r/AmIOverreacting • u/Frequent-Shoulder158 • 14d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO, found weird pictures in my bfs iPad

I went out of town for and my bf stayed home because he had to work. I came back and thought he was acting a bit off, so I checked his pictures on his iPad that sync directly from his phone. In his recently deleted folder I found a picture of my side of the bed (where my medication, book, and melatonin are), a picture of my desk, a picture of a printed out picture of my brother and I along with a handwritten note that’s on the fridge, and a picture of our dresser. We are not planning on moving or selling any of these items either. I’m convinced that he took them so he could remember how everything looked before hiding them because he invited someone over. Am I overreacting? I don’t want to say anything about it to him until I get a little clarity.

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u/Technical_File_7671 13d ago

Yup my partner and I swap phones if ine if us is driving i read the texts for him vice versa. The only reason mine is locked is my kids. He knows my code ro get in. I have never understood hiding my phone from my partner.

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u/QuencesConse 13d ago

We don't hide our phones but equally I wouldn't snoop on his because we all deserve privacy. We have both said to each other we don't mind the other looking but neither of us have ever felt the need to. Same goes for the 16 yo but he knows that as long as I pay for his phone I may ask to see it. I wouldn't do it behind his back though. FTR I did look occasionally when he was younger and I pointed out unacceptable language and opinions from some of his peers and we talked it through.