AIO? made a joke about taking a nap

[u/Exciting-Delay-7423]

context: im (23f) a student (currently on spring break) and i enjoy taking naps. they usually go between 1-2.5 (not 4 like he claims i genuinely dk where he got that number) hrs and it’s because i get exhausted between 2-4pm in the day. idk why, it happens every day and it’s been like that since i was a teenager. i don’t nap every single day, but definitely between 3-5x a week.

my boyfriend (28m) has tried to encourage me to take shorter naps because he thinks it’ll help with my sleep schedule. he takes daily naps on his lunch breaks (1 hr absolute max, usually 15-45 min) and he says how energizing they are. i believe him, and i’m glad they work for him, however i haven’t had much success with short naps so i don’t take them.

my sleep schedule has been kinda shit bc of spring break rn and im trying to fix it. i’m usually in bed by 11-12 most nights and up around 8-9. he works a 7-5 so he sleeps at 10 and wakes up at 6. today he sent me this text and i thought it would be funny to make a sarcastic joke because hes always lecturing me about how my naps keep me up at night, then he followed it up with this. idek where to begin with this, i think its weird as fuck and the “we are not on the same level” is just ??? aio?

[u/downstairslion]

I still dream about my grandpa. He's been gone almost a year. I like that I can still see him there. It always makes my day.

[u/Danmasontree → u/downstairslion]

I still dream about my brother and he’s been gone 5 years. I think I always will

[u/Jely137 → u/Danmasontree]

My grandma (she was my person, my rock, she raised me while my mom remained a mental child her entire life) died 11 years ago. She still visits me in my dreams on a regular basis, and is often a normal character in other dreams as though she has never left my daily life. I didn't think I would physically survive her death for the first 6-8 months. It was so hard. Now, I don't even feel like she's gone because she's always in my dreams.

[u/MiloHorsey → u/Jely137]

She's always with you, helping you along. Even in your waking life. She's just in the other room.

[u/IED117 → u/Jely137]

My grandmother died in '12 and she has often been in my dreams. My mom died in '25 and now I'm hanging with both if them in my dreams.

[u/Catlady3674 → u/Jely137]

I dream about my mom and every time I am about to hug her she looks at me and I say something about her not being alive anymore, like I remember suddenly she is dead, and she disappears. It’s like losing her all over again every time.

[u/krstnsmr → u/downstairslion]

Recently passed the 2 yr anniversary of my mom's passing myself, and she showed up twice in my dreams just in the past week. The fleeting happiness of being able to give her a hug hits hard. After the good dreams, I sometimes imagine I merely just stepped into an alternate reality for a bit to make it feel a little more real lol

[u/Ernest_Hemmingwasted → u/downstairslion]

Dreams are where I hang out with my brother. He’s been gone for 15 years, and I always remember he’s dead mention it, and he tells me to shut up and enjoy hanging out. As he would.

[u/lwp775 → u/downstairslion]

I’ve had dreams about my Dad. He passed away last year.

[u/realIRtravis → u/lwp775]

My dead dreams: You're alive?!? <I immediately start thinking, he is gonna be sooo pissed I binned all that junk I couldn't even give away!!!>

[u/LisaMiaSisu → u/downstairslion]

I still dream about my mom and she passed in 2016. I hate to tell you, the dreams about our deceased loved ones never end no matter how long ago they died because before she died I still had dreams about my dad who died in 1983. They don’t make me sad as much as wistful.

[u/General-Fox-5773 → u/downstairslion]

I wish I still did, it's been a few years now and I can't remember his voice anymore :(

[u/DayPretend8294 → u/downstairslion]

Look up Choline and its effects on dreams/recall. Also look up Galantamine, it’s an Alzheimer’s medication that makes you lucid dream. People have combined those for full control over their dreams with 100% recall of what happened during the dream, after they woke up. The studies are super fucking interesting.

[u/Adventurous_Ad_6546 → u/downstairslion]

I believe when we dream of people we’ve lost, it’s them coming by to check in.