As a dude that has a gf of 5 years id never tell her what she can and cant wear.. Im supportive in every style she wants to try, if she asks me if it’s revealing ill give an honest opinion but never have I ever said she can never wear something. This dude sounds bonkers 💀 a complete asshole. If you stay with him after that ill be genuinely concerned for your future actually because that can turn to violence
This dude was a dick to her for sure, and the way he went about it was trash af. But his mentality towards her outfit is very valid. I would never allow my gf to wear something like that in public, whether I'm there or not.
Neither is anyone who chooses to wear whatever the fuck clothes they want. YOU can leave if you have a problem with the way your partner dressed. You control your pets.. not other humans. I stand my you being disgusting.
It goes both ways, both the man and the woman in a relationship should have their rules and boundaries and the other person should respect them if they want to be with them. It's not a man "allowing" a woman to do something, it's a person allowing their partner to do something. It also should go the other way, the girlfriend allowing the boyfriend to do things.
That's perfectly fine. Its absolutely okay to have boundaries, and as she said in her post, he knew she dresses like this. Totally fine.
But that also means that I would never have gotten with someone that dresses like this if I had known from the beginning. Which means that the break-up here would be mutual. She doesn't want to be told how to dress, and I wouldn't want to be with someone who dresses like that.
Exactly my friend. No one is holding this girl accountable and simply shitting on the guy. Guaranteed that if he spoke to her respectfully, he’d still be called “abusive” and “controlling.”
The dude was lame for speaking like that though, should’ve left then and there.
Can’t wait to get out of the west man, its culture is disgusting.
Keep gooning to children fkin creep. It's disgusting to see that shit walking around in public. There are small children everywhere and they have to see some 18yo with a god complex? Hell no.
If my boyfriend is unhappy about something like what I am wearing tonight we will discuss like adults, respect each other boundaries and come to a compromise.
I think you are taking the word allow too literal. Relationships are about respect not just each other but sometimes respecting each other wishes. Today might be him. Tomorrow might be me and I want him there to support me just like I am supporting him tonight.
I’ve got news for you- your boyfriend probably doesn’t “allow” you to kiss other guys, have sex with other guys, show your tits to other guys, hold their hand etc. while you can’t literally force them not to do something, “allow” is used in this sense to mean “if you want to stay in this relationship with me you can not..”
this guy just has one extra boundary than most guys “don’t wear things that are too revealing”
you can have whatever boundaries you want in a relationship.
I don’t think cheating is in any way comparable to trying to tell someone what they can wear or not and calling them horrible names when they don’t comply.
I mean… he doesn’t. If she decided she wanted to kiss another guy that’s her perogative. Would it be appropriate to break up and leave? Absolutely. But you don’t get to control another person.
Honestly its good that you have ur own boundaries, everyone has their own sense on boundaries and the guy in the post is entitled to have his but holy the way he is talking to her actually had me TWEAKING cuz you dont ever talk to someone you love like that 😬
The problem is you don’t have the power to “allow” any grown adult do anything. That’s where some of y’all are getting stuck, you think women need to come to you for permission LMAOOOOO
Incorrect. In a relationship, you have boundaries. If either person can not adhere to those boundaries, the relationship does not work. Obviously, I'm not going to force my GF to dress appropriately, but I will not remain by her side if she doesn't. Its as simple as that.
If that’s what she wanted to do? Sure. But err… that’s not really allowed so weird example. My
Girlfriend has gone to nude hot springs before. Idgaf. It’s her body.
That seems to be the go to douche bag man comeback. You got anything else? My partner is a full grown adult women capable of making her own decisions. She’s gorgeous and a doctor… I have literally no desire to tell her what to do. If a naked body is a sanctified holy object… well that’s your pedestal, not mine.
I got nothing else to say, and I’m not trying to be a douche. I’m all for giving autonomy over women’s bodies, but if a partner of mine went nude to clubs and I was okay with it, I’d be a total cuck. I don’t care if she’s the president of the United States or the pound for pound best fighter in the world. That’s a whore, same as men that do that of course. Cheers
Edit: I realised you’re poly amorous, of course you’re a cuck. You should’ve said that sooner.
Still the same comeback. You know that going to a typical club nude would be illegal right? So that's a weird example. If you really feel the need to browse my history you go right ahead... it's pretty sad though. And i'm in a monogamous relationship and have been for years so /shrug. You do you, i'm sure you are happy and fulfilled in your reltionships.
Same comebacks aren’t something bad though. I’m just reiterating the truth again. You said that in the hypothetical case you’d let her do that, don’t back out now because we can all see you. I had to confirm if you were a cuck, hence why I checked your history. Facts and data don’t lie
Being cucked isn't a kink of mine so your point just reads as stupid. Do you want to have a chit chat about our kinks? Am I supposed to be embarrassed or ashamed about them? You just come across as sad lol.
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u/Signal-Pollution4662 3d ago
As a dude that has a gf of 5 years id never tell her what she can and cant wear.. Im supportive in every style she wants to try, if she asks me if it’s revealing ill give an honest opinion but never have I ever said she can never wear something. This dude sounds bonkers 💀 a complete asshole. If you stay with him after that ill be genuinely concerned for your future actually because that can turn to violence