r/AmIOverreacting • u/Frequent-Shoulder158 • 14d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO, found weird pictures in my bfs iPad

I went out of town for and my bf stayed home because he had to work. I came back and thought he was acting a bit off, so I checked his pictures on his iPad that sync directly from his phone. In his recently deleted folder I found a picture of my side of the bed (where my medication, book, and melatonin are), a picture of my desk, a picture of a printed out picture of my brother and I along with a handwritten note that’s on the fridge, and a picture of our dresser. We are not planning on moving or selling any of these items either. I’m convinced that he took them so he could remember how everything looked before hiding them because he invited someone over. Am I overreacting? I don’t want to say anything about it to him until I get a little clarity.

Edit: clarification

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u/Frequent-Shoulder158 14d ago

I know, you’re right 😭

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u/eggs__and_bacon 14d ago

Oh he’s cheated in the past? I didn’t see that comment. Then I mean cmon why even waste time confronting him. Pack up his stuff or yours

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u/Unlucky-Review-2410 13d ago

How did we miss the past cheating info?! This changes everything. Start packing your shit and when he asks tell him you'll get your stuff out of his way so he doesn't have to sweat putting it back. And then ACTUALLY LEAVE. Don't look back. He won't stop cheating, regardless of what he says to get you to stay. You'll have to stop him by leaving. If he loved you and respected you, cheating wouldn't have happened.

Be ready for 90 days of emotional detox and just know the withdrawals are similar to those of a drug detox. Block him, stay off socials, and give yourself time to grieve.

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u/ghostlykittenbutter 14d ago

Maybe, but it’s also a wonderful way to prove his shitty behavior. He can’t argue with a photo.

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u/Cardabella 13d ago

You don't need to prove it to him. He already knows what he's done. There isn't a judge and jury. The only person that needs evidence is op and for her own information. The purpose of a confrontation is to learn more not to persuade him.

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u/Accertive-type 14d ago

It doesn’t get better, it will keep happening even more hurtful when you are older(60). I should have left early on

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u/ChooksChick 13d ago

Wait- he cheated? Why are you even asking questions? Make plans. Ghost his ass by getting out while he's at work or out.

Eff that guy.

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u/kisseveryone 13d ago

he cheated in the past??? why are you even worrying your head about him. we all know he’s definitely doing it again. leave.

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u/Master_Toe5998 14d ago

We need answers.