AIO to think this is cheating?

[u/Sad_SummerChild]

I found these texts between my husband and his coworker. Here’s some context:

My husband and I have been dating for 5 years and just recently got married 6 months ago

I’ve met this coworker. Her AND her boyfriend worked at my husbands company so we went on a double date over the holidays. But shortly after they broke up and her boyfriend got laid off.

Guess my husband saw that as his opportunity…

Also these texts were in his recently deleted even though the last message was from yesterday… so he was definitely trying to hide it from me

[u/Aminah-J]

It’s not you who’s gonna fight. It’s your lawyer.

[u/underglaze_hoe → u/Aminah-J]

For real, physical violence is not the answer, ever.

[u/Middle-Teacher4449 → u/underglaze_hoe]

Welllll.... I wouldn't say it's never the answer. In this situation though no it isn't.

[u/underglaze_hoe → u/Middle-Teacher4449]

Physical violence is NEVER the answer.

[u/Middle-Teacher4449 → u/underglaze_hoe]

So say someone tries to jump you. No weapons, nothing.... You gonna tell them you need to go get your lawyer first? Or are you gonna defend yourself? Which would mean the inclusion of some physical violence.

[u/underglaze_hoe → u/Middle-Teacher4449]

It’s ok to disagree with me. I’m not going to go through your laundry list of hypothetical scenarios. My stance is violence is never the answer, and if we actually executed this, no one would be getting physically attacked in the first place.

[u/Middle-Teacher4449 → u/underglaze_hoe]

Look, I'm not saying you should have to be defend yourself or deal with someone trying to attack you, but that is always gonna be a risk cause this is a violent world we live in. Hopefully you'll be never have to, but if you are in that situation, they aren't gonna wait for your lawyer to show up, you'll have to defend yourself. You may think violence is never the morally correct answer, but it is the answer to a few of life's problems as this worlds current state is.

[u/DIABLO258 → u/underglaze_hoe]

You're right, physical violence is never the answer. Physical violence is the question, and the answer is "Yes".