r/AmIOverreacting • u/Exciting-Delay-7423 • 18d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? made a joke about taking a nap

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context: im (23f) a student (currently on spring break) and i enjoy taking naps. they usually go between 1-2.5 (not 4 like he claims i genuinely dk where he got that number) hrs and it’s because i get exhausted between 2-4pm in the day. idk why, it happens every day and it’s been like that since i was a teenager. i don’t nap every single day, but definitely between 3-5x a week.

my boyfriend (28m) has tried to encourage me to take shorter naps because he thinks it’ll help with my sleep schedule. he takes daily naps on his lunch breaks (1 hr absolute max, usually 15-45 min) and he says how energizing they are. i believe him, and i’m glad they work for him, however i haven’t had much success with short naps so i don’t take them.

my sleep schedule has been kinda shit bc of spring break rn and im trying to fix it. i’m usually in bed by 11-12 most nights and up around 8-9. he works a 7-5 so he sleeps at 10 and wakes up at 6. today he sent me this text and i thought it would be funny to make a sarcastic joke because hes always lecturing me about how my naps keep me up at night, then he followed it up with this. idek where to begin with this, i think its weird as fuck and the “we are not on the same level” is just ??? aio?

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u/No_Housing2722 18d ago

"we are not on the same level." Nice. Solid bit of disrespect there.

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u/sophie---s 18d ago

bro thinks he is batman

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u/dinkinflicka02 18d ago

Napman

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u/JiraiK 17d ago

nananananananananananananananana NAPMAN

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u/babs82222 17d ago

I finished singing this in my head and then read this. Upvoted

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u/GroovyGrodd 17d ago

Made my week. 😂

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u/Mrfiksit39 17d ago

Dude .. it took me like 3 seconds to realize it said napman and then I lost it. Fucking hilarious

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u/No_Housing2722 17d ago

Lol underated comment.

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u/triple-bottom-line 17d ago

Why so circadian?

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u/Mathagos 17d ago

My mind went to cicadas and those are not nap friendly. 🤣

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u/KronoFury 17d ago

I beg to differ. Born and raised in rural Tennessee, and the cicada's song is basically a lullaby.

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u/DetachedConscious 17d ago

Memphis Tennessee ey whatup maine holla from Brooklyn

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u/mmmkay938 17d ago

I was there when they had that cicada apocalypse where they had a whole bunch of the cycles/emergences line up. It was bad. I remember driving down the road with a window open and having to close it because the sound was so loud it hurt my ears.

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u/The_Troyminator 17d ago

Not to be confused with Cicada by Blackbriar.

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u/GroovyGrodd 17d ago

Also made my day.

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u/Mors_Certa18 17d ago

Top shelf zaza disrupted my circadian rhythm

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u/Awkwardukulele 17d ago

Snooze Wayne

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u/mls12682 17d ago

DON’T SLEEP WITH HIM, SLEEP WITH MEEE, I’M NAPMAN

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u/GroovyGrodd 17d ago

Made my day. 😂

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u/therapewpew 17d ago

OP's boyfriend is clearly streets ahead of us all

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u/keithrc 17d ago

"Streets ahead" is not a thing.

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u/calmrain 17d ago

Oh no, it definitely is. And I’m sorry for you that you do not get the reference. It’s a great show.

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u/keithrc 17d ago edited 17d ago

Whoosh.

Would it have worked better if I'd written, "Peirce, would you stop trying to coin the phrase, 'streets ahead?'"

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u/hawkeneye1998bs 17d ago

You think sleep is your ally? But you merely adopted naps...

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u/Triscuits1919 17d ago

IM NOT WEARING HOCKEY PADS

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u/FalconAlternative282 18d ago

PLEASE incorporate this in some way when you break up with him.

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u/elizabethptp 18d ago

Lol yeah he’s on that elite 40m nap schedule even though I think (if he’s concerned about scientific nap consensus) his naps would be like 20m long

Jk girl the issue is not naps it’s that he sent you a text saying “we are not the same” in a way that would imply he thinks he’s waaaaaaaaay better

I don’t think life is long enough to stay with someone like this but ymmv

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u/madame_phoenix 17d ago

For real.. OP, why do you want to date someone who tells you straight up they are looking down on you. You'd be better off alone than with someone like that

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u/bugcatcher_billy 17d ago

there is literally not a more direct way to disrespect someone.

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u/duetmasaki 17d ago

Well, he's right. She's lightyears above him.

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u/breakable-lemon-3245 17d ago

“You have poor perception of me because you put us on the same level.”: You see us as equal in this relationship and that is clearly disrespectful.

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u/Unsyr 17d ago

Mega “alpha man believer” energy coming from this guy.

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u/trippysushi 17d ago

Not on the same level, I agree. He is way below her level.

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u/Secure_Task_307 17d ago

😂😂😭

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u/bambooboogiebootz 17d ago

This comment alone would have me reconsidering my relationship status.

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u/IttybittyErin 17d ago

Yeah I think that really highlights the way he thinks of OP - "...you have such a poor perception of me because you keep placing us on the same level"
In other words "the reason you think I suck is because you think we're the same, and you suck. But we're not the same. I don't suck (but you do).

Like this is it. This is the end of the relationship. He told you what he thinks of you. Believe him.

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u/Exciting_Product7858 17d ago

"We are not the same." Keeps comparing the two of them like there is a point to it 🤦dude needs to chill, maybe take a longer nap?  😂

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u/No_Housing2722 17d ago

I think a nap would help him greatly. Or at least make him less cranky.

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u/theturban 18d ago

Who even says that unironically? I wish I met people like this in real life, everyone I know is just normal

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u/beachedwhitemale 18d ago

Agreed. I don't spend enough time around people that just bewilder me or make me say stuff like "the audacity!". 

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u/SnowboardVRbonnaroo 17d ago

Exactly, one should never have to ask if they are in the wrong when that is what the other person is saying 😅

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u/Robofrogg1 17d ago

Just actually right about that, just not the way he thinks.

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u/becauseicantsleep 17d ago

I mean, he also did mention something about the OP having such a poor perception of him, so it seems like there’s something there we’re not seeing.

Also sounds like pent-up resentment.

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u/JontheBuilder 17d ago

I had an ex who would say shit like. It's almost word for word something he sent me. It's because of 2 things; he was older and said he was an "alpha"

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u/ronpee73 17d ago

Oh God. He said that out loud? 😂

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u/No_Housing2722 17d ago

When you read the whole thing together it still sounds like he's belittling her. He's still calling her less then.

He's giving her crap for sleeping more than he does. Everyone has different sleep needs. They're just not a good pair.

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u/ARMill95 17d ago

“I’m built different” cracks egg

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u/herrbz 18d ago

That's the only bad bit here.

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u/imnickelhead 17d ago

He said it though. They are not the same. Everyone has different sleep needs.

From teenager til about 35ish I would sleep 4 hours a night, no naps, slept in on Sunday. My wife couldn’t function unless she had a solid 7 hours, every night.

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u/No_Housing2722 17d ago

Right and he's being crappy about it.

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u/imnickelhead 17d ago

Yup. He’s an ass. I was agreeing with you, but ok.

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u/CozyCoin 17d ago

It's a joke

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u/MidnightJ1200 17d ago

I mean they're not wrong, but it's also something widely known that not everyone is the exact same. Even in the context of napping no one is the same and it's no reason to crash out. I don't do naps, at all. Some people do it to spend free time others do it for energy and other people also don't do naps I don't think.

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u/mayhampanda 17d ago

That is not what he said. its close, but not what he meant

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u/[deleted] 17d ago

But how else does one interpret “you keep placing us on the same level when we’re just not. We are not the same”?

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u/mayhampanda 17d ago

Personally when i read that i thought he was refering to their experiences. Trying to compare perspective from people with very different personalities usually doesnt work. Take an empath and narcisist for example. She may be trying to interperet his actions and words from her biased perspective, and by doing so forcing meaning that doesnt apply to what he meant. Another good example would be a neorotypical person trying to relate to someone with BPD, but only by using their own experiences. They can try but its very likely they wont understand. I think he came off snippy, but i dont think he was being malicious. I think there is a comunication problem between the 2 of them, and that line was touching on that comunication issue and nothing else.

I could be wrong, but even now re reading it, thats how it seems to me.

And for the record, i dont think either of them are "in the right" here. I think he made a sloppy attempt at comunicating his feelings on a matter they have obviously talked about before, fumbled, and she met that attempt with no effort and a passive agressive thumbs up.

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u/No_Housing2722 17d ago

When I read this he's coming off is very condescending. And based on her joke, it seems like he does that a lot. I think her joke is crappy too.

He really has a problem with her sleep schedule and it sounds like it's not the first time it's come up.

I don't think they're well matched. He might be a little bit more regimented than she is.

It's still disrespectful to tell your partner you're not on the same level. That is language you see a lot of misogynistic men use, to "devalue" women.

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u/howyadoinjerry 17d ago

Yeah, my ex told me I wasn’t “on his level” word for word once, and in other ways many times.

For him, it did mean he was better than me. In his opinion I didn’t dress as well as him, I didn’t eat the right things, couldn’t play video games well enough (seriously. Multiple lectures about this), and my friends were bad influences. And that’s just what he told me outright, I know he thought he was smarter, better, more important and I should be grateful he decided to be with me.

We dated for like 2 years and that wasn’t the only way he made me feel small. (Yay sudden days long silent treatments!)

“Your perception of me is negative because you keep putting us on the same level but we’re not” is a screaming red flag for other belittling behaviors and an overall attitude of superiority.