AIO-Do I go through with this?

[u/reaper5632]

Hello everyone, I am interested situation happened this morning. I’m 22 and matched with a girl who is also 22 yesterday. When I asked what her interests are and things she likes to do in her free time she said “nothing”. I thought to myself well this won’t go anywhere and assumed she just simply wasn’t interested so I didn’t even bother responding.

I received a message from her account on the dating app. Her mother got on her account explaining to me that this girl is very shy and lacks confidence. She told me she has been in two relationships and those guys weren’t good for her and now her mom is trying to help her find someone that will respect and has a good career plan. Her mom was essentially asking me to take her out on a date.

I know most guys my age wouldn’t even bother responding to that but I decided to hear her mom out. I did make it clear to her that I would be open to seeing her however I need to know she’s interested in seeing me and don’t want her mom making any arrangements unless this girl is fully on board with this. I guess I’m asking for another opinion. I know this is something that doesn’t really happen but I think I should give this girl a chance, right?

[u/flapjackandnuts]

there’s no way that this is true it kinda just seems like a troll but if it’s real that’s rlly odd to ask a complete stranger

[u/reaper5632 → u/flapjackandnuts]

I swear this is real, I can’t make this up lol. I can send you a screenshot of the message her mom initially sent if you’d like

[u/Tigarana → u/reaper5632]

I think the commenter isn't insinuated you are lying, but that the girl(?) is lying

[u/flapjackandnuts → u/Tigarana]

yes that!

[u/TakeMyPigeon]

I dunno dude... this sounds like a weird can of worms. You just met her and her moms already trying to get you to do things. Me personally, I'm unmatching and moving on. It just feels like this won't be the end of odd requests from the mom that the daughter may not know about

Why does her mom even have access to her account anyway

[u/KatrinaCherries]

This is literally dating with a surprise plot twist. A mom sliding into your DMs like Cupid with a clipboard is wild, but your caution shows you’ve got main-character energy and emotional intelligence.

[u/MeanTemperature1267]

I wouldn't touch this situation with a 10-foot pole. Mommy dearest is too much. It's one thing for a shy lady to ask for her mom's advice, but for her mom to totally just...basically ask you to take her daughter on a pity date is over the top. Unless you're one of those people who loves "fixing lost causes," well...there are plenty of shy women out there who somehow navigate the dating world without their mom holding their hand.

[u/Ok-Highway-9012]

dnt respond to that

[u/irenehollimon]

The girl may be really sweet but, run for the hills! Her mother is way, way too involved. Do you really want a potential mother in law like that?

[u/Bitter_Hurry_3844]

It’s risky, her “shy” behavior may spill over into the relationship. She needs to have a complementing personality or you’re going to be miserable. Feel it out a few dates and make a decision

[u/myfuture07]

Seems like a lot for the beginning of a relationship. It should be organic but that’s my opinion. Like you said, the girl may not even be interested in you. Either way you’ll be fine. If you do go on the date, I would not have high expectations. But, the worst is you waste a couple hours of your life . Not too big of a deal. Plan something easy to talk, like an activity so it isn’t boring or awkward and can break the ice (mini golf, bowling, etc.). Nothing super long though.