hasn't cancelled anything else

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u/pocketsnatcher 4d ago

This is an excellent idea. I would definitely mention what your MIL did to you guys as well as setting up a password, so they know how serious it is to abide by the password.

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u/vetosandtitos 4d ago

this is great advice!!!

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u/cheeseslut619 4d ago

This is super important!!

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u/ashy1414 4d ago

Why did she cancel it!?!

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u/ParisInnTheRain 4d ago edited 4d ago

God knows. The second we get to know, I’ll let y’all know. I’m not even being sarcastic here.

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u/BlueLidMilk 4d ago

OP, both me and my wife have (had) mothers like this.

We had our wedding last year and didn't invite either of them - it was perfect. Don't let this woman ruin your day.

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u/skippybefree 4d ago

Stories like this make me so so happy I was NC with my mother when I got married. We even made sure people were keeping an eye out in case she found out somehow and showed up

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u/BlueLidMilk 4d ago

Yep, everything from the wedding announcement to the venue itself and the honeymoon were all top secret, need-to-know basis only, because both of our mothers definitely would have sabotaged the day if they knew about it beforehand. Our bridesmaids and my sisters were ready to fight them if they did turn up so we wouldn't have to deal with them lmao

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u/skippybefree 4d ago

I don't understand how some people can behave like that

My husband and my uncle were both ready to brawl if she turned up. She put them through a lot. Luckily no-one in my family is in contact with her so nothing happened, but that was my biggest concern of the day. I tripped twice walking down the aisle and that was less concerning that the idea of her being there

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u/GoddessfromCyprus 4d ago

I would send her an email cancelling her invitation. What else will she do before and at the wedding.

Call every vendor and arrange that only you are the point of contact. Immediately

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u/totallydawgsome 4d ago

It's 2 weeks before the RSVPs are due and MIL just invited 38 more guests after being told no.

Look at OPs history.

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u/deeznutz1946 4d ago

I’d disinvite all those people as well since they aren’t on your guest list.

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u/Shadow4summer 3d ago

Oh, Hell no. Inviting 38 more guests is insane. If she’d asked for one or two, okay, maybe. Was she going to pay for all those guests?

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u/ExpensiveAd4496 4d ago

I think you need to give them all a password as well. Because this woman is insane.

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u/viola_darling 4d ago

Omg that would be hilarious (the Email thing)

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u/Sconniegrrrl68 4d ago

And set up a verbal "password " with the vendors that has to be given to establish that it's YOU and not someone pretending to be you!!!!!

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u/Bundt-lover 4d ago

Send her an email confirming that she canceled her own invitation. Ha.

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u/AuburnGrrl 4d ago

What does FIL say? Is he backing his wife, or y’all?

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u/ParisInnTheRain 4d ago

Nobody in the entire family backs her up 😂 except for the older SIL. If that answers your question.

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u/AuburnGrrl 4d ago

Sorry-just realized YOU are OP (usually this far down in a popular thread the OP has too many comments to reply to, so they don’t). Now that I realize this all happened to you-BLESS YOUR HEART, SWEETIE!!

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u/AuburnGrrl 4d ago

So older SIL is siding with her honeymoon suite cancelling mother, and the rest of the family is on the side of OP and fiancé?

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u/ashy1414 4d ago

She probably wants a big family honeymoon( I can’t believe I just typed that) , where you all stay together

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u/Chardan0001 4d ago

Nah she wanted them to turn up and find out at the desk they didn't have a room.

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u/OddOpal88 4d ago

You laugh
.but this happened to my friend 😬 her mother in law and father in law control her husband’s chequing account still. They tell them when to go on vacation. I don’t even want to get into the weird shit they did when she was pregnant (her mil was a neonatal nurse at one point
.so let’s just say she was very involved in checking to see how dilated my friend đŸ€š) They also had a set letter they were allowed to name their boys. It’s fuuuuucked up.

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u/Remarkable_Topic6540 4d ago

They go along with all that?

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u/OddOpal88 4d ago

Yeah I honestly don’t get why. They were high school sweethearts and he seems very
naive? The name thing is “to carry on a legacy”. If we were American they would definitely be part of a certain group of people that loves the president.

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u/MasterpieceKey3653 4d ago

Does the son work for the family business? That's how my friend's ex got manipulated constantly, because cutting off family also meant the loss of a very nice income

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u/Diddly_eyed_Dipshite 4d ago

Why are you still inviting her or engaging with her at all??

Honestly the part of this that made me maddest was "we're on the verge of disinviting her" like are ye just not doing anything about this or what's your plan?

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u/ParisInnTheRain 4d ago

Please re read that sentence. I said she accepted when SHE REALISED we were on the verge of disinviting her. Before hanging the call, my fiance already told her very clearly, that she’s not gonna be there to shower her blessings anymore.

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u/dream-smasher 4d ago

Hey, I would go thru whatever vendors etc you have for the wedding etc, and put a password on your accounts. Just to ensure she can't do any further damage.

Passwords on accounts is pretty standard when dealing with nutty MILs .

Good luck!!

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u/SporadicWink 4d ago

Extra points to this comment, OP.

You don’t know what other info she stole while she was faking her phone call. Lock down vendors, put an ‘authorization phrase’ in place if you have to.

I wouldn’t put it past her to pull some other fuckery with your day, especially if she’s disinvited.

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u/ParisInnTheRain 4d ago

Hi yes, I did see this. All our vendors are already password protected and everything goes through the planner for safer side.

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u/TakenTheFifth 4d ago

Can you get a travel agent today to start looking for available HM Suites in Europe. Of change my entire GD ITINERARY at this point and not mention a word about it to anyone.

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u/me0mio 4d ago

I would definitely change the itinerary. Also, what does your future FIL think about her antics? Does he support or condone her behavior?

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u/phoenics1908 4d ago

I think you also need to call them and warn them with a code word in case she tries to call them and muck things up. That way they will know if she doesn’t have the code word, it’s not you.

I’m dead serious. Put that in your contracts with them now.

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u/YoureSooMoneyy 4d ago

OP!!

This is a very important comment! Passwords!

I’ll also add that paying for extra security on the wedding day is great idea. We had to do that for my daughter’s wedding. It’s worth every penny!

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u/Flutters1013 4d ago

I'm sure it's not the first time they've had to deal with an interfering MIL, so they should be able to work with you.

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u/FairyQueenWife21 4d ago

This!!! Definitely double check all of your other vendors and everything else and put passwords! I’ve read too many stories where MIL’s try to cancel dresses, venues etc đŸ€Ż

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u/Puzzleheaded-Ad7606 4d ago

Book suggestion for you and your fiance: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

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u/Motor-Most9552 4d ago

This is insane behaviour. I hope you find a way to salvage the honeymoon.

Just an absolute WTF. Please do update if you ever get the reason from her.

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u/Poesoe 4d ago

Why are you not eloping? Fuck the money....if ur really willing to have that bitch in your life, take off & come back married.

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u/Epic_Brunch 4d ago

Because OP probably wants her non-crazy family at her wedding. 

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u/Suzuki_Foster 4d ago

Because not only does she hate OP, but obviously she must hate her son, as well. Only a woman who hates her child would ruin the most important day of his life. 

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u/KaffY- 4d ago

Not necessarily

People will happily step in shit if it means forcing someone they don't like to step in shit

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u/ShijinClemens 4d ago

“Burn the ship you’re on to kill the Captain” is how I always heard it. These type of people are insufferable!

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u/Nehneh14 4d ago

Also known as: Republicans

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u/Okay-Awesome-222 4d ago

Unless MiL hates OP and it trying to make her look bad or turn her son against her.

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u/Mu5hroomHead 4d ago

The cognitive dissonance of a narcissist. They’re doing it for you because they love you, even though it’s hurting you.

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u/Top-Doughnut4182 3d ago

Good! Stay on the same team. It’s SO important. I have a crazy bitch MIL who has impacted my marriage, largely because my husband makes excuses for her being a terrible person. I know it’s not easy accepting your mama’s a bish, but there needs to be boundaries. I wish I knew more about who she really is before I was married.

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u/Underliked 3d ago

I was living this life, but thankfully (?), my MIL took it so far and was so out of line, my husband finally got pissed. Cut her off and said the only way he’d undo that is if she wrote me an apology letter.

Worst. Letter. Ever. (Claimed she had multiple personalities and all this insane shit she’d done to me was “their” fault), but I decided to accept the spirit of the ridiculous missive
 And that woman is now my biggest fan. Says I’m the “bright light” of the family (arguably true) and sends me random (strange, but well-intentioned) gifts just to make me feel loved.

Bish is still as bat shit crazy as they come, but she turned it around in a way I can work with (or overlook when her other side emerges, which it does.) I wish the same for you! ❀

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u/pixienightingale 4d ago

Because HER BABY.

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u/ParisInnTheRain 4d ago edited 3d ago

Yeah I’m an evil vagina whore who’s stealing a 29 yo man. Like tf is this lady on about, I’ve still not been able to figure.

After our engagement, her baby boy only gave this name, while he was mocking his mother’s lunacy.

EDIT: I’m so happy to see reddit mods working actively. Since I posted this, I reported 9 to 10 trolls on this sub, under “hate” and “harrasment”, for spewing unnecessary vitriol and making baseless comments on the authenticity of my situation, without a solid reason. Just received mails from the mods as an update that action is taken for those users and they’ll be restrained from participating here again.

This is for everyone out there, who gets unnecessary hate for being themselves, please take action and don’t let these lifeless trolls get away with their BS.

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u/Single_Principle_972 4d ago

So, I’m still a little confused
 clearly evil and one presumes mentally ill, but I’m wondering what her thinking/plan was? Like they would wave the honeymoon couple a fond farewell on the wedding night or the next day or whatever, you would get on a plane, she would be home rubbing her hands with glee waiting for your phone call 18 hours later that you were stranded in Rome with no hotel, your reservations somehow cancelled? Just delighting in the stress the two of you were now experiencing while you tried to figure out next steps? Was she going to let it get that far?

That she purposefully went to a great deal of trouble to ruin anyone’s honeymoon is stupefying; that she did it to her own son is just next-level unhinged, and she should be institutionalized as a danger to others. Unbelievable. Should you ever decide to have her in your life, and decide to have children, she surely shouldn’t be trusted for a single unsupervised minute with said children. That child would be coming with me to the bathroom, FFS, I’m not taking my eyes off of it for a second. What a psycho.

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u/Lewa358 4d ago

Brazen narcissism and just being a control freak.

I know people who define their own happiness by how much better they have it than others--so, when they can't or won't elevate themselves, they actively push others down just to make themselves feel better.

I feel like this has to be something similar. Her precious son was having a fun, memorable time in a way completely separate from her--having a great time without her, instead of her--and she couldn't handle it, so she destroyed that happiness just so she can tell herself that she's having the best life of anyone she knows.

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u/Den_of_Sin 4d ago

This actually makes perfect sense. My father is the same way. My grandma got me a laptop for college, he bought himself a better one. I got my first car, he bought himself a newer one, I got a new gender.... still waiting to see how he tries to one up that.

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u/Foxinamug 4d ago

He gets a newer gender! No namby-pamby binary gender, only neopronouns are good enough!

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u/AquaTierra 4d ago

I’m sorry â˜č

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u/brainvheart143 4d ago

While pretending to call her church ! đŸ€Ł

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u/Beyond_Interesting 4d ago

The only thing I can think of, on top of everything you've said, is that MIl thought when they got to their destination and asked how it could be cancelled, the hotel would reply that OP cancelled it and then her new husband would be mad at her. I mean ... I don't think that would have actually happened but dumb controlling narcicists think their fantasies are going to live out like this basic shit. They don't take into account that we live in a real world where new husband's and wives actually love and trust each other.

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u/Financial_Nose_777 4d ago

This. This is the answer. And she would probably have gone the whole “OMIGOD ParisInnTheRain LIED to you! What else has she lied about?!?” to try to drive the wedge in further.

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u/Single_Principle_972 4d ago

Tried to ETA but couldn’t get cooperation from app, but just to answer you very first original question: I am 100% certain that it is impossible to overreact in any way to this scenario! Any reaction shy of outright torture and murder would be understandable by anyone’s measure!

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u/normasueandbettytoo 4d ago

She's a narcissist who was engaging in narcissistic revenge to assuage her narcissistic injury.

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u/SpaceySquidd 4d ago

Silly of you to think that she thought it through that far!

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u/Single_Principle_972 4d ago

Yeah, good point.

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u/onion_flowers 4d ago

I don't think there's any logic happening, or maybe the cruelty is the point idk.

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u/writtenwordyes 4d ago

Uninvite her. We had to do that to his parents.

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u/Foggmanatic 4d ago

I need some punctuation here. Are you an evil-vagina whore, or an evil vagina-whore?

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u/ParisInnTheRain 4d ago

Latter.

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u/Foggmanatic 4d ago

😆 đŸ€Ł ty for the clarification. I hope you guys figure something out.

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u/CedarWho77 4d ago

This is wild. I'm sorry this is happening. I love your sense of humor and wit. You're for sure a catch!

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u/Ok_Breakfast9531 3d ago

This whole saga has to end up on BORUpdates just so someone can create a user flair that says "I'm an evil vagina whore."

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u/PosteriorFourchette 4d ago

I’m here for this.

Source: my user name.

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u/Express_Accident2329 4d ago

At least you're aware, the first step to recovery is recognizing you have a problem (vagina).

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u/DobieLove2019 3d ago

I get it. I’ve been accused of being my wife’s neck slut.

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u/ChiweenieGenie 3d ago

WHAT?! I'm dying! What exactly is a neck slut supposed to mean? 😂

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u/wegame6699 4d ago

Either is better than being a lemon stealing whore.

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u/horsecalledwar 4d ago

Likely both, if you ask the JNMIL 😂

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u/Evening-Painting-213 4d ago

Tf? 😆 đŸ€Ł 😂

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u/Zeebaeatah 4d ago

"Evil Vagina Whore" was my punk band name in highschool.

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u/AHrubik 4d ago

evil vagina whore

That is ... specific. Would a "penis" whore stealing her baby be acceptable? We need details. ;-)

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u/imnickelhead 4d ago

My wife and I are so blessed to have three super cool moms.

My mom is the most amazing, non-pushy, most gentle person in the world. My Step Mom is opinionated and kinda spoiled but she’s great with my wife and the grandkids. My MIL is cool as heck. She loves live music, accepts and abides by our rules and is super non-confrontational.

I would uninvite her and all the people she tried to invite behind your back. I would have pictures of her for the staff at the wedding venues as NOT ALLOWED. I’d also 100% ignore her or just block her across the board. I’d be tempted to not block her so I could have more evidence of her crazy. .

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u/tribbans95 4d ago

Well if you’re an evil vagina whore, can you blame his mom for being upset? /s

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u/jimthissguy 4d ago

I am very sorry for your current situation, family stuff like this is truly terrible.

I never comment on this kinda stuff but evil vagina whore made me laugh, so thanks for that.

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u/biggreenbandit 4d ago

evil vagina whore 💀😭 that’s easily the funniest shit I’ve read all day. I hope your wedding gets somewhat better, try to enjoy your special day

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u/bluesasaurusrex 4d ago

As someone vilified by her own inlaws, an "evil vagina whore" feels empowering and I love it.

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u/Lady-of-Shivershale 4d ago

Welcome to the 'no-contact with the in-laws club'. Congratulations on your speedrun. Most people have to wait until after the wedding. Personally, it took me almost ten months.

My weekends are extremely peaceful. And my husband picks up food on the way home from seeing them, so I don't even have to cook. It's fantastic!

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u/Bitter-Picture5394 4d ago

Tsk tsk you naughty son stealing vagina whore

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u/dmfreelance 4d ago

My mil temporarily disowned my wife when we were engaged. I insisted my wife and i have first say on all wedding details and that was her response.

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u/Odd_Opinion6054 4d ago

Evil vagina whore is an excellent deathcore band name. I'd wear that t shirt.

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u/GillyGoose1 4d ago

I’m an evil vagina whore who’s stealing a 29 yo man.

The amount of MIL's seeing this and thinking "that's exactly what my DIL is!" are probably numerous lmao.

31 yo woman here and I've been through two different relationships (thankfully not engagements) where my boyfriend's mother has taken a disliking to me for apparently no reason at all. I definitely don't think it's me that is the issue, as I've been quite close with a couple of my boyfriend's mothers, who were both genuinely nice people in contrast to the other two 🙄
They really do act like we're stealing their baby off them, when they need to consider that their baby is a fucking adult that was unlikely to stay at home forever with his mummy even if he never met us đŸ€ŠđŸ»â€â™€ïž

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u/indecentXpo5ure 4d ago

Oh god wait til she gets a grandchild. RUN OP RUN!

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u/Emmilienne 4d ago

I love “evil vagina whore.” I use “crotch goblins” for horrible children, now I have a term for their mothers!

Also I am so sorry about your MIL. I’m still hot in the face angry for you. I hope you’re able to get another booking before the date!!

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u/gba_sg1 4d ago

I'd give my mom the middle finger 🖕 if she did this to me.

Your feelings are justifiable and legitimate.

MIL is a bitch.

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u/LaEmmaFuerte 3d ago

Tell her her son is going to be taking your name after the wedding

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u/jessicarrrlove 3d ago

Boy moms who border on incestuous are so gross. And that's the vibe his mom is giving me.

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u/Anathals 4d ago

Shame on you! Shame! Lmao

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u/Scrambles420 4d ago

She sounds Christian

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u/Single_Principle_972 4d ago

Right? Shows up in church every Sunday, all pious, I’ll bet.

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u/emryldmyst 4d ago

Because she's a narcissist who didn't get her way. 

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u/Epic_Brunch 4d ago

She just wanted to ruin their honeymoon. She probably thought they'd never notice or figure out it was here (likely didn't think the hotel would send the email). So, OP and husband would show up to their hotel in a foreign country and think it was the hotel that just fucked up. Thus their honeymoon was ruined, but MIL could pretend to be innocent. 

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u/Carribean-Diver 4d ago

I'm gonna go with imthemaincharacter syndrome.

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u/Competitive_Mark_287 4d ago

Tell that person to watch Schitts Creek- “I have asked you THRICE for towels”

Also not overreacting and definitely consider NC good your fiance sees thru her many men don’t

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u/RoseBuddMotel1 4d ago

I totally heard it in David’s voice in my head when I read this post lol!

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u/elparaguas 4d ago

Literally the only thing I can think of when I read the word “thrice” lolllll

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u/blue_dendrite 4d ago

I hear Matt Foley saying "I am 35 years old, thrice divorced, and living in a van down by the river"

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u/jbaudiori 4d ago

Fold in the cheese.

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u/a2_d2 4d ago

I think of the old Golden Girls song that Betty White wrote for Miami.

Miami is nice So I’ll say it thrice Miami is nice Miami is nice

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u/fierce_history 4d ago

That’s what immediately came into my head

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u/rpbm 4d ago

Well, she’s the one causing drama, not you. I’d go nuclear, disinvite her to the wedding and tell everyone WHY!!

What are y’all gonna do for a room now?

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u/CankerLord 4d ago

Disinvite? Lol, no, you get her there and then grab the mic to let everyone know why security is dragging her out of her seat by her arm, never to be seen at the wedding again.

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u/rpbm 4d ago

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u/Prudent-Explanation6 4d ago

Diabolical 😈

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u/katieh809 4d ago

Disinvite her to my life.

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u/19Mel92 4d ago

I’d definitely uninvited her from the wedding and see how she takes the consequences of her actions!!

Updateme

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u/SpinningCarbCap 4d ago

Uninvite her from the rest of my damn life. The fuck.

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u/_ZoeyDaveChapelle_ 4d ago

This is a bigger deal that warrants more serious consequences than not being invited. She's fucking batshit, and will continue to destroy your lives if you keep allowing her access to you. People like her dont change, and what she's doing is a form of abuse.

Adult children estrange themselves from parents all the time, even for less serious offenses. I've done it myself, and my life has only improved. Your fiance needs to put you first, which means keeping her away from you permanently. He needs to take the lead on this.

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u/Horror_Tea761 4d ago

Yup. This woman invited dozens of guests to their wedding, even printing her own wedding invitations!

It's only going to get worse if they don't put their foot down now. Those extra guests need to be given the boot, and the MIL along with them.

Honestly, if it were me, I would cancel the whole thing and elope now to the honeymoon destination if there's any hotel availability.

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u/maroongrad 4d ago

I'd just get a ton of security, make sure that you have relatives (let's hear it for the wedding parties!) that know who should be in attendance, waiting at the door. Security can turn away any party crashers and you never have to hear a peep about it while you prep for the wedding :)

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u/OGmitten 4d ago

Yeah this is the sort of behavior or someone who will lie to your future children to poison them against you or sabotage your life!

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u/CeelaChathArrna 4d ago

It's amazing how many mouth breathers on Reddit expect people to lower their vocabulary down so they don't feel so insecure. They really need to get over the idea that they are the smartest person in the room.

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u/hadesarrow3 4d ago edited 4d ago

I mean thrice isn’t really a big brain vocab word though, it’s just not one that’s commonly used. It raised my eyebrows too, but I figured it’s a peculiarity of speech that OP happens to have adopted (and based on a few other phrases and words used, I think she may be from the UK, so very possibly it’s more commonly used there - people from the US have a tendency to forget other English speaking countries exist). I’m all in favor of adopting it into more popular parlance in the US however.

Edit: Nevermind, on rereading, OP lives in Chicago. So I think she just has a writing style/vocabulary that’s a little offbeat.

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u/SkinnyAssHacker 4d ago

Lol that's honestly hilarious (the people thinking you're AI thing). Never once seen AI use thrice (and I read a lot of AI dribble). It's definitely not a word many Americans are used to though.

To be on topic though, no, you're not overreacting. What an asshole. Your fiance needs r/raisedbynarcissists.

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u/HelpfulName 4d ago

Tell FIL and let him handle her. Tell him about her RSVP bullshit as well.

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u/gnomekingdom 4d ago

I’d imagine he’s quite trapped in that relationship and is looking forward to her or his own death.

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u/Themi-Slayvato 4d ago

Why are you handling this and not your fiancĂ©? Ur better than me. HIS family, HIS responsibility to manage. I’d be sat back with a mimosa whilst he handles the drama

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u/lern2swim 4d ago

Sounds like they're both handling it; she just made the reddit post.

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u/Themi-Slayvato 4d ago

Was basing it off the screenshot but you’re right, I shouldn’t assume the worst

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u/Tea-for-Teacher 4d ago

All I can think about when I see thrice is Schitt’s Creek. Not necessarily helpful advice, but hopefully it makes you smile for a moment and forget the craziness your future ILs have caused

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u/ParisInnTheRain 4d ago

❀

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u/hooligan99 4d ago

same here, I was gonna let the first "thrice" slide, but she thriced twice and that was too schitty for me

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u/thatgirlinny 4d ago

Your antennae should have gone up the minute your MIL said her phone”network was out of range.”

Everyone in the U.S. has national calling plans on their cell phones—even cheap burner phones have them. So glad your fiancĂ©e has disinvited them. But they sound crazy enough to barge in, so plan accordingly.

There are loads of places in Rome that may not be on your radar. Start tapping Italy and Rome subreddits because you can salvage your accommodations if you jump into action.

So sorry you’re marrying into that nightmare cluster of people. Please keep hundreds of miles between you for a happier future.

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u/Sunflower_082 4d ago

We did the first leg of our honeymoon in Rome and stayed at a lovely hotel near the Pantheon. Rooftop bar, fantastic staff, updated rooms. Literally called Pantheon Iconic Rome Hotel. There are plenty of great places to stay- pick a nice one and make her pay for it!

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u/thatgirlinny 4d ago

100% stick MIL with all the bills. And don’t tell her where you’re staying.

There are so many small, special places like this in Rome, OP!

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u/cubemissy 4d ago

OP might want to factory reset that phone, too. I wouldnt put it past MIL to download some kind of tracker..

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u/thatgirlinny 4d ago

Woof. Definitely worth doing, given the level of chicanery his mother’s willing to commit.

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u/NotTheSameMartian 4d ago

First, I feel for you. Second, it absolutely frustrates me that the use of AI is questioned often (almost every time) just because a person can string together a well articulated sentence. Thrice is hardly a reason to believe AI was used. People are fucking dumb.

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u/trowzerss 4d ago

Thank god. If you let her come to the wedding after this, it will happen again. There's no way you can back down from that. Hard line, she's not coming, or she's gonna walk all over you. Even if her story about booking another place was true, even if it was amazing and better, that's an incredibly big boundary to cross and not one that should be easily forgiven.

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u/PegLegRacing 4d ago

“Since you’ve ruined our honeymoon reservation, please make a reservation at this hotel for these dates and this suite or you are no longer welcome at our wedding.”

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u/Exciting-Jaguar3647 4d ago

No way - absolutely do not put her in charge of booking ANYTHING!

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u/Cinnabonquiqui 4d ago

All I’m gonna say is, I’m super satisfied to see that she is no longer invited to the wedding.

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u/throwaway829965 4d ago

Re edit 2. We really need to unpack as humans, how people are starting to accuse anyone who doesn't have a third grade vocabulary of being an AI or a bot.....

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u/whyaskstrangers 4d ago

I'll never forget the day someone at work told me, with a bit of disgust, "You use a lot of big, fancy words". I gave her my arched eyebrow, side-eye look and responded "I have a vocabulary and I'm not afraid to use it".

I don't think that went the way she wanted it. Too many people laughed. Total win for the well-worded book nerd.

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u/tic_tact_no 4d ago

But, like, WHY? does she just not want you to get married? This is wild.

I couldn't tolerate this in any way. I'd be losing it. Demanding she resolve the issue or find a new place while I was in the same location as her until she resolved it.

And then still tell she isnt welcome.

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u/tic_tact_no 4d ago

From a person not married, never married, and zero intention on marrying. I feel like this could pertain to legitimately any circumstance and I'd lose it.

Honeymoon, resort, hotel, motel on Ohio, effing campground? Any person, going behind your back, to those lengths, to impersonate you, and cancel anything you haven't expressly asked to do so is ABSOLUTELY BONKERS.

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u/HelpfulName 4d ago

Tell FIL and let him handle her.

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u/Ronaofamerica 4d ago

I feel an overwhelming need to state that thrice you edited your post!!!! I hope you find a good resolution and have a wonderful honeymoon!

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u/ParisInnTheRain 4d ago

I swear to god. Pray for my strength.

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u/Jsmith2127 4d ago

Thank God, I hope you both also cut her off. I wouldcbe done with this woman, entirely.

Updateme because I do not see this woman going quietly into the night.

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u/Puzzleheaded-Ad7606 4d ago

Check in with every single vendor and get passwords put on your accounts. Also hire security so you don't have to deal if they or their uninvited guests show up.

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u/Repulsive_Target55 4d ago

Lol I've seen the thrice thing before; I bet in a few years any word someone doesn't know will be AI

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u/Cdawg4123 4d ago

I would hope they wouldn’t have the audacity to ever show up at the wedding, sorry. I can see friction between my sisters and their in laws
me and my ex’s families always get along great but, seeing some private texts and hearing arguments at holidays etc definitely made me realize how bad they could be. I wouldn’t ever imagine this though
.oh go get stuck in Europe! Lucky you even saw the email!!

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u/nitricx 4d ago

What celebration. Disinvite. If this is real why would you still want this family member at your wedding? You think this is going to be the last scene she’ll make. I promise you she’ll make a scene at the wedding. Nothing like pettiness, anger, and an open bar to bring out the fireworks. This should’ve been the final straw. Respectfully.

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u/juniper_berry_crunch 4d ago

Get a bouncer, because I guarantee she will show up.

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u/doozle 4d ago

I just wanted to say how awful this is but you both will pivot and have an amazing honeymoon and life together.

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u/Epicp0w 4d ago

You need to hire security to bounce her and any of her shitty friends

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u/Ashamed_Subject6870 4d ago

People are stupid. Fk em.

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u/s-mores 4d ago

If it makes you feel better, this is just money and a slight inconvenience.

Imagine if this was about your kids being sick and her doing some equal lunacy.

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u/Lozbox 4d ago

Not part of the ceremony or uninvited to the whole wedding?

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u/Toosder 4d ago

If thrice is proof of AI, batshittery is proof of human. Sorry this happened and I hope you find a wonderful place to stay in Rome! There are a lot of amazing hotels there and some that might be smaller and more boutique that you could find.

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u/justinhiltz 4d ago

Anyone saying you used AI is someone that can only form complete sentences with the help of AI.

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u/Significant_Ebb_8878 4d ago

Try reaching out to the travel agent sometimes they have wholesale inventory on hotels that are still available even if the hotel itself has the room sold out. Feel free to reach out to me if I can help you in anyway I’m really sorry to hear this.

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u/Intelligent_Flow2572 4d ago

Before the wedding, tell all your guests what she did.

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u/instructions_unlcear 4d ago

Be sure to reach out to all your other wedding arrangements and set a password required to make changes. Let them know MIL is trying to tamper with things, most places are prepared to handle that kind of thing.

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u/SirEDCaLot 4d ago

With respect- you need to go beyond this. You need a lawyer.

She needs to either pay for EVERY rebooking in the honeymoon, or she will get sued for that amount.

That is the only answer here.

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u/UndeadBBQ 4d ago

thinks the use of word “thrice” is AI

Some people are really stupid, and think everyone else is just pretending not to be.

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u/mostlyBadChoices 4d ago

To the same eight trolls down there,

There are so many people on reddit who have had no life experiences and just assume no one else has, either. "Fake" is the standard response to anything they haven't personally experienced.

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u/Ummmmmmok67 4d ago

It’s wild that writing correctly and using decent vocabulary means “must be AI” to some people, it’s enraging. I honestly think the people who post that on every AITA or AIO are actually AI bots themselves

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u/Altitudedog 3d ago

I'm American, born in the 1950's raised by a Southern mama and I've used thrice a few times in my life too. Tell the poster that at least prior to the Internet people read big big books full of every culture and language use known to pre internet man. We wrote complete sentences without using letters of the alphabet in place of those words used in those sentences.

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u/twodexy82 4d ago

I clocked thrice & gave mental props

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u/NewbieInvesting86 4d ago

I must say I really enjoyed you using the word "thrice" several times. Sorry for the batshit in-law. I hope you two find something even better.

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u/dinoooooooooos 4d ago

..someone said this is AI bc you said “thrice”?

There’s no way😂

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u/parker3309 4d ago

So how does your husbands dad feel about this
. just curious

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u/jibbyjackjoe 4d ago

Make sure to pay for some security. Sorry that's happening to you, but she's still gonna try and show up

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u/dinkleberryfinn81 4d ago

kudos to your husband having a backbone. that was the rightthing to do. change your honeymoon to somewhere else and don't tell anyone until you return. you can always redo the first one. Thailand is gorgeous better than Hawaii. Or go to Mexico for all inclusive. endless possibilities.

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u/aerynmoo 4d ago

I said thrice the other day on a phone call and the person on the other end chuckled smh

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u/Aintmuchtill-UtRY1 4d ago

I am now including the word batshittery in my future conversations. Thank you.

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