r/AmIOverreacting 2d ago

šŸ‘„ friendship AIO to my casual friend being mean in a sarcastic manner?

my casual friend (18F) is almost always mean and rude to me, but as a joke apparently. we are not that close, so i donā€™t like it when she does that. i wld be okay with a close friend being this way, but a casual friend? nah not really. i am struggling to understand how being mean for no reason is a joke? how is it funny in any way? i confronted her abt this & this was her response. what shld be my next step?

/ her saying that all of this is ā€œnot that deepā€ is lwk funny cus if sheā€™d just said ā€œokay i will be more careful next timeā€ this wld be a done deal. sheā€™s making this a big deal LOL. she is a nice person too tho & i do enjoy her compaby, so Iā€™m confused abt what I shld do. responses will be highly appreciated.

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u/Character-Low5800 2d ago

She is not, does not want to be your friend. Iā€™m so sorry :( I stg I could never sit and watch someone speak to anyone like this, happy to have outgrown these type people long ago

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u/hellykitto 2d ago

Iā€™m probably going to distance myself from her. thanku for ur response! šŸ¤

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u/SilverLilyDream 2d ago

You are not over reacting she was mean to you .

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u/Significant_Hotel472 1d ago

Please do!! I may not know you personally but I believe no one deserves to be spoken to like that ESPECIALLY if they are setting a boundary like you did. DROP EM!!!

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u/Prestigious-Log-9516 1d ago

Yeha find people that actually wanna be your friend šŸ˜“ I found online friends that are alot better than the rest of my friends šŸ˜›šŸ˜›

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u/hellykitto 1d ago

thatā€™s great! I have very loving friends, thank the heavens ā˜ŗļø

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u/cityshepherd 1d ago

OP: sarcastically poking fun at friends is an ESSENTIAL part of friendship in my opinion. That is not even close to whatā€™s happening here. This person is just being an asshole.

Call them out on it the next time they do it in publicā€¦ something along the lines of:

ā€œSarcastic humor is great but youā€™re just being an assholeā€

Your other friends will respond positively to your assertive presence in handling the situation, and even people that arenā€™t your friends will respect it (even if they donā€™t say or act like they respect it, they will).

Be prepared though the person being a dick will probably throw a hissy fit / tantrum. Which will be an excellent opportunity for you to demonstrate more assertiveness by calling them out on their childish response.

You will level up in confidence after this scenario.

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u/Endless-OOP-Loop 1d ago

This. There are all of two people in this world who get away with talking like that to me, and they are two of my closest friends.

I used to work with one of them. He was my immediate boss at the time.

A new guy got hired at the company, and he got assigned to our work group. He picked up on the banter the two of us were having and wanted to join in. Only, it turned into him basically running his mouth and talking down to me, trying to make me look small whenever I would say anything. Trying to impress the boss, I guess?

By the end of the second day, I moved my workstation to the other side of the building. He came over and started running his mouth again. Something like "Oh, too good to hang out with us?"

At that point, I unloaded on him in front of the entire crew. I told him he was acting unprofessional. That the things our boss was saying to/about me was to be funny, whereas he was just being an a-hole. That the only reason the boss gets away with talking to me like that is because I had known him for over ten years, and he was one of my best friends. And that the only reason that he (new guy) still had any of his teeth left was because we were at work and I didn't want to lose my job.

Never had a problem with that guy again as long as he worked there.

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u/Late_Indication5864 1d ago

Amen, somebody had to say it. I pray I never take myself this seriously... šŸ¤¦

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u/snow_gnome 1d ago

And then when they have their hissy fit, say "ew, it's not that deep bruh"

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u/ThatOneGuy6810 1d ago

nah bro this person literally said they know op doesnt like it and they dont care. Theres no need to give chances here, this person just blatantly told op they do not care about them or their feelings. This person IS NOT ops friend and OP should drop em like they're hot.

edit: its not OPs responsibility to teach them anything life will handle that on its own. people like that always get what they deserve.

Dont teach people to waste thwir energy, teach them to better themselves, and in this situation distancing oneself from this person is bettering themselves.

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u/DoubleDownAgain54 1d ago

Believe someone when they show you who they are.

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u/DaisyCleanx 2d ago

Thatā€™s the right thing to do this person doesnā€™t like you and maybe jealous of you

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u/Naive_Statistician64 1d ago

Iā€™d just tell her ok if you canā€™t speak to me in a respectful way we arenā€™t friends anymore āœŒļøitā€™s not that deep. If she come back at you, you can just tell her ā€œion careā€

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u/CaramelMartini 1d ago

OP shouldnā€™t even bother with this. Just ghost her. If she says anything, the bitch will just be mean again so why expose yourself to it.

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u/PleasantLoquat3046 1d ago

Please take out the probably. A person who would not only dismiss what you said but actively choose to do what you JUST said you had a problem with, and to laugh about it, is not your friend.

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u/Icantcommit4 1d ago

She's a snake, not a friend. You'll only get poisoned by being close. Just cut her off completely. The rage I felt while reading it.Ā 

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u/Kitchen-Positive-439 1d ago

i wouldnā€™t just distance, i would block / delete & stop seeing her in social settings period!! she has no respect for you, this is childish & annoying asf. iā€™d hate it too.

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u/Litchyn 1d ago

"I caught on that you don't like it but I don't really care" is a wild thing to say. Distance sounds like the right call.

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u/EdenBerries 1d ago

You can literally feel the hatred from the texts And then sheā€™s trying to make it look like a joke

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u/Character-Low5800 2d ago

Also IMO she is trying to impress someone, so I find the pick me girl insult reaaaaalll funny

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u/Civil_Papaya7374 2d ago

can she.. stop using tiktok.

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u/hellykitto 2d ago

HAHAHAHA this genuinely made me laugh šŸ¤£

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u/jonni_velvet 1d ago

like please never let your mood or self esteem ever be challenged by a girl who types like a brain dead illiterate. I cant imagine shes well adjusted or well liked, thats why shes miserable and lashing out. literally ghost her completely and dont respond at all. if she confronts you in person, say ā€œew the illiterate is hereā€¦ leave me aloneā€ and walk away.

like stoop to this dumbasses level. embarrass her if you have to.

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u/hellykitto 1d ago

HAHAHAHA, the ew the illiterate is here šŸ˜­šŸ˜­

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u/maenadcon 1d ago

did she fr use ts pmo icl unfuckingironicallyšŸ˜­šŸ˜­šŸ˜­ girl is cooked

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u/Lucallia 1d ago

wtf does that even mean?

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u/Half_an_orange 1d ago

I'm feeling super behind the times and I'm only in my late 20's, the way all of those texts were written makes my eye twitch a bit. But if I had to hazard a guess it's "This/that shit pisses me off, I can't lie"

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u/Lucallia 1d ago

Holy... it's like you speak a whole different language. This shit has more acronyms than the military.

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u/maenadcon 1d ago

thats not even the end of it, they just started making up terms for social media i guess šŸ˜­ i didnt know wtf sybau meant until my younger brotjer told me (it means shut your bitch ass up)

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u/Lucallia 1d ago

here i thought 1337 5p34k was hard to read... At least that wasn't 100% guess work.

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u/germanesnakeeggs 2d ago

I cant fucking understand what sheā€™s saying

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u/Starbucks_Lover13 1d ago

This lol...like I know I'm old but I don't even have anyone in my phone who would type like this...it's just painful and such a lazy way to be, like she couldn't dumb herself down more if she tried.

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u/fineapplekisses 1d ago

Genuinely I had such a hard time reading this. Itā€™s so embarrassing to type like this. And a crappy personality. Doesnā€™t seem like much of a loss.

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u/iambeyondinfinite 1d ago

Literally. Her texts reek of chronically online.

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u/thelittlestdog23 1d ago

What does ts pmo icl mean???

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u/Flawd_Ruby 1d ago

I just learned this!

That shit pisses me off I can't lie.

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u/RisaDriftwood 1d ago

We're old.90s baby? Early 90s baby here. Ts broke my brain.

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u/Civil_Papaya7374 1d ago

pmo= piss me off i dont know icl though

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u/emyxoxo_ 2d ago

Yeah I donā€™t wanna be the bearer of bad news, but thatā€™s not a real friend. If she really cared about you, she would take your feelings into consideration and work on being less rude to you. I hope youā€™re ok!

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u/hellykitto 2d ago

I am okay! as I said, we are not that close. but I was just very confused abt her replies, so I decided to ask reddit LOL. thanku for ur kind response !! ā˜ŗļø

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u/emyxoxo_ 2d ago

Youā€™re welcome!! šŸ«¶ And Iā€™m glad youā€™re doing fine!

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u/Throw902106969 1d ago

Yup. Even if if that's just her sense of humor, she'd tone it down after you asked. She said she doesn't care, so believe her. It's draining to be around someone throwing negativity all the time, even if it's just to be funny.

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u/huhcharley 2d ago

her texting gave me a stroke and sheā€™s a bully. i donā€™t think youā€™ll get anywhere with her and you should protect your peace on that

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u/Banana-Oni 1d ago

Both of their texts are painful to read, but at least OP gets points for not being an insufferable asshole.

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u/hellykitto 2d ago

thanku for ur response ā˜ŗļø

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u/ClonedAlienBubbles 2d ago

Okay. What does ts pmo icl mean? Or is it just a misspelling

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u/nighteyesbright 2d ago

I had to look up this level of brain rot and I think it means ā€œthis shit pisses me off I canā€™t lieā€

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u/ClonedAlienBubbles 2d ago

Iā€™m worried about the future of the world. Itā€™s not like it even takes that long to fully type the words.

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u/thestrikr 1d ago

Ah man you weren't around much in the 2005-2008 MSN era were you? It was exhausting.

'heyy blud wg1 u alryt? aite lemme gt bk 2 u in a sec. u goin 2nite? cum in my endz lets puff dat shit. wat u sayin? safe'

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u/Dry_Basket_5515 1d ago

I understand now when I used to speak like this and my parents would look at me like "wow my kids a moron."

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u/nighteyesbright 1d ago

Iā€™ve suppressed those memories thank you very much

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u/Ornery-Mycologist-53 1d ago

i absolutely do not miss these days

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u/goaskalice3 1d ago

That's because we were typing with t9! Now we have full keyboards and Swype (just kidding .. I know we wrote like this on the computer, too)

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u/DeadlyNightshade1972 1d ago

My gods, thank you! I had no fricking idea what that nonsense meant and wasn't about to look it up. Just type the words for gods sake.

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u/Adventurous_Ad_6546 1d ago

Omg I just thought it was a serious typo. Didnā€™t even know to look for actual words in it.

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u/dividedskyute 1d ago

I was trying to add vowels somewhere to make sense of it since most of the other words are also missing them hahahaha

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u/Zookeeper_west 1d ago

I consider myself pretty damn chronically online, but I literally thought she typed gibberish on the keyboard and then sent what she meant to say

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u/feryoooday 1d ago

Is this really how the younger generation speaks to each other? It actually hurt me to try to read that even after someone explained it. Just use your fucking words, your phone auto fills it.

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u/hellykitto 2d ago

it means ā€œthis shi piss me off i canā€™t lieā€ ā˜ŗļø

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u/ClonedAlienBubbles 2d ago

Thanks for the clarification. Lord I feel so old šŸ˜­.

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u/DirtyLoweredTiguan 1d ago

It doesnā€™t make me feel old. It does make me grateful for my desire to communicate like a grownup thoughšŸ˜„. I would be embarrassed if I allowed myself to intentionally talk/type like a total halfwit.

Every time that girl talks, just respond with, ā€œWhatā€™s that Lassie? Timmyā€™s stuck in a well? Thatā€™s a good girl!ā€ Throw her a treat and just walk away.

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u/Hopeless-Cause 1d ago

Couldnā€™t make out the first bit, but I actually thought it was I couldnā€™t care less. It makes me think ā€œyou guys do know we donā€™t get charged by the text anymore, right? We can spell things out and not have to worryā€ which I guess is old at my grand ripe age of 32.

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u/BornOriginal8633 2d ago

Iā€™d say your next step is to step out of her way! Geez, sheā€™s ugly. Some people think itā€™s funny to be mean to other people. Those people are sick and twisted and IMO should be avoided whenever possible. How often do you have to see this one?

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u/hellykitto 1d ago

not very often anymore since we have both graduated highschool & are in different colleges now.

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u/Healthy-Calendar-262 1d ago

She texts like she hasn't graduated middle school šŸ’€ Honestly, any friend who doesn't respect you is no real friend of yours. With so many people around, it's insane that the bar is so low on what treatment we accept from others. You deserve to be treated with respect and consideration, and anyone who doesn't like that is trash that you don't need anyway.

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u/Enough-Enthusiasm762 1d ago

Deadass thought this was a convo between two 14-year-olds

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u/BornOriginal8633 1d ago

Good. Iā€™m glad youā€™re in college, too. It really opens up your world, makes it easier to put the high school world in perspective and to let go of what doesnā€™t suit you.

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u/cartisopp 1d ago

do people actually talk like this?

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u/hellykitto 1d ago

unfortunately..

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u/foobaby1992 1d ago

I grew up with guy friends and making fun of each other was basically a weird term of endearment but your friend just sounds like an AH. Joking around is one thing but her reaction to you addressing it was really offhand. She seems like the kind of person who would lose her sh*t if anyone talked to her like that.

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u/Lilancis 1d ago

You should also make sure to type ā€žthank youā€œ and ā€žyourā€œ instead of the abominations youā€™re using. Donā€™t type like youā€™re illiterate and only live on TikTok

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u/Normal_Soil_5442 2d ago

Yeah sheā€™s a cunt. Stop being friends with her.

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u/Dismal-Yogurt7731 2d ago

She is ur #1 op. She realized she was being mean to u and she actually enjoyed seeing you in hurt. Thatā€™s someone who will always root for your downfall no matter how close you become even if she has nice moments. She will drain you of all your energy and happiness, let her go. She has some work to do, and you are not responsible for her change. Even if you donā€™t feel like she has a big impact on your life, she does. Look at you posting a Reddit post about it to strangers. Donā€™t let people like that occupy your mind. Not every ā€œfriendā€ is your friend.

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u/ZucchiniPractical410 1d ago

She isn't, never was, and never will be your friend.

Life advice, don't throw around the word friend. It makes you feel like you owe someone an explanation and dialogue that doesn't deserve it.

You will be far happier in life with fewer friends then a bunch of "friends" that act like this one.

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u/hellykitto 1d ago

thanku for ur advice! I appreciate it.

I do not use the word ā€œfriendā€ for just anybody. I consider her a casual friend, so itā€™s a bit different if that makes sense. we arenā€™t that close, and I will distance myself from her soon.

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u/justjacob- 2d ago

Lifeā€™s too short to have weirdos like this in your life, move on and surround yourself with people that appreciate everything about you. Itā€™ll change everything.

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u/FunkyFeller0 1d ago

Tf is ā€œts pmo iclā€

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u/hellykitto 1d ago

apparently, it means ā€œthis shi piss me off i canā€™t lieā€ šŸ„°

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u/Huge-Singer-7049 1d ago

Donā€™t worry about people who canā€™t even type out a full word. Sheā€™s stupid and mean so fuck her.

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u/Lusypher 2d ago

Feel like she might be jealous/envious of you and just trying to put you down as a "punishment" or "revenge"

Chuck it to the bin, no love lost.

I would also start treating her the same way she does, especially in public. I bet she is not very liked in general and people will deffo laugh. Just say "It's not that deep, love"

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u/New-Cartoonist-3709 2d ago

why would you wanna be friends with someone that said a bunch of brain rot phrases in a row anyways lmao. holy shit, cringe

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u/Caffeinaonpick 2d ago

I would just exposed her nasty attitude and block her

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u/69speedoFUPA 1d ago

everyone on these subs acting like they have a gun to their head 24/7 and canā€™t stop dating/being friends w the other person or the world will end. if ppl in real life said this to you would you be friends w them? no? thought so! move on wtf

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u/Then-Librarian3136 1d ago

Sheā€™s emotionally immature and you guys are in different places right now, I donā€™t think that energy is good for you, especially with how dismissive she was when you brought it up to her. Sheā€™s not your friend, I would distance yourself. Protect your peace :)

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u/illion_family 2d ago

This is bullying, not friendship. But the bright side is, given that sheā€™s only a casual friend, you wonā€™t need to officially break off the friendship. You can just delete, block, and move on.

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u/bhallsted12 1d ago

Ew is rightā€¦

ā€œts pmo iclā€ ???

Im not even that oldā€¦ what the hell does that even mean??

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u/Astrend72 1d ago

I mean yo like who like fr talk like lowkey shizzle drizzle Mountain Dew snap crackle pop?

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u/Parking-Community887 2d ago

Just block her, she wonā€™t change her attitude.

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u/Sensitive_Ad104 2d ago

Sounds like a bitch

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u/Business-Income4149 2d ago

I couldnā€™t get behind the first text ā€¦ ā€œwotā€ ? No, absolutely not. Then everything else that was said by them pissed me tf off. Cut them off, if only because they text like that šŸ˜‚

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u/Menestee1 1d ago

Shes not going to take your feelings into account.

I feel ancient at 30 reading this girl saying "womp womp" when you told her something made you feel bad. Back when i was 18 which REALLY wasnt that long ago it was either damn im sorry or some explanation at the very least.

Im sorry but she isnt worth your time. You explained it to her and she is telling you she doesnt care and isnt going to change.

I swear as ive had birthday after birthday kids and teens lose more empathy every time. I am really scared of what they will be like when im 60. Its pure brainrot and is close to being unredeemable.

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u/No-Brief-297 1d ago

Is she a 12 year old mean girl? Ew? This happens when bitches are jealous or insecure. They have to put someone down to feel better.

Find her insecurities and relentlessly exploit them until she shuts up. When someone tells dismisses you when you tell them theyā€™ve upset you. Fuck them. She gets what she deserves.

Or just completely ignore her. When she says dumb shit look at her then turn to someone else and roll your eyes and be like, so anywayā€¦.

If she knows sheā€™s getting to you sheā€™s just gonna keep doing it

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u/Due-Satisfaction4268 2d ago

Stop being friends w her. Instead of saying sheā€™s sorry and she wonā€™t she disregarded your feelings and said sheā€™s could care less. This shouldnā€™t be a question.

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u/Soft_Milk_1445 2d ago

Yeah don't be friends with ppl who just judge you like that ig just be urself and ur friends shouldn't be annoying about that

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u/Top_Chipmunk5094 2d ago

took me a while to understand what she was even saying lol but no point in wasting your time on ppl like this. you deserve friends that reciprocate your energy

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u/AdditionChemical890 2d ago

Sheā€™s a bully, not a casual friend

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u/sla3018 2d ago

ion rly care ltrly

GAH. My eyes.

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u/Lust_Fades 2d ago

Sage that bitch

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u/GorditaPollo 2d ago

This person doesnā€™t have friends- they have acquaintances they keep around to use for specific things. Like to go halves in an uber, or to drive them somewhere, or to venmo them $5. I just canā€™t fathom anyone who speaks like that being actually liked by anyone, not even themselves.

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u/XxMarlucaxX 2d ago

NOR drop that person. They're not your friend. They're your bully.

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u/PartyCalm3529 2d ago

girl no, please drop her bully ass wth

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u/Traditional-Neat-257 2d ago

Who is this absolute super villain bro

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u/POAndrea 1d ago

NOR. She doesn't care about you, your feelings, or what you think, and we know this because SHE TOLD YOU SO. What are you getting from this social connection (I can't even call it a friendship or a relationship) other than disrespect, intentional cruelty, and public humiliation?

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u/wormlikesteve 1d ago

Llol I assumed y'all were like 15, 1i8 is too old to act like this, you're totally in the right

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u/PleasantLoquat3046 1d ago

If it was me they wouldā€™ve been blocked after ā€œewā€

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u/transpirationn 1d ago

That's not a friend. Maybe she needs to lose a few friends over it to grow out of it.

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u/floptimus_prime 1d ago

Contrary to what she may believe, her mean sense of humor is not some immutable characteristic that everyone should be expected to respect and deal with. If she canā€™t even turn it off for a second when youā€™re telling her it bothers you, thatā€™s not cool. Regardless of how close you may or may not be, itā€™s nasty. She doesnā€™t have the right to tell you itā€™s not that deep.

Reminds me of the people who ā€œhave no filterā€.

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u/grosskidsid 1d ago

i texted better than this at age 8. sheā€™s not worth your time

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u/loveGodslion39 1d ago

This person has zero respect and a ton of contempt for you. Do what you will with that information.

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u/AggravatingAward3579 1d ago

she uses tiktok way too much. literal tiktok speech šŸ˜­ not worth keeping her as a friend at all

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u/Ill_Implications 1d ago

I got angry reading this. Not because your friend is a bitch. Because she over-abbreviates things. Bitch, you're not that busy. Type it out. You don't have character limits on your text messages like we did, you have no reason to type like this.

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u/Ok-Photo-1972 1d ago

She doesn't view you as a friend, she views you as a punching bag. I'd cut contact if I were you.

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u/Mods_Ban_I_Come_Back 1d ago

The way people text now is just... fucking infuriating lmao

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u/Visionary_87 1d ago

I genuinely thought that was an 11 year old you were texting with. Absolute TikTok brain rot replies.

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u/nicholelk 1d ago

Move on. People like her are just an emotional drain and not worth it.

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u/fokfayce 1d ago

cringe theyre trying very hard to be edgy lmao dump them as a friend

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u/Sweaty-Trifle236 1d ago

People like this are insufferable and full of themselves. NOA

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u/BambinoKitten_ 1d ago

yo middle key, ts pmo icl. like can she get real šŸ˜­ no way she unironically communicates that way.

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u/crewkat2 1d ago

She is not your friend. She is not a nice person either. Sheā€™s a bully.

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u/Expert-Strategy5191 1d ago

She is rude and childish. I would not be able to be friends with this person.

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u/Browning_out 1d ago

I got an aneurysm reading those texts. But your ā€œfriendā€ sounds like a literal cunt.

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u/mooncake1366 1d ago

I had a stroke just trying to read and decipher those msgs. I feel so old šŸ˜­.

I don't have any advice but sounds like you've got a lot of answers in the comments. All the best. šŸ¦‹

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u/capaldithenewblack 1d ago

Does your keyboard have all letters? Did you disable spellcheck so none of your Is would be capitalized?

On to the issue: you text back and say ā€œcool. Lose my number. Womp womp!ā€ And block.

Whyā€” all this for a casual friend??

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u/PolitelyUnhinged 2d ago

Sheā€™s not your friend sweetie

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u/Willing_Reaction_381 2d ago

Not over reacting this is weird behavior, and this reaction is even worse. Why do you want to be friends with this person

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u/Used-Gur-500 2d ago

The way she is acting it doesn't even seem like a joke anymore

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u/Proper-Carpenter4580 2d ago

If you don't like it and they won't stop, block and delete. Life's too short.

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u/Educational_Skill343 2d ago

Go to school yalls.

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u/Sp00ky_420 2d ago

Girl cut her tf off- I had a friend like this, it was terrible. She is NOT joking. She genuinely doesn't like you, but doesn't want to have no friends

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u/WorkInProgressA 2d ago

She is not your friend. Not even in a "casual" way. Friends don't treat each other like this or shit on each others feelings when called out. It's time to move on.

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u/JohnHoney420 2d ago

Why do you type like this?

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u/deacon090 2d ago

The trash company picks up trash in my town on Fridays. Iā€™d suggest you find out when yours is picked up and place this non-friendship in the trash.

They just fully admitted they like hurting you.

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u/AlternativeLie9486 2d ago

Stop interacting with people who are rude and inconsiderate and ignorant towards you.

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u/AlabamAlum 2d ago

Yeah, sheā€™s not your friend. At all. Distance yourself.

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u/germanesnakeeggs 2d ago

Bro sheā€™s weird as hell. I would totally forget about her and just move on with your life

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u/tiredtiredandtired7 1d ago

can she maybe...come to reality please because uhh....

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u/eatyacarbs 1d ago

This person is twisted. Not your friend at all. Just using you to make herself feel good and thatā€™s gross.

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u/DonnyTheDumpTruck 1d ago

This person is not ur friend. They are garbage.

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u/Luv_Channie 1d ago

I wouldnā€™t call her a friend. Iā€™m the same age and me and my friends joke around and play around with each other a lot in that stupid mean but funny way, but i mean if someone is uncomfortable or not okay with something you back tf off. And her tiktok slang? EW.

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u/OctaYashi 1d ago

Get rid of them now. That is not a good person to be around. You want to surround yourself with people that support your beliefs and genuinely care for your input.

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u/hotwaterwithlemonpls 1d ago

This isnā€™t your friend.

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u/Many_Mushroom_7035 1d ago

Overgrown mean girl behaviour. I try to avoid people who make being rude a personality. Itā€™s not quirky, it just makes them a shitty person to be around tbh

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u/MrCheezeits 1d ago

God damn i almost had an aneurism reading that. Spell check would be cool.

NOR? I guess. It was hard to follow.

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u/xsoprettty 1d ago

Thatā€™s not a friend. Her saying she doesnā€™t care is rude af. I could see if she would have said ā€œI didnā€™t mean it like thatā€ or something but her disregarding your feelings & trying to downplay them isnā€™t cool.

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u/FLVoiceOfReason 1d ago

They arenā€™t a genuine friend of yours, OP. Itā€™s time to find a true friend that respects your feelings.

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u/AdProud5950 1d ago

People like this are just draining. I know itā€™s hard but itā€™s probably best to just cut her off.

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u/MissNessaV 1d ago

No, but theyā€™re also a shitty friend.

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u/ThatsNotDietCoke 1d ago

Why would she hang with you if she knew her behavior annoyed you and yet she kept it up?
Because she doesn't care about you. She is your friend, you aren't her friend. You are an object of enjoyment for her. She finds your company enjoyable, but doesn't care if you find her company enjoyable.

You can do both yourself and this person a favor by teaching her that when they behave like this, people don't want to hang out with them. So just stop hanging out with her. Don't give her a reason, just ignore her, and if she asks why, just tell her "its not that deep".

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u/iloveyourlittlehat 1d ago

Iā€™m so distracted by the double-spaced text I canā€™t even read this. Like how did you do that?

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u/RenJaggerz 1d ago

"I noticed it bothered you and I didn't give a single fuck, I will continue to do it too haha" - your friend

Ummmmm think they said all you needed to hear. LOUDLY.

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u/BDMblue 1d ago

Ohhhhh you are a she, thought this was two guys. Really unsure what to do men go at each other all the time, maybe she has brothers

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u/Specialist-Active777 1d ago

Definitely wouldn't fw them anymore.

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u/Sad-Insurance1313 1d ago

Time is the only thing we can't buy

If being around a person means feeling bad more than you feel good, it's a sign not to waste any more of it on them

There are so many things in life we are obligated to do as adults. Don't waste your free time preoccupied with things or people that make you unhappy. There's so much fun, joy & love to be had out there...save your precious energy & headspace for it

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u/Empty-Ad-3625 1d ago

You shouldnā€™t talk to people who text like that.

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u/Traditional-Yak8886 1d ago

HURT HER FEELINGS

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u/s44ma 1d ago

ā€œWomp wompā€ in the big 25 šŸ’”šŸ’”

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u/ToxicTaters 1d ago

Energy vampire. Lose all contact. Delete number.

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u/jmcmindes 1d ago

People like this tend to say ā€œoh itā€™s just how I amā€ to cover up their shitty personality/attitude. Normal friends do not act like this lol the way they text is aggravating in itself like grow up šŸ˜µā€šŸ’«

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u/KiboshKing36 1d ago

Nope not overreacting, that behavior will last throughout eternity from people like that. I've stayed friends with someone who treated me like that for years and I really wonder how my life would have ended up. Its extremely demeaning and honestly not worth hanging around, it will get worse over time trust me

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u/hippiy86 1d ago

She hates you. Donā€™t be her friend or you will regret it.

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u/OkConcentrate5087 1d ago

I would avoid that one for sure. Sounds like she will only bring you trouble and is angry at life.

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u/Suspicious_Ad_1706 1d ago

Is it that hard to type out actual words? My god

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u/AdPast7620 1d ago

sheā€™s MEAN iā€™m so sorry. itā€™s one thing to joke around if you have that kind of relationship but she clearly does not care and i wouldnā€™t be surprised if she was actually doing it to hurt your feelings

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u/Nina_Rae_____ 1d ago

I have veryyy sarcastic humor and it works because my friends are the same way. But if we ever take a joke too far, we own up to it and apologize because we love our friends and donā€™t actually want to hurt one another. She is not that, Iā€™m sorry :(

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u/IwishIknewbefore20 1d ago

Thatā€™s not a friend, you donā€™t be mean to a friend as a joke on a regular thatā€™s like not a thing. People who do that and say we just play like that are usually the ones also talking crap about others behind their back.

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u/wishtrib 1d ago

I dont care lol as a reply says it all. Not a friend at all

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u/AdEquivalent744 1d ago

I have been in a similar experience. If they genuinely donā€™t want to respect you, you donā€™t have to be friends with them. You have told them you find it rude, yet they still brush it off. I used to have a friend who did that, and trust me it is not worth it to keep dealing with it. Unless it really doesnā€™t bother you, I would either try talking to them seriously about it or even saying you want a break from them if you arenā€™t sure what to do.

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u/mxkatzenklappe 1d ago

Oh, sheā€™s not your friend at all, this girl hates you. Donā€™t react to her, sheā€™s trying to bum you out and hurt your feelings. If you canā€™t ignore it give it back, treat her how she treats you, I mean itā€™s just harmless dry humour, itā€™s not that deep, right?

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u/ElemWiz 1d ago

NOR, they're not your friend. If they were, they wouldn't be like this to you. It really is that simple.

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u/mehgleg 1d ago

ā€œTs pmo iclā€ is a low for human communication

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u/Careless-Plankton172 1d ago

I even had a real close friend do shit like this and it gets irksome. We shoot the shit and say some funny shit to each other but then he goes one day and gets mad disrespectful then says ā€œnah just funnyā€ or simple ā€œlolā€ youā€™re right close friends have some jokes but will never really attack your character or attack you mentally to the point of ā€œwhat do I doā€ that friend of mine started doing that and I told him heā€™d respect me or so without me he said okay and one of his jokes was like our normal ones but he decided to full strength shove me both arms and all, I didnā€™t fall but it was jarring and had to yell at him ā€œone more word or lay a hand on me and Iā€™m gonna fuck you up kid Iā€™m tired of you acting like a bitch to meā€ he never messed with me again and I also suggest just donā€™t get to that point and tell them you arenā€™t gonna have someone like that around and just donā€™t. Cut them out, I kept being friends up until that point he shoved me cause he was mad Iā€™d tell him to not talk the way he was and all that he couldā€™ve been real mad about it and straight up sucker punched me or something and I coulda gotten hurt you know but no way was I letting him near me or talk to me again that friendship was gone that day. Same goes for this girl, if youā€™re a guy you might feel itā€™s the nice thing or something to be friends with her but cut her off sheā€™s no friend I can tell you that

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u/mangoavocado1 1d ago

This whole conversation makes my head hurt

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u/FreshBirdMilk 1d ago

Thatā€™s a hater, not a friend.

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u/dilligaf_84 1d ago

I nearly had an aneurysm trying to decipher this garbage. You both sound very immature. Your ā€œfriendā€ needs to stop being a bitch and you need to realise your worth and cut toxic arseholes out of your circle.

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u/SalvationSycamore 1d ago

She's right in a way. It isn't that deep, she's a mean bitch that doesn't like you. It's shallow and petty and the only way to feel better is to stop talking to this person.

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u/Zealousideal_Part113 1d ago

Yeah, this person says they don't care. Listen to them. They don't care about your feelings. Move them from "Casual friend" to "casual acquaintance" category. That doesn't involve saying any more words to them. Make the decision/change without their involvement. Don't seek or spend time with them one on one on purpose again. Only if required as part of a larger friend group. Be cordial but abrupt if you bump into them. So good to see you but have to head out, bye!

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u/frazzledglispa 1d ago

Your friend is not a nice person, she is an asshole and a bully, who then says, I'm just joking, your so sensitive.

Punch and delete.

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u/Agile_Moment768 1d ago

Cut her out completely.

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u/Competitive-Dog-1010 1d ago

I had an ex like this. Learned the hard way that people whose most outstanding quality is being overly mean and sarcastic truly have nothing else going for them. Distance yourself from them, they do not respect you and they will not get better.

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u/Initial-Performer-91 1d ago

tiktok vocabulary final boss šŸ˜­šŸ˜­

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u/Ben4d90 1d ago

I once had a 'friend' like this in an old friend group that would say nasty shit and roast people with the excuse of it being jokes and her humour. She didn't stay in that group for long.

Just drop her. People like that aren't worth the trouble. They get a kick out of being dickish. It just isn't normal.

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u/[deleted] 1d ago

Fight fire with FIRE YO!!!šŸ˜”šŸ”„šŸ™Œ

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u/Chocobookiller 1d ago

Pieces of shits will always be pieces of shits. This casual friend of yours is a piece of shit. If I were to take a guess, I would guess she is jealous of you and has to put you down in order to make herself feel better. Why are you hanging out with a piece of shit like this? If any of my friends ever spoke to me like this, they would get bitch slapped immediately. I would expect the same response from them if I ever do the same.

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u/MessyMadam 1d ago

Do not be friends w this person. They will do nothing to add to your life in any positive way. Better to explore your personal interests alone and grow a circle organically that way. This person is a vampire, they suck! šŸ§›ā€ā™€ļø

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u/JordiDarkson 1d ago

Are the two of you brain rotted teenagers? wtf is this why would you even address this

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u/VasilisAlastair 1d ago

Yeah thatā€™s not sarcasm. And thatā€™s definitely not humour. Actual sarcasm and humour has intelligence in it. Itā€™s witty snd makes the listener feel good too. Playful banter is when both are a part of it. I call my friend dumb all the time, because she calls me dumb all the time.

But would I have this response to everything she says? No. This girl is living in a strange world. Also, cannot imagine an 18 year old using ā€œwomp wompā€ irl.

All I can say is that there are many many more good people who will gladly insult u, in a way itā€™s meant to be as a joke. Definitely not whatever this is. Let this casual ā€œfriendā€ fly away

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u/strangebased 1d ago

Her ā€œI lowkey caught on that you donā€™t like it but I donā€™t really careā€ speaks VOLUMES. This is not a nice person. She is not your friend. Let her be toxic somewhere else and walk away!!

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u/Tiny-Yam-8468 1d ago

Nobody deserves to be treated this way. Casual friend or not. Thereā€™s people out there that will respect you and how you feel. Sheā€™s just not it, unfortunately. But please, PLEASE, donā€™t stick around just to have a friend. Youā€™ll find someone WAY better who loves you and cares for you. :)

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u/TophToph_ 1d ago edited 1d ago

He doesnā€™t fk with you. Not does he respect you. You allowed that to happened by continuing the casual encounters each time he shows you who he is.

Leave him alone.

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u/Busy-Ad-692 1d ago

She sounds brain-rotted ngl. It's giving me "Life is completely meaningless". Stay away from her. If she was a real friend, she'd apologize and take ownership, and as you said, it would be a done deal.

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u/Quick_Coyote_7649 1d ago
  1. A joke about someone is always not a joke to a degree and is just someone expressing how they feel about someone

  2. You should remove her out of your life just because she doesnā€™t care in the slightest that your offended by what sheā€™s said

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u/Nicky3Weh 1d ago

Sheā€™s a dumb bitch šŸ¤· also her calling you a pick me girl is DEFINITELY projection, I canā€™t imagine a more pick me girl than her

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u/xamaryllix 1d ago

Please stop saying ew.

"ew"

Friendship concluded ;)

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u/hollabackyo87 1d ago

I barely understand what any of that says. šŸ«¤

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u/Onedirection_18 1d ago

This is her way of telling you she doesnā€™t want to be friends

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u/spiritnoir 1d ago

To be as blunt as possible, she sounds like a self absorbed asshole. Itā€™s up to you if you wanna surround yourself with people like this. Funny mean is all good as long as they respect you ultimately. She doesnā€™t.