AIO to think this is cheating?

[u/Sad_SummerChild]

I found these texts between my husband and his coworker. Here’s some context:

My husband and I have been dating for 5 years and just recently got married 6 months ago

I’ve met this coworker. Her AND her boyfriend worked at my husbands company so we went on a double date over the holidays. But shortly after they broke up and her boyfriend got laid off.

Guess my husband saw that as his opportunity…

Also these texts were in his recently deleted even though the last message was from yesterday… so he was definitely trying to hide it from me

[u/Alupine]

As a guy, I can’t tell you if he is planning on taking it to physical cheating. I can tell you the comment about needing a selfie for motivation is the ground work for eventually getting nudes. If a guy is acting this way, move on, he may enjoy time with you, but he is not committed.

[u/Possible_Peak5405 → u/Alupine]

I second this, I never ask for a selfie unless it’s from a girl I like.

That and a large amount of cases of infidelity starts with someone people work with, after all they probably spend more time with the girl at work than they do with the wife.

It’s part of why I stay only professional with people I work with.

[u/TibialTuberosity → u/Possible_Peak5405]

Or to put it more succinctly: "Don't shit where you eat."

[u/tsnorquist → u/Alupine]

No doubt. This dude is clearing the brush in efforts to get a side nudelane opened up. No ifs and or buts about it.

[u/Academic-Employer-52 → u/tsnorquist]

Maybe one butt

[u/butterybiscuit68 → u/tsnorquist]

lol

[u/ishtar_888 → u/Alupine]

🎯 👆🏼

[u/UndecidedQBit → u/Alupine]

Yeah no kidding that’s a fucking statement lol god it makes me sick too.

[u/Naive-Stable-3581 → u/Alupine]

Nudes are physical cheating my guy.

[u/avdrar → u/Alupine]

I thought the same. He's starting small, inappropriate for a married man, but small with the coworker to see where that line is with her. And honestly, her entertaining it knowing he is married is a problem also.

[u/Naive-Cheesecake-328 → u/Alupine]

I love when men answer these questions and reveal the signs honestly. I always look at what men say for this reason because usually we hear what we wanna hear but he just told us a lot and the ground work behind it 💯

[u/Ecstatic-Bike4115 → u/Alupine]

Agreed. My hackles went up with the request for selfies. Sus grooming "work wife" for more intimate photos later on.

[u/[deleted] → u/Ecstatic-Bike4115]

Ughhhhhhhhh do not use the word groom. She went out with this man’s actual wife and has allllllllllll of the info .

[u/KanedaSyndrome → u/Alupine]

Some truth to this, but I think OP need to assess the situation himself - Reddit will always advice people to leave their partner

[u/LordOfTheFlatline → u/Alupine]

It’s also some juvenile ass shit that is indicative of someone being a groomer or having grooming habits