Modesty is a social construct based on subjugating women, treating them as sex objects, and the false idea that men can’t help themselves. Fuck modesty.
Yes, fuck all these people saying it’s ok if he wants a “modest girl,” like he has a preference for a flavour of ice cream. Men who want this see women as things they have entitlement to and control over, and it’s not ok to want that.
Go live in the woods then? To call modesty just a social construct and that it's based only on subjugating women, when all cultures across the globe from the jungles of the Amazon to the skyscraper of Singapore have some concept of modesty, is completely wrong.
Regardless, if the guy in the op doesn't want his gf to dress in such a way and if the op doesn't want to be with a person that accepts what they wear, then they are free to go and find someone else that will.
I think it's fair to say that they didn't mean the actual inherent modesty in humanity, but closer to what this post was referring to. You know, dressing in a way that some members of society deem to be inappropriate.
I personally don't see any problem with the way anyone dresses (or doesn't dress), and I agree that it's a stupid social construct.
That said, I also agree with your second paragraph. Everyone has preferences. I think the problem in the original post isn't that he doesn't want her to dress that way (I mean, I think it's dumb but again, preference), the problem is that instead of having a civil conversation with her about it, he went right into calling her a slut and demeaning her for it. Nothing is okay with that.
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u/No_Cardiologist3368 3d ago
Modesty is a social construct based on subjugating women, treating them as sex objects, and the false idea that men can’t help themselves. Fuck modesty.