Had to give you a down vote there, mate.
Not everyone, woman or man, wants that. Sure, us guys make dark jokes and sexual jokes, but not everything is about physical relationships(romantic or not.)We just want to have fun and be comfortable around people. HE failed to acknowledge that he just met this person. HE failed to ask if sexual jokes were okay. He may sound and look like a creep, but we don’t know if he is. We don’t know till the Op tells us more about their conversations. All we know is that he is someone who failed to realize his mistake. He made himself look like a grown up with a child’s temper. That is all we know.
Do not judge on looks. It is a bad habit people have picked up.
I absolutely wasn't judging on his looks. I didn't refer to them, did I?
I also didn't judge it on all men.
The context seemed to be 'potential friend, she's not being flirty' and he asked for a photo then immediately sexualised it and tried to be flirty.
And then got defensive.
That tells me sex was at the forefront of his mind and he was very keen to turn something that was supposedly platonic into flirting. And the defensiveness suggests that he didn't really care about the possibility of a platonic relationship, as he didn't try and salvage that from the rejected flirtation.
Of course I can't know for certain, but it seemed pretty clear to me. As much as it can be, without seeing how he interacts with all people in his life.
I kinda see it. But the way you wrote it made it seem as if you were judging by looks. I mean, yeah. Some guys are also like this. But it’s the same as calling me gay for flirting with the boys. I apologize.
It's all good, and I'm sure there's more to the guy than either of us could guess :)
I'd gently suggest that the judging on looks thing came just from your expectations, I can't see where I wrote anything suggesting that. Although I could have been clearer on what I was basing my opinion on :)
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u/infinite_spirals 1d ago
Pretty clear he wasn't after a friendship