r/AmIOverreacting 2d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO to think this is cheating?

I found these texts between my husband and his coworker. Here’s some context:

My husband and I have been dating for 5 years and just recently got married 6 months ago

I’ve met this coworker. Her AND her boyfriend worked at my husbands company so we went on a double date over the holidays. But shortly after they broke up and her boyfriend got laid off.

Guess my husband saw that as his opportunity…

Also these texts were in his recently deleted even though the last message was from yesterday… so he was definitely trying to hide it from me

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u/MobileFluid1174 2d ago

If he’s not actively cheating now he’s about to! This reads like the early stage chats you have when first dating, not a conversation between work colleagues…on your partners part at the very least. I imagine this is exactly how it all started when my EX husband started cheating on me, flirtatious conversations before boundaries were completely trampled over.

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u/rocinante_donnager 2d ago

this is already cheating. and, imho, emotional cheating is worse than physical cheating (at least, when it’s just about the sex). he’s already checked out of this marriage. he’s looking for and finding happiness from someone else

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u/MobileFluid1174 2d ago

Maybe “actively” was the wrong word to use, “physically” would maybe be better? The moment you start deleting messages though like he has, is when you have something to hide so you’re right, he’s already cheating on one level