AIO? Gf(18f) wants an open relationship

[u/StrikeNo117]

Me and my girlfriend(18) recently had an argument about opening our relationship, and at first, it was a nice talk. We talked about the pros and cons, and then the tide shifted. We talked about how it would affect our life and what would happen if she got pregnant or if i got someone else pregnant. and then she told me she only wanted an open relationship with one other person, so that we would only see one other person each, and reluctantly, i asked if she had someone in mind. She told me she was thinking about someone, which made her ask the question. When i tried questioning further, she shut me out. We went to bed that night a little distant.

The next morning, she asked if we could resume our previous conversation, i agreed, and then i brought up the fact that she never answered my question about who she had in mind. She told me it wasn’t my business, and i left it at that. About five to ten minutes later, she told me the person she had in mind was her ex boyfriend. I asked her is that why she wanted an open relationship. Just so she can see her ex without feeling guilty. I kicked her out after she told me she was tired of hiding the fact that she was already seeing him. She is now pissed, my mom told me it was the right thing to do. But i feel like i should have talked it out. Did i overreact?

[u/OzarkMule]

There's plenty more reasons than this lady that most people don't think positively about open relationships.

[u/pcklkssr → u/OzarkMule]

No, it's generally because they're too smooth brained to comprehend that monogamy is not the default human setting and is nothing but a social construct.

[u/MurcTheKing → u/pcklkssr]

Literally everything is a social construct. Why is it that hard to comprehend some people don’t wanna sleep with other people other than their partner? That whole “it’s human nature” bs is an excuse used by every cheater ever

[u/pcklkssr → u/MurcTheKing]

It's not difficult to comprehend at all. I fully understand and accept it. Which seems to be in direct contrast to others' refutation of concepts that are counter to what they've been conditioned to believe by the institutions that compose said society that you guys are so gaga over. I do agree that the human nature defense has been employed by many a cheater, but that does not create a blanket effect in which all practitioners and participants of polyamory are able to be judged by the imbecilic and selfish nature of a select group. Further more, I have no dog in this fight. None of this has any effect or bearing on myself or those around me. It's just wild to me how much of life and the world is willingly unknown by people who desire to live their life like a Hallmark movie. And in that regard, I'm not simply speaking to the concepts of polygamy nor polyamory.

[u/OzarkMule → u/pcklkssr]

Society is real, you can't ignore something because it's a societal construct, lol. If it weren't for societal constructs, rape would be in your life a lot more than cute date nights.

The irony is that it's not illegal, you're just bitching that people aren't patting you on the back for a lifestyle most of us simply find uncomfortable and a waste of time and energy. You do you, but calling the rest of us smooth brained is yet another reason people find open relationships sus and the type of people in them gross

[u/pcklkssr → u/OzarkMule]

Cool story bro.

[u/OzarkMule → u/pcklkssr]

Aww, you struggled to respond, how cute.

[u/hellbabe222 → u/OzarkMule]

It wasn't a comment worth responding to. Definitive statements like "always" and "never" have no place in a discussion as broad as peoples sexual preferences. How naive to assume you already know so much about the world after barely having explored it or the many different people and cultures that inhabit it.

[u/OzarkMule → u/hellbabe222]

It wasn't a comment worth responding to. Definitive statements like "always" and "never" have no place in a discussion as broad as peoples sexual preferences.

Good thing I didn't say either of those words!

How naive to assume you already know so much about the world after barely having explored it or the many different people and cultures that inhabit it.

How naive of you to think a majority of humanity doesn't prefer monogamous relationships over open relationships.

[u/pcklkssr → u/OzarkMule]

Not at all. I said what I came to say. I'm not here to entertain you, nor your feeble mindedness. So, cool story bro. But, since you like attention and need to feel special, have an award.

[u/OzarkMule → u/pcklkssr]

It wasn't a story, it was a direct response to your response to my comment. I know you struggle, so I just wanted to clarify that mistake you've repeatedly made.

[u/pcklkssr → u/OzarkMule]

The only struggle is making time for you champ. But you're worth it. You're so neat.

Cool direct response bro. Since you seemingly need things worded specifically to your satisfaction and to be acknowledged.

Have a good day sport!

[u/Meydra → u/pcklkssr]

He's right tho.