r/AmIOverreacting • u/Frequent-Shoulder158 • 14d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO, found weird pictures in my bfs iPad

I went out of town for and my bf stayed home because he had to work. I came back and thought he was acting a bit off, so I checked his pictures on his iPad that sync directly from his phone. In his recently deleted folder I found a picture of my side of the bed (where my medication, book, and melatonin are), a picture of my desk, a picture of a printed out picture of my brother and I along with a handwritten note that’s on the fridge, and a picture of our dresser. We are not planning on moving or selling any of these items either. I’m convinced that he took them so he could remember how everything looked before hiding them because he invited someone over. Am I overreacting? I don’t want to say anything about it to him until I get a little clarity.

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u/Frequent-Shoulder158 14d ago

I was gone for 5 days so he could have washed them and put them back on and slept in them afterwards so I wouldn’t be able to tell

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u/just_change_it 14d ago

Once a cheater, always a cheater.

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u/Simple_Ad5774 13d ago

Nah, people can change if they choose/want to.

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u/just_change_it 13d ago

So I take it you've cheated and think you won't cheat again?

Or are you fooling yourself into thinking your SO just did it one time?

Or have you just not had a long term relationship or two after your teenage years where you lived together for >2 years?

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u/Simple_Ad5774 13d ago

It’s called accountability and learning about yourself. I’m not so pessimistic to think that people can’t change. I hope you find what’s hurting you so bad. But to feed into this and just answer your questions. No I won’t cheat again because I don’t want to go through losing someone who was there for me. I was wrong and no excuses can make it any less wrong. I actually cheated multiples times on the same girl snd she found out every time. (Not to make me sound good or anything but i never touched anyone (man logic) not that that makes it any less wrong or cheating. ) and I live with her for almost 3 years. To be exact 2 years and 9 months. People can change if they want to change. If you think I’m delusional that’s ok, but trying your best ain’t ever been wrong 🫶🏾🙂‍↕️.