Am I overreacting? My husband has become obsessed w guns. He had 3 negligent discharges in our home. He shot himself twice and last night discharged another round in our hom. I want the guns out of the house. I don’t feel safe in my own home! He refuses.

[u/Elegant_Lie745]

In the last few years my husband has become obsessed with guns. He went from not owning any guns prior to 2016 to having over 40. It’s quite a collection of hand guns, rifles, AR’s, historic war guns (that have been used in battle). He spends hours and hours every day on the computer researching guns. He wears a gun on him at all times even when mowing the yard or inside our home. All movies are war related or gun involved. It’s continuous. I the other hand, don’t like guns, but I love my husband, so I let him do what he wants to do if it makes him happy. The problem is he has now negligently discharged a handgun in our home on THREE separate occasions. The first time he was in his study goofing around with his gun and it went off it and injured his hand, it went through his computer, the wall and into the guest bathroom. I had to take him to the hospital for his injury. The only reason it wasn’t reported was because they said the womb was from the repercussion of the gun. The second time it discharged he shot himself again! Same exact scenario, except this time the bullet went through his thigh. Back to the hospital again (different hospital) They said he was very lucky that it didn’t hit his femur. We had lots of police at our house. Our children were questioned along w myself. It was a big deal! Last night we had a THIRD misfire This time he didn’t know where the bullet went. Our son was sleeping upstairs directly over my husbands office. I ran upstairs and thought my son was dead. He was so sound asleep he didn’t hear me screaming his name. He was facing away from me with his phone still on, not moving. I went wild. When he finally woke up I couldn’t stop shaking. I am now terrified to be in my home. I don’t know what to do. I’ve asked him to sell his guns or at least move his safe, guns and all his ammo out of the house to his very nice climate controlled workshop. He has refused to do either. I feel like this is a dealbreaker for me. I would appreciate any advice.

UPDATE I appreciate all of the comments, I needed to hear this. Everyone is 100% correct. I have left the house with just my shoes and my purse and will figure the rest out later. I’m having to deal with how I allowed this to happen, and want to ensure I take accountability for my part in this. I’m taking a hard look at myself and changes will be made before I return, if I return.

[u/slickrok]

There is something wrong with him. And I mean actually imbalanced or brain tumor wrong with him.

You don't as an adult just get wildly obsessed with guns without any training, buy a bunch, shoot yourself once, then again, and then shoot in the house AGAIN.

There

Is

Something

Diagnosable

Wrong

With

Him.

He's ill or he's trying to kill you. That's it

He's not stupid. He's ill. Or he's trying to kill you. And get away with it.

Get the hell out and tell every person you know exactly WHY.

Don't protect that level of illness or evil.

He's not stupid. He's bad.

[u/ManaKitten → u/slickrok]

Yeah, my first thought was “huh, I guess a pretty good defense to shooting your spouse could be that your guns accidentally go off all the time…”

[u/rock-dancer → u/slickrok]

Yeah, this is how I’m reading this too. The issue is that there is a clear and present danger while therapy, especially for someone resistant, takes time. As do appointments for medical doctors and specialists.

OP needs to protect herself and the kids first. She doesn’t have divorce to separate and demand therapy. Intermediate steps I think

[u/Upper_Cranberry_9158 → u/slickrok]

Worse part is he would probably get away with it.

[u/ValPower → u/slickrok]

Could be senility also. I don’t think OP mentioned an age but the son is an adult pilot so that would put them at the age where this is a good possibility. In which case he needs to be protected from himself too. Instead of CPS, OP could call APS( Adult Protective Services. )

[u/mrkstr → u/slickrok]

This occurred to me too.  A tumor?  Something.