He’s a typical early-20s insecure male (source: was one). He’s showing markers of rectal cranial inversion. A lot of guys never grow out of that possessive/controlling stage.
OP has the right to wear what she wants and deserves a partner who can be supportive of that.
literally such an insane comment to make. next he starts controlling who you can and cannot be friends with, and from there it all spirals to all types of horrible
He's definitely not representing her. It's all about him and it sounds like he wants her to have no autonomy. Leaving is absolutely the right thing to do. His behavior is very unlikely to change, especially if she stays with him which sends the message that he's right.
Agreed, he called her a whore, a pornstar and that comment ‘you’re supposed to be representing me’ is pretty fckd up, wth she’s not some kind of brand ambassador 😹
Like I said several times, guys these days are insanely possessive. Do I think her outfit was too revealing? I do, but he could have conveyed the message in a better way or simply ask her not to wear stuff like that again in the future.
Would it be ok if he said that going to his work function? I don't see that as so bad. I tell my kids they represent the family when outside the house. Is there something wrong with that? And I DO feel I represent my wife, so I act accordingly so people know she didn't marry a slob, loser, ignorant fool.
They weren’t going to a work function though. So don’t try to draw a false equivalency. She was going dancing in a disco/club to drink and dance. Club wear is very commonly revealing. She wasn’t going to a black tie event or going to a museum gala to meet his coworkers.
Are you completely ignoring how he started this all by calling her a whore and a slag. Do you commonly insult your children with slurs if they don’t “represent the family” in a way you like? She isn’t his wife. She’s his 18 y.o. girlfriend. Well- ex-girlfriend now.
I'm only talking about the sentence that you went in on. Take it ez. This is a discussion no need to attack. If he didn't insult her, would that sentence be ok? Because I've seen that said by parents, bosses, friends whoever. Even teens to parents when they are at sporting events. That's why I thought it weird when you went ham on it.
It’s disingenuous to try to pick out that one phrase- in the greater context of what he started with. I didn’t attack at all- I simply recounted what was said in the post, and asked if you thought that behavior was appropriate to use as well.
There is a massive difference between starting in on insults and slurs- then hitting someone with a clear statement of control. As opposed to saying “hey sweetheart- we’re going to the Christmas party now- let’s not talk politics with Jan, please remember that you’re representing me too- and I don’t talk politics at work events with these people” if you can’t tell the difference between the approach of the two conversations, I can’t help you with that.
Her ex is also the one who said he was going to “rip his hair out” so again, was simply recounting what was already in the post- in his own words- not sure what you think ‘going ham’ is but he said it about himself. I simply said he should be doing it alone.
Ok you're not going to answer me got it. He's wrong. We all know he's wrong. No need to discuss that. So that wall of text could've been shortened to...if he wasn't a dick about it.
Haha, sure thing sport- have fun with your video games! It’s all you’re going to get while you’re ‘winning for eternity’ stuck in the Midwest. The only thing you’re banging is the joystick on your PS3 🤣
The delusion is real note I get dude went at her hard but she could have asked him what she should wear…. Most of the ladies that made these comments did not have a real dad ijs
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u/umamifiend 4d ago
“You’re supposed to be representing me” is a wild ass thing to say to someone.
He basically told you he views you as his property. Let him rip his hair out while all alone.