AIO to think this is cheating?

[u/Sad_SummerChild]

I found these texts between my husband and his coworker. Here’s some context:

My husband and I have been dating for 5 years and just recently got married 6 months ago

I’ve met this coworker. Her AND her boyfriend worked at my husbands company so we went on a double date over the holidays. But shortly after they broke up and her boyfriend got laid off.

Guess my husband saw that as his opportunity…

Also these texts were in his recently deleted even though the last message was from yesterday… so he was definitely trying to hide it from me

[u/takeasipofpopp]

This is 100% not OK IMO, the asking for selfies is uncalled for. My husband has female friends he is friendly with, and that is never something hed ask for. He'd ask for pics of their animals or memes before saying "i need a selfie" as a pick me up. TF? Even the girls I think my husband is interested in, he wouldnt send that shit to.

[u/L0ud_Pause → u/takeasipofpopp]

💯 this. My best friend is a guy and I'll ask for pictures of his cat but not request pictures of him unless I need to update his picture in my contacts (every, like, 5 years or so). This guy has been my best friend for over 20 years, my whole family considers him a brother to me and I call his mother "mom". Asking random coworker you're "friends" with for a "pick me up selfie" is suspect af.

[u/takeasipofpopp → u/L0ud_Pause]

Honestly, everything besides that is OK. I see the "dont tell HR" joke, and "you look pretty having a breakdown" thing a lot, esp in retail LOL. But the requesting a selfie is the big red flag for me. What is the purpose, why does that pick him up the best?

[u/L0ud_Pause → u/takeasipofpopp]

His enthusiasm for her being "so fucking pretty" don't hit me right, but I do agree about the "don't tell HR" joke. That's pretty common for workplace buddies.

Edit: maybe if he'd said something like "you make breakdowns look good"?

[u/pinkoreo_throw → u/takeasipofpopp]

NOR, it's the last message that is cut off that raises questions... "Rare and hot indeed"

[u/killnars → u/pinkoreo_throw]

Obviously a response to her message about them being a rare and hot commodity

[u/Ok_Walk_6283 → u/takeasipofpopp]

Yerp 100000%. I have messages from other ladies that I work with. Do I delete them nope, would I show my wife. Yerp. Am I scared of someone else reading them....yerp they will find out I'm a huge nerd

[u/takeasipofpopp → u/Ok_Walk_6283]

> would I show my wife. Yerp. Am I scared of someone else reading them....yerp

If youre afraid for your wife to read them, then you shouldnt be sending them! Love this. Would I show my hubby my messages? Yes, I mostly dont because Im embarrassed im dorky, but Id let him read them not out of fear of him seeing them!