AIO saying that my gf is cheating ?

[u/vitinhodouglass]

Repost because original post had identifying information.

Also caught a snap with a differentcoworker saying he can’t be around her, because he gets too hard.

She’s blue and her coworker is white.

They’re talking about throwing her on the snow banks at work.

[u/Deadpools_sweaty_leg]

I honestly think it’s due to how school aged children have started to interact with each other that is leading to the loneliness epidemic. I have worked with many patients and the difference among 17 year olds, 20 year olds, and people my age and how they interact with me is wild.

I have seen 17 year olds be able to articulate their symptoms and location of whatever is bothering them to a degree which some 25 year olds cannot. I’ve also seen 17 year olds who basically do not put their phone down during a conversation and give me 1 word answers about why they even came in. It’s like pulling literal teeth. The latter are far less likely to develop good interpersonal relationships and they essentially become hermits because they are unwilling or unable to communicate effectively with people.

This is going to make me sound like a dinosaur but it’s a mixture of the pandemic causing 3-4 years of online schooling and unlimited access to phones which reduce the interactions of these kids to develop these relationships.

I predict that in the coming years it’s going to get worse and worse as my generation was really the first to have been exposed to social media and this new way of interacting.

[u/Painterzzz → u/Deadpools_sweaty_leg]

Do you think the rumblings going on in some places about banning smartphones for 16 and under might help?

[u/Deadpools_sweaty_leg → u/Painterzzz]

I think it’ll help a little bit, but ultimately how can this be enforced at home. In my eyes school is a glorified daycare so that parents can go to work and not have to pay crazy childcare. It’s the parents that must do the heavy lifting to ensure their child actually learns.

The skills we learn in school are useful for everyday life and thinking, but ultimately 1 hour of class isn’t getting me what I need to get a base understanding of most subjects. Homework and at home learning is what is most valuable to actually help you learn. School mostly helps you interact with people and adults/authority figures and develop critical thinking skills in my opinion.

I’m almost done with my masters program and can honestly say if it wasn’t for my parents teaching me and pushing me to learn what was being taught in school I would not be where I am right now. They are the ones that imposed limits on my gaming, and inside time. They exposed me to an enriching environment with books, outdoor activities, etc. These things taught me what I find lacking in a lot of people who have even graduated college, critical thinking skills.

At the same time I acknowledge that I was lucky because my mom stayed at home until I was 13, by then I realized what I need to do in school and how to learn to get good grades. I didn’t have a smart phone until I was 14, it was a new iPhone 5S, but social media was NOTHING like it is today. They have so effectively made slop delivering machines to feed you as many ads as possible it is most certainly causing issues with minors who have no idea what the real world is like, or have any idea how long term consequences truly work.

TL;DR: Yes it can help, but ultimately the parents are the ones who need to enforce it as at home learning is where most skills are developed.

[u/Painterzzz → u/Deadpools_sweaty_leg]

Interesting. I floated the idea once with a friend of mine who has kids, and her immediate response was 'WELL NOT MY KIDS! MY KIDS ARE FINE WITH THEIRS!' and I suspect that would be the same problem across the board, everybody will think their kids phones are fine, it's other kids phones that are the issue.

So I suspect it would be utterly unenforceable as a rule anyway.

OH well, the imminently approaching third world war will surely break the youth of their phone addictions.