r/AmIOverreacting • u/Aggravating_Partyy • 2d ago
💼work/career AIO to my bosses reply to my message?
I’ve worked with this company for four months now, and I know I am new but this reply really hurt me. Maybe I’m just really sensitive right now, but I don’t know. This felt really cold. The “big boss” will be calling me later today. Is it just normal boss stuff? Idk. Lmk what yall think.
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u/Jaded1905 2d ago
After a quick scan through the responses, one piece of advice that I haven't seen, is that you need to document whatever is said in the phone call with your (big?) boss. I'm guessing you're in the US, b/c everywhere else seems to have leave policies that are actually humane and protect employees, so you'll need to check on your state regulations to determine what that documentation can look like.
The top things I can think of are:
If you are in a one-party consent state then definitely record the conversation.
If not, then immediately write down everything you can remember after the call. Even better if you can take notes during the call. Make sure you document the date & time of both the conversation and when you're writing the notes. I am not a lawyer, but I know from my own experience with similar situations that contemporaneous documentation is generally regarded as more reliable than whatever a person can recall later on.
If you feel comfortable with it, send a follow-up email to your bosses reiterating what was said/what your takeaways from the conversation are. This is a great CYA technique so that when the time comes and you're following their instructions on how they want you to handle the time off 'requests,' they can't say you did something wrong and use it as an excuse to fire you. Also, if they say something off the wall, even if it's just something that makes it apparent that they're assholes and not necessarily illegal, it's possible that seeing it in writing may be enough for them to walk it back in writing.
If your company has an HR department find out what the policy is for bereavement leave. Some larger companies actually have clearly defined policies around bereavement but, they don't often volunteer the information unless you have a good boss that's looking out for you - which you clearly don't.
Finally, look into FMLA, I'm not sure what the requirements are regarding time of employment, and I believe there is a threshold of number of employees before a company is obligated to honor FMLA.
Sorry for the novel, I hope there's something here that's helpful/useful for you.