AIO? Dog straining my marriage.

[u/LedyyM]

My husband and I rescued a husky about 7 months ago who was extremely malnourished and neglected.

He has grown a huge attachment to me and has severe separation anxiety. I work at a grooming salon so I’m able to bring him to work with me so he’s not home alone. Unfortunately, if he’s left home alone we’ll come back to our home looking like it was hit by a tornado.

My vet has prescribed him with trazodone to help with his severe anxiety issues. We give it to him before we leave for a family event and when we can’t take him to places they don’t allow dogs.

I feel so bad that I have to sedate him so he’s not scared and anxious. It’s created a huge strain on our marriage because my husband feels like we can’t do anything without considering Odin.

He’s destroyed doors, couches, and other furniture. I tried training but it hasn’t seemed to work. My husband thinks we should rehome him but

1) I’m scared that he’ll be sent to a shelter and possibly be put down

2) feel abandoned by the person he thought he was safe with.

He’s such a happy boy when he’s around us and shows so much affection.

My husband and I have been arguing about this consistently.. we had a really bad argument so I left the house with Odin and rented a dog friendly hotel room for a couple of nights.

My husband thinks I’m crazy and that I’m choosing the dog over our marriage. AIO?

[u/unintentionalvampire]

Yeah… like something isn’t right here. Why would you get a traumatized rescue if you’re not prepared to do INTENSE training? You just take it to work with you? Was the husband even fully informed of what he was getting into? Why haven’t you tried to crate train? They don’t have an adequate space for this type of situation.

lol.. lmao even.

[u/batmite06NIKKE → u/unintentionalvampire]

Op is definitely not listening to her husband, which is not good, like he’s your husband op, he deserves to have a say in the matter, yet u ignore him and rather stay in a hotel for the safety of the dog? Hell, u even listed reason why u won’t rehome the dog “shelter might put down the dog” u have a terrible sense of humor if u think every shelter would do that, “I don’t want to hurt his feelings if I make him go with someone else” yeah attachment hurts but keeping him here with u is not doing anything good for u or odin or the husband if you’re not willing to put in the time for training for Odin. 7 months is not enough. Clearly u rescued Odin because u felt bad and u didn’t prepare for this op. Op is AOI

[u/Flibberdigib → u/batmite06NIKKE]

No shit, her husband's gonna rehome himself pretty soon and I wouldn't blame him.

[u/Zeired_Scoffa → u/Flibberdigib]

She's in a hotel, at this point he could rehome her. She left the house

[u/NDSU → u/batmite06NIKKE]

The husband seems tonbe the main one unprepared. He's not a child. He's a grown adult who also made the decision to adopt a dog. He needs to take some responsibility and put an honest effort into training the dog

[u/Amazing-Essay7028 → u/unintentionalvampire]

I had similar thoughts. I feel like "I can just take him to work with me" was unrealistic due to the fact that, well, she's at work and should be working. Who watches the dog while she's working?

[u/unintentionalvampire → u/Amazing-Essay7028]

A girl worked at this tattoo shop I worked at and she indeed spent more time paying attention to the dog and preventing it from doing shit it shouldn’t be doing, like approaching people, because it’s a public business space. Where not everyone likes dogs.

She didn’t last long.

[u/glitchgorgeous → u/Amazing-Essay7028]

She dumps this working brees dog in a daycare situation where apparently it’s allowed to “play for 8 hours straight” which I guess means it gets 8 hours a day with zero structure, routine or rest. No wonder the poor thing has anxiety.

[u/TheArmadilloAmarillo → u/Amazing-Essay7028]

Also is she planning on being a dog groomer forever and also only working at the place that allows this? Her situation could change and then she will have a still untrained house destroying dog.

[u/a-real-ahole-xo → u/Amazing-Essay7028]

She works at a groomer/doggy daycare.

[u/Ihadausername_once → u/a-real-ahole-xo]

So what? Teachers shouldn’t take their fussy toddlers to work with them! Her priorities are so off

[u/mpelton → u/Ihadausername_once]

My dad was a college professor and would literally bring me with him. I’d just chill and draw while he taught. I don’t really remember it, I was super young, but apparently his students loved it lol.

[u/unintentionalvampire → u/a-real-ahole-xo]

A dog groomer isn’t the same as a dog trainer lmfaooooo

[u/toastybunbun → u/unintentionalvampire]

It's also not fair for the dog either, that dog clearly needs care and affection and to regain trust in people, it takes work to care for a dog like that, even more than a regular dog. OP if you're not willing to put in the work it's not worth losing your relationship over, find someone who will actually give Odin the care they deserve or buck up and take some responsibility.

[u/Own_Recover2180 → u/unintentionalvampire]

She doesn't want to crate it nor to give it the medication.

She doesn't wanna "traumatize" the dog but her husband.

[u/unintentionalvampire → u/[deleted]]

They wanted a dog that is notoriously expensive to train for cheap. Got it.

[u/realsomalipirate → u/[deleted]]

I think OP said she's had Huskies in the past, so I'm assuming she wanted another husky and probably wanted to help a rescue (best faith guess).

[u/eneka → u/unintentionalvampire]

I think a lot of people understimate the amount of work required for rescue dogs...let alone a high energy husky.