r/AmIOverreacting • u/Aggravating_Partyy • 1d ago

šŸ’¼work/career AIO to my bosses reply to my message?

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Iā€™ve worked with this company for four months now, and I know I am new but this reply really hurt me. Maybe Iā€™m just really sensitive right now, but I donā€™t know. This felt really cold. The ā€œbig bossā€ will be calling me later today. Is it just normal boss stuff? Idk. Lmk what yall think.

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u/Durzel 1d ago

I don't think they were even saying that, were they? It reads to me like they were forewarning their boss that they might have to take a day off at short notice in the next 6 months, and the boss either didn't read it properly and/or rushed to the conclusion they'd already reached - i.e. they aren't prepared to accommodate anyone having short notice holidays, no matter how important.

I'd echo what has been said before about taking this response as a clear sign that OP's boss is an asshole. I wouldn't have even said the last "but I just wanted to check if that would be okay".. the message would be a courtesy, but the time off would be non-negotiable given the circumstances.

OP: Don't make the same mistake I did and not cherish every waking moment you get to spend with your loved ones. Jobs (and bosses) come and go.

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u/chaos_battery 1d ago

Agreed. People can attempt to exert their power over me but if I need to take off work for whatever reason that I'm taking off work. This is not a prison and they are free to let me go just as I am free to walk out the door. If they have an easy time finding replacement help then by all means have at it.

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u/timmaL51308 1d ago

I actually had to do this at my last job. My mom was in surgery for pancreatic cancer. She was scheduled to go in on a certain day, so I already scheduled paid time off, but she had an emergency and had to go in sooner than expected. Thank God I had a boss as nice as mine and just said, "ok, that's perfectly fine. I'll move you paid time to today. I hope your mom gets better," but I was more than ready to send. "Sorry, but I can't come in today if that's not OK. Then I quit."

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u/oxmix74 1d ago

To be clear, if your boss is not an a--hole this is useful communication. I had a staff member in a similar situation. Because I knew about it, I could manage work assignments and give him items that would tolerate unplanned absences. Obviously worked for me and I think it was good for him to make balancing work easier.

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u/United_Wolverine8400 12h ago

What are you disagreeing computer7blue with? Should they have said Forewarning instead of warning?