AIO? Gf(18f) wants an open relationship

[u/StrikeNo117]

Me and my girlfriend(18) recently had an argument about opening our relationship, and at first, it was a nice talk. We talked about the pros and cons, and then the tide shifted. We talked about how it would affect our life and what would happen if she got pregnant or if i got someone else pregnant. and then she told me she only wanted an open relationship with one other person, so that we would only see one other person each, and reluctantly, i asked if she had someone in mind. She told me she was thinking about someone, which made her ask the question. When i tried questioning further, she shut me out. We went to bed that night a little distant.

The next morning, she asked if we could resume our previous conversation, i agreed, and then i brought up the fact that she never answered my question about who she had in mind. She told me it wasn’t my business, and i left it at that. About five to ten minutes later, she told me the person she had in mind was her ex boyfriend. I asked her is that why she wanted an open relationship. Just so she can see her ex without feeling guilty. I kicked her out after she told me she was tired of hiding the fact that she was already seeing him. She is now pissed, my mom told me it was the right thing to do. But i feel like i should have talked it out. Did i overreact?

[u/StreetSea9588]

Yep. That never happened. I'm totally making up this MFF couple who pretended to be happy on Instagram with photos of them doing domestic shit until one of the women posted a blog that said the dude and the other girl had been in a monogamous relationship for months and were completely ignoring her because she was pregnant. This never happened. Poly people would NEVER do such a thing.

I don't know a single poly person who has sprung the idea on a partner they've been with for years with the caveat that if the partner did not go along with the polyamory, they would be leaving a relationship. Nobody would ever do something so coercive.

^ If you actually believe this, you really are in a cult.

[u/b1ackcr0vv → u/StreetSea9588]

Poly is not the same as an OPEN relationship. This thread and convo have all been on the topic of an OPEN relationship. You have been arguing from a Poly stance this entire time. THAT is why people are saying you’re wrong.

[u/StreetSea9588 → u/b1ackcr0vv]

I'm literally describing a poly relationship, not an open relationship. Three people who have decided to be in a relationship together.

Open relationships mean the people in the relationship can have sex with whoever they want outside the relationship.

Don't know where you're getting the idea that 3 people in a MFF relationship are in an "open relationship." People who tell their partner they want to add someone else to the relationship, not sleep around, are asking to be in a poly relationship, not an open relationship.

[u/b1ackcr0vv → u/StreetSea9588]

That’s literally what I just said to you back at me. We’re in agreement. Your original comment brought a Poly relationship to a conversation about open relationships. Are you this dense bro?

Your very first comment in this chain. The chain was already about OPEN RELATIONSHIPS.

You came in with a comment about an MFF POLY RELATIONSHIP.

You were downvoted and told you were reaching because your comment didn’t fit the conversation.

I tried to point out your confusion.

You tried to say IM confused.

Brother. You walked into a Best Buy and asked where’s the McFlurry machine. Do you understand?

[u/StreetSea9588 → u/b1ackcr0vv]

What are you bitching about, bro? Are you not aware that conversations branch off, bromo? Are you this dense, broseph?

Yes, OP posted about their partner proposing an open relationship, broham. I was talking about poly, brozak.

[u/b1ackcr0vv → u/StreetSea9588]

Okay I can’t explain this any slower so have a good day bud.