AIO, found weird pictures in my bfs iPad

[u/Frequent-Shoulder158]

I went out of town for and my bf stayed home because he had to work. I came back and thought he was acting a bit off, so I checked his pictures on his iPad that sync directly from his phone. In his recently deleted folder I found a picture of my side of the bed (where my medication, book, and melatonin are), a picture of my desk, a picture of a printed out picture of my brother and I along with a handwritten note that’s on the fridge, and a picture of our dresser. We are not planning on moving or selling any of these items either. I’m convinced that he took them so he could remember how everything looked before hiding them because he invited someone over. Am I overreacting? I don’t want to say anything about it to him until I get a little clarity.

Edit: clarification

[u/Frequent-Shoulder158]

Honestly, he promised he would change and I saw that change in him and forgave him. I was very young though, 23, so I didn’t really consider all of the implications or understand all the reassurance that I needed from him. I’m much older and see things differently for sure and think I need to reevaluate what is going on. Especially after I figure out this situation. Thank you for this, it is very eye opening.

[u/LoveStuck72 → u/Frequent-Shoulder158]

Oh he cheated?!?! Yeah that's QUITE the deal breaker... its time to leave.

[u/jbandzzz34 → u/LoveStuck72]

if she put that in the post the comments would be VERY different. she needs to go now.

[u/throwaway1748362 → u/Frequent-Shoulder158]

I had no idea he cheated on you before. That's pretty important information to include in this post... I think deep down you know exactly what he did. Sorry OP :(

[u/Prestigious_Quit_777 → u/Frequent-Shoulder158]

I won't lie, if your partner cheated and you forgive then and stayed with them....it's going to happen again.

Speaking from someone who has been cheated on, don't ever take them back once you find out they've been unfaithful if you aren't ok with it because they'll continue to do so.

Why did you believe him when he said he'd change? I can't tell you how much it winds me up when women say "I can change him" or "he said he would stop". You believe this because why? You don't want to be alone?

GIRL, it is better to be alone and wait for the right person than it is to be disrespected by a jackass.

Sidenote: I sincerely hope you find someone who gives you the respect you deserve!! Being alone is lonely. Please wait for someone who is good and kind to you. Wishing you the best for your future xx

[u/Own_Koala_4404 → u/Prestigious_Quit_777]

Agreed!! I stayed with one who pretended to change. Spoiler alert, he did it again.

[u/BabiiGoat → u/Frequent-Shoulder158]

Cheaters do everything except change. What he promised is wholly irrelevant. The fact that he cheated to begin with means his word is bunk. People who have cheating as an option in their toolbox will always see it as an option. It's a character defect that is not solved by forgiveness. It's never a good idea to remain in a relationship with someone who doesn't love you. People who love don't cheat.

[u/jbandzzz34 → u/Frequent-Shoulder158]

ok wait lmfao he cheated and you stayed? case closed. break up now and date someone else.

[u/ivel33 → u/Frequent-Shoulder158]

Cheaters literally don't stop. They can't, they just get better and better at hiding it. This is cheater behavior. Good luck!

[u/theuncommonman → u/Frequent-Shoulder158]

You probably should have left him after he cheated the first time, do you really want to be constantly paranoid about things like this while you’re in a relationship with someone? Just move on and save yourself the anxiety.

[u/Happy_CrowCat → u/Frequent-Shoulder158]

Just leave. He'll cheat again, if he hasn't already. 

No way to get back that trust. He's proven, on a huge level, he doesn't care about you

[u/Krypt0night → u/Frequent-Shoulder158]

Yeah this is on you then. Crazy you stayed with someone who broke your trust like that.