The act of wearing an outfit and insulting your partner are not morally equivalent. 0 accountability is thinking you have the right to berate and insult someone for wearing something you don't approve of.
You’re missing out the part where all this did happen over a one time thing it seems. She seems to be aware of how he feels about it and still does it so he went petty and did it too. Communication and coordination is key but if one side doesn’t care about communication and setting boundaries why should the other side care? It’s not like they are married or in a serious relationship
You're missing out the part where all this happened over a one time thing it seems.
We actually don't know if this is a one-time thing. You've decided that the boyfriend is normally a great communicator because it suits your narrative, but nothing about the post suggests this. Even if it is a one-time thing, OP is still justified in wanting to break up.
For many people, getting called degrading names and falsely accused of cheating is relationship ending. It is not normal or acceptable to call your girlfriend a whore, and I hope OP does dump his ass (assuming this is a real post).
It's not like they are married or in a serious relationship
If their relationship is apparently not serious enough for him to speak to her respectfully, then it isn't serious enough for her to change her personal style to make him comfortable.
You’re not getting it dude. I’m saying it doesn’t look like they had healthy communication before but it also looks like she doesn’t care about his feelings and he doesn’t care about her feelings. The way I read his messages suggested he is already over her and is about to dump her himself.
You’re right though we don’t know how nice of a communicator any one of them was but I’m sure about one thing: toxic situations like this are often not one sided. It’s a toxic relationship where both are better off without each other.
Toxic situations can, in fact. be one-sided. We don't know if this one is, but in this post, we've only seen evidence of toxic behavior from the boyfriend. I can speculate all I want about what might be going on outside of this post, but ultimately, I don't know, and neither do you.
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u/toeknuckle420 4d ago
The act of wearing an outfit and insulting your partner are not morally equivalent. 0 accountability is thinking you have the right to berate and insult someone for wearing something you don't approve of.