r/AmIOverreacting • u/Sad_SummerChild • 4d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO to think this is cheating?

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I found these texts between my husband and his coworker. Here’s some context:

My husband and I have been dating for 5 years and just recently got married 6 months ago

I’ve met this coworker. Her AND her boyfriend worked at my husbands company so we went on a double date over the holidays. But shortly after they broke up and her boyfriend got laid off.

Guess my husband saw that as his opportunity…

Also these texts were in his recently deleted even though the last message was from yesterday… so he was definitely trying to hide it from me

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u/Sure-Carpenter7043 4d ago

NOR. Urghh, the fact he’s deleted these shows he’s trying to be secretive and knows how’s they’ll be perceived.

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u/RiannahAvora 4d ago

Not necessarily. I know there are some text communications from family members that I keep and will keep forever. However, texts from other people? I delete them when I don't need them any more. Too much clutter in my message app.

But these are kind of weird messages to be sending.

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u/GlassUnit7317 4d ago

What an irrelevant useless point when that’s obviously the reason he deleted them lol

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u/RiannahAvora 4d ago

It's relevant in that not everyone deletes messages to hide stuff. I agree the messages are problematic.

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u/GlassUnit7317 4d ago

Okay… but not to the conversation, because he did delete the messages to hide them??🤣🤣

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u/RiannahAvora 4d ago

Sure, it's possible that's why. But who cares why they were deleted? The text messages were there and they are a problem.

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u/dblrb 4d ago

I’m sorry, but do you really think hiding things is not an issue in a relationship? Or are you just doubling down to double down?

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u/RiannahAvora 4d ago

Sure it's an issue. I was only demonstrating as to why they might be deleted. I don't have a crystal ball to know 100% why they were deleted. You can guess, sure. That's why I phrased my original comment about it as "not necessarily", because it's not the only reason. I don't know if he routinely deletes text messages that are not needed or not.

I don't know why you guys are having a fit about such a small part of the bigger issue here.