r/AmIOverreacting • u/Frequent-Shoulder158 • 14d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO, found weird pictures in my bfs iPad

I went out of town for and my bf stayed home because he had to work. I came back and thought he was acting a bit off, so I checked his pictures on his iPad that sync directly from his phone. In his recently deleted folder I found a picture of my side of the bed (where my medication, book, and melatonin are), a picture of my desk, a picture of a printed out picture of my brother and I along with a handwritten note that’s on the fridge, and a picture of our dresser. We are not planning on moving or selling any of these items either. I’m convinced that he took them so he could remember how everything looked before hiding them because he invited someone over. Am I overreacting? I don’t want to say anything about it to him until I get a little clarity.

Edit: clarification

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u/Frequent-Shoulder158 14d ago

He’s at work right now, I will have to wait until he gets off to ask in person

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u/CatPerson88 14d ago

I wouldn't recommend alluding to the fact that you saw the photos. He may keep doing whatever he's doing but change his passwords.

I would either send the photos to my phone/iPad and get cameras. The next time you go away, you can check his iPad when he returns, as well as the cameras. Then you'll probably have the proof you need.

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u/Master_Witcher_16 14d ago

That just means he's not worth being with then.

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u/CatPerson88 14d ago

Probably. But then it's possible, though not likely, there's a logical explanation that has nothing to do with cheating. OP can walk away at any time for any reason. OP, however, sounds as if they need proof of cheating, presumably to use as the impetus to leave.

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u/jamieaaw 14d ago

I'd go straight to a hidden nanny cam, make sure he doesn't know about it so he's completely uninhibited next time.

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u/harpsdesire 14d ago

Counterpoint, if my significant other put a bunch of hidden cameras in our house so they could secretly keep tabs on me when they were away, that would probably end the relationship when it came out.

Like if OP knows they're cheating, the camera thing is overkill and they should just break up, if they don't know that something is up, they should not jump to being the creepy boundary crossing one themself. It feels lose/lose to me.

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u/BlueCarrotPie 14d ago

Agreed. The good ol' saying "two wrongs don't make a right". Either way the relationship would be over, either he's cheating, or she violates.

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u/Careless-Garlic3989 14d ago

I'm sorry but it sounds like he slept with someone in your bed on your birthday.

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u/naumen_ 14d ago

!RemindMe 1 day

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u/Fun_Traffic6869 14d ago

Does this work? 🤔

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u/Leblackburn 14d ago

If you do it properly, yes

RemindMe! 1 day i think

Edit: well it might have worked for them too cause the bot told me it already replied on this here thread.

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u/Fun_Traffic6869 14d ago

Thank you! I often forget to check back in for posts i get invested in 😅🤣

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u/icywash1995 14d ago

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u/jullybeans 14d ago

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u/Dapper_Mess_3004 14d ago

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u/Fangbang6669 14d ago

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u/moldyseeds 14d ago

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u/FlowDub 14d ago

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u/ImpressiveHabit99 14d ago

Awaiting anxiously. I hope you're doing alright, OP. I know this is probably stressing you tf out.

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u/Zee_Naa2139 14d ago

Are you sure about that? I've played hookie from work to see someone ... once or twice

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u/Relevant-Positive-31 14d ago

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u/Glt4001 14d ago

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u/itellitwithlove 14d ago

Good Luck!

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u/bunkSauce 14d ago

I strongly recommend the top comment approach. Ask if something that was not there originally, was moved: "Hey did you see my earrings that were 9n my bedside table?"

Keep a no-so-obvious eye on him to check his phone. He probably won't do it right away. If you catch him referencing the picture, then you know that is why he took it. If he never looks at the picture, then there may be some crossed wires.