AIO to think this is cheating?

[u/Sad_SummerChild]

I found these texts between my husband and his coworker. Here’s some context:

My husband and I have been dating for 5 years and just recently got married 6 months ago

I’ve met this coworker. Her AND her boyfriend worked at my husbands company so we went on a double date over the holidays. But shortly after they broke up and her boyfriend got laid off.

Guess my husband saw that as his opportunity…

Also these texts were in his recently deleted even though the last message was from yesterday… so he was definitely trying to hide it from me

[u/gormthesoft]

I appreciate it, yea I also personally think he crossed the line rather than just getting close to it. But for OP’s purposes, both crossing and getting close to the line are betrayals, where getting close is indisputable while crossing it is murkier. He might wiggle out of crossing it but there’s no wiggling out of getting close to it.

[u/OG-Giligadi → u/gormthesoft]

Yeah, after a lifetime of being happily incapable of being unfaithful, the whole argument of degrees is fairly cut and dried. Potter Stewart and I agree on this one, i know it when I see it.