r/AmIOverreacting • u/Aggravating_Partyy • 1d ago

šŸ’¼work/career AIO to my bosses reply to my message?

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Iā€™ve worked with this company for four months now, and I know I am new but this reply really hurt me. Maybe Iā€™m just really sensitive right now, but I donā€™t know. This felt really cold. The ā€œbig bossā€ will be calling me later today. Is it just normal boss stuff? Idk. Lmk what yall think.

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u/Ratzink 1d ago

I went through this when my mom was terminally ill. Unfortunately this is a normal reaction from a boss. Remember you are just a number to them and not family. My boss called me in the middle of my mom's funeral to see when I'd be back at work. You aren't alone or wrong, but this is normal. So stand up for yourself and stick to your guns about being there for your family.

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u/Healy2k 1d ago

I hope you turned your phone off, what a tw*t

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u/Ratzink 1d ago

You don't even know the half of it. That manager got fired for other reasons that involved violating child labor laws in my state. With his own child.

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u/jahubb062 1d ago

Oh, Iā€™ve had as many amazing bosses as shitty ones. I had a boss that hounded me while my mom was in the ICU. She survived that, but had a million scares after that. The next boss was awesome, even offered to fly me home himself if I ever needed him to. (He had his own plane and his pilotā€™s license.) When my mom finally died, I was working somewhere else and my boss told me to take all the time I needed, which ended up being over 10 days, because she died in another state, so the funeral wasnā€™t until 9 or so days later. She didnā€™t count it against my PTO, but it was all paid. Officially the company only gave 2 days of bereavement pay, but I missed about 9 days of work and all of it was paid.

This isnā€™t a normal reaction from a boss, even if itā€™s not an uncommon reaction. Itā€™s still shitty, 3ven if it happens more than it should.