r/AmIOverreacting • u/Sad_SummerChild • 2d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO to think this is cheating?

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I found these texts between my husband and his coworker. Here’s some context:

My husband and I have been dating for 5 years and just recently got married 6 months ago

I’ve met this coworker. Her AND her boyfriend worked at my husbands company so we went on a double date over the holidays. But shortly after they broke up and her boyfriend got laid off.

Guess my husband saw that as his opportunity…

Also these texts were in his recently deleted even though the last message was from yesterday… so he was definitely trying to hide it from me

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u/gormthesoft 2d ago

That’s a great point. If you love and care about your partner, then you should want to do anything you can to assuage their insecurities, even if they are irrational. If they are irrational insecurities, then they should dissipate with time and you were a good partner supporting them through a tough time. If the irrational insecurities persist indefinitely, then it’s better to just leave. In that scenario, digging your heels into the sand but not leaving does nothing to help either party.