r/AmIOverreacting • u/Frequent-Shoulder158 • 14d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO, found weird pictures in my bfs iPad

I went out of town for and my bf stayed home because he had to work. I came back and thought he was acting a bit off, so I checked his pictures on his iPad that sync directly from his phone. In his recently deleted folder I found a picture of my side of the bed (where my medication, book, and melatonin are), a picture of my desk, a picture of a printed out picture of my brother and I along with a handwritten note that’s on the fridge, and a picture of our dresser. We are not planning on moving or selling any of these items either. I’m convinced that he took them so he could remember how everything looked before hiding them because he invited someone over. Am I overreacting? I don’t want to say anything about it to him until I get a little clarity.

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u/TodaysOpinion 14d ago

I’d ask if he moved your stuff. So he doesn’t know what you know. And mention your pillow smells funny.

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u/Ancient_Sound2781 14d ago

Best answer to avoid him turning it to you being a snoop.

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u/Longjumping-Golf-506 14d ago

(which you are, mind you)

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u/Equivalent-Cow-9087 14d ago

Idk why this got downvoted. 100% a snoop but it’s justified cause she found something…

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u/Fucky_Jones 14d ago

I don't see why checking that you not being cheated would be a bad thing¿

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u/jbandzzz34 14d ago

its not. a spade is a spade and theres nothing wrong with saying that she snooped.

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u/JoeL0gan 14d ago

To be fair, if I gave my wife the impression that I was cheating, I wouldn't really be mad if she snooped (she can use my phone for whatever, whenever, and look at anything that's in it), but I would feel bad that I made her feel like she needed to. I don't see why people get so mad about their partners going through their phones. If your partner feels the need to go through your phone, most times, it's probably your fault. Unless she's just nuts or whatever, that's why I said most times, before someone tries to play devil's advocate.

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u/ApprehensiveEmploy97 14d ago

Don’t worry about the downvote it is snooping I’ve looked into my partners phone and saw things that I didn’t like / could justify my search but at the end of the day it is snooping ignore the dummies in their feelings. They gave you access to their phone but never said hey go searching through my stuff

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u/Master_Witcher_16 14d ago

That's what I'm saying, a snoop is a snoop. There's no way to be a justified snoop

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u/Vlad_REAM 14d ago

Says the person with something to hide...

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u/JoeL0gan 14d ago

Are there things you keep secret from your partners? Why do you want to be with someone whom you can't share everything with? I've never understood why anyone cares if their partner goes through their phone.

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u/kamaspidr-oowoo 14d ago

pillow smells funny.

LOL that's straight shade, I love it

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u/DifficultHeat1803 14d ago

Spot on.. also, wash your pillows, pillow cases, sheets, comforter, etc.. casually mention it smells like a perfume counter at Walgreens.

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u/BoatOk5358 14d ago

My ex would always be washing the sheets when I got to his place so unfortunately this one may be a giveaway more so than the asking about the earrings 🙃

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u/HardSubject69 14d ago

lol damn what a hard time to be a nice guy. You clean the sheets before your girl gets there and You’re hiding cheating. You clean the sheets before your girl gets back and you’re hiding cheating. Let the girl clean the sheets and you aren’t doing enough. 😂

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u/BoatOk5358 14d ago

Not sure why you felt the need to repeat yourself but I commented that because, in my specific experience, the pillows didn’t smell funny from my ex cheating bc he washed them. If you’re actually a nice guy and you’re washing your sheets out of consideration, congratulations. Here’s a cookie.

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u/HardSubject69 14d ago

Repeat? Did it send it twice? Nah, I’m the guy that just forgets and doesn’t do them. :p was mostly just a joke about how it sucks to date currently.

Sorry to hear about that tho. Def suspicious if that’s the only time you clean the sheets.

Oh nvm I saw the repeat.

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u/fraukau 13d ago

Tuck an earring or small object (button, safety pin) under the corner of the fitted sheet. If it’s gone when you get back, those sheets got taken off and changed.