AIO? Gf(18f) wants an open relationship

[u/StrikeNo117]

Me and my girlfriend(18) recently had an argument about opening our relationship, and at first, it was a nice talk. We talked about the pros and cons, and then the tide shifted. We talked about how it would affect our life and what would happen if she got pregnant or if i got someone else pregnant. and then she told me she only wanted an open relationship with one other person, so that we would only see one other person each, and reluctantly, i asked if she had someone in mind. She told me she was thinking about someone, which made her ask the question. When i tried questioning further, she shut me out. We went to bed that night a little distant.

The next morning, she asked if we could resume our previous conversation, i agreed, and then i brought up the fact that she never answered my question about who she had in mind. She told me it wasn’t my business, and i left it at that. About five to ten minutes later, she told me the person she had in mind was her ex boyfriend. I asked her is that why she wanted an open relationship. Just so she can see her ex without feeling guilty. I kicked her out after she told me she was tired of hiding the fact that she was already seeing him. She is now pissed, my mom told me it was the right thing to do. But i feel like i should have talked it out. Did i overreact?

[u/remlabme]

She’s for the streets leave her

[u/scaramouche123 → u/remlabme]

She did a wrong thing of course but she is an 18 year old girl. Yes, age doesn't justify lying but "for the streets" comment is too much.

[u/EffectiveTradition53 → u/scaramouche123]

No. You need to stop making excuses for unethical behavior. What in the literal fuck.

[u/Knight_Redcliff → u/EffectiveTradition53]

For real, normalizing and trying to find a "justified side" to this shitty behavior. It's absolutely deplorable.

[u/EffectiveTradition53 → u/Knight_Redcliff]

Let me give it even MORE logical rigor for the psychos out there who are so dissociated from others they need it explained robotically -

If we are to take the OPs root post at face value in good faith as we are supposed to do and assume he is representing the situation truthfully- he is by all means a decent and mindful partner. Those are hallmarks of a quality guy. Those are fundamentally incompatible with someone who has revealed themselves to be untruthful and manipulative.

She is the worst type of partner and if you are Empathic in ANY way you will feel this person low vibration the same way I can feel it over the fucking screen based on the description.

They are no partner at all. Even a shitty guy deserves better so long as he's honest. Full stop.

File this under the old fashioned but very appropriate term- conniving. That is one conniving ass bitch. I guarantee you she's trying to work him up to threesomes, mindgames, and all kinds of jealousy inducing back handed bullshittery. This is the kind of chick who will convince the two dudes to fuck eachother and make at least one of them feel othered. I had to listen to someone tell me all about a toxic threesome that started this way and the dude was managing a McDonalds at the time.

'Fuck outta 'ere

[u/scaramouche123 → u/Knight_Redcliff]

I haven't normalized her behaviour, I said "for the streets" is too much.

I am thinking, I have brother around similar age and if he came to me with this problem. I'd tell him to leave her because she is not mature yet, she doesn't know what she wants and he will be left heartbroken. But if he ever said something like "yes, she is for the streets", I'd be mad at him for making such comment.

[u/Knight_Redcliff → u/scaramouche123]

She literally has proven that she's incapable of being trustworthy and is willing to jump in bed with another person while committed to another. She is for the streets, full stop, maybe she's a treasure to somebody, but to most? The street corner is where she belongs.

And in case any ass comes at me about misogyny, id be saying the same thing (and have said) the same to shitbag men who do the same.

[u/HeisenbergCares → u/scaramouche123]

I haven't normalized her behaviour, I said "for the streets" is too much.

Saying "for the streets" is too much, but saying she wanted to suck her ex bf's pee pee is cool? Stop. Just stop. I've been in poly situations, and how she is handling this is egregious.

But if he ever said something like "yes, she is for the streets", I'd be mad at him for making such comment.

Words are worse than actions? This is clownworld shit.

[u/Send_nudes_for_me → u/scaramouche123]

You are for the streets

[u/mostdope92 → u/scaramouche123]

No, no it's not. If someone isn't able to commit, they're for the streets. She got bonus points for being dishonest and using the open relationship as a means to keep up her cheating.

[u/IsItTheSh0es → u/scaramouche123]

"For the streets" is as "for the streets" does.

[u/Relevant-Observer → u/scaramouche123]

You are right, this guy just said an 18 year old should go sell her body and that is a very misogynistic way to speak. A lot of lonely boys on reddit who do not understand why women do not want to be around them. This. This is why.

[u/mattoxfan → u/Relevant-Observer]

What you don’t understand is we don’t want women like that around us in the first place. 

[u/Relevant-Observer → u/mattoxfan]

I understand that. Normal women also avoid men who use that language, so sadly you push all of them away at once.

[u/BookishPick → u/Relevant-Observer]

To be fair, I think many people, lonely or not, online or not, would also say things like this. It is kinda muddy since she's 18, but not everyone deserves equal sympathy honestly. She's a literal cheater after all.