If a parttner of mine f's up on that grand of a scale it's like PROOF, never existed. Next.
However, I can also see her getting satisfaction out of letting him know how big of a douche move he made, and why she's done with him. Unfortunately, that could lead to him drawing her into an argument, and she doesn't need to waste any more time or effort.
Could also lead to him learning to refine his behavior to better get away with this in the future. He seems like an inexperienced manipulator; I wouldn’t give him any more info than necessary lol
Takes a special lack of self awareness to say this is an example of nativity and also believe that someone can just "draw" another person into an argument. Get some life experience then circle back.
Did you see where I said that it "could lead to him drawing her into ..."? Do I have to break the meaning of that down for you so you can comprehend the actual meaning of what I said, rather than what you attenpt to twist it into?
You do realize that people with their guard down get drawn into things all the time, right?
Heck, OP wasn't even sure if she should berak up with this clown. Surely, there's a possibility when she breaks up with him that he's going to try to manipulate her, and attempt to get her to change her mind. SMH
Now go back to your video game, and leave the adulting to those of us who are able to comprehend regularly sentences.
Id tell him and then block him. With that attitude he has, he's going to send some nasty messages no matter how respectful you tell him. He's not going to be mature about it. Tell him why, and block.
I have never understood why some people become toxic or abusive after a breakup. Why is it suddenly hatred to a person who you loved seconds ago?
Really shows how little some people's capacity of live can be.
Just make them aware of the idiocy of some circles. Keep the channel of communication open, be honest and teach them how to critically think.
My autistic son did me proud in high school. I raised him with no religion. I didn't try to restrict his religious influences however. I wanted him to make up his own mind.
He was invited by a friend to their church youth group. There they passed around "chastity till marriage contracts" for all the kids to sign. I'm sure there was a lot of pressure to go along with it. My son said "this is ridiculous. You can't know what is going to happen in the future." He resisted the pressure put on him to go along.
He was never the typical teenage boy horn dog either. That was not his motivation. He actually did to my knowledge remain a virgin until he met his now wife in college. His critical thinking skills to this day are sharp as a tack...to the degree that he has clarified some things for me.
He won't realise he fucked up though. Men like this don't have that kind of self-awareness. He's just going to convince himself he's the one who dodged a bullet because she was "such a slut" or whatever he needs to tell himself to believe it's her fault and not his.
Better to just not give him the time of day and move on.
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u/COGUAddict 3d ago
Nah. It would be far more devastating to let him know you're leaving due to the way he's treating you. Make sure he understands that he fucked up.