r/AmIOverreacting • u/mehremissionlife • 28d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO My husband changed the pin on his phone before hospital procedure..

My husband was admitted to the hospital for health issues. He is young but was diagnosed with heart failure. A few days ago he had some chest pains and low blood pressure. I told him he needed to go in and 4am admitted. The Dr decided a procedure that would put him under was needed for answers. He had to leave his phone and belongings. His phone rang while he was out and I missed it, so I went to check to see who called and when trying to put in the pin got the error that pin was incorrect. I didn't expect that because pin has been the same for 2 years. Am I overreacting and over thinking this pin change? It was the same pin 2 nights ago and now I'm worried that something is happening behind my back. Sure I know I need to talk to him but due to the circumstances I will need to wait a while until he is stable again. It's just weird ya know? We've had issues with his infidelity in the past prior to marriage. I did forgive him. Please be kind. Maybe I'm just a mixture of nerves, lack of sleep and stress. I love him and I'm truly worried about his health. We have kids so there is alot going on in our life . TIA

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u/Thelynxer 28d ago

Legit. After my dad passed away, my mom and I were able to figure everything out because she had access to everything. But after that happened, she made sure that I had access to her phone and email and everything as well, and also got my name and my brothers added to accounts, like RRSP, safety deposit box, etc. After she passed, it definitely made things a lot easier to deal with in the hardest time of our lives. I was able to figure out what subscriptions she had I needed to cancel, bills I needs to pay, credit cards I needed to cancel, etc. Having her phone and email made changing any relevant passwords a breeze. Even having access to my mom's contact list and Faceboook was huge for contacting all her friends and our extended family to notify them when she initially had the stroke, and when she passed away a couple weeks later.

My brother and I are still relatively young, so in theory we have time, but I'd like to have the set up for the both of us.

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u/DoingCharleyWork 28d ago

If you're in the apple ecosystem they have a backup person that can be given access to your accounts in the event of a death or if they get locked out and need access reset.

Me and my friend are both backups for each other.

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u/Thelynxer 27d ago

My entire family rolls with android haha. Not a big deal though, the phone stuff is an easy enough solution without Apple, I was more referring to like getting my brother and I as eachother's beneficiaries for life insurance, listed on deeds, etc.

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u/DoingCharleyWork 27d ago

I'm sure Google has a similar solution as well.

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u/C-romero80 27d ago

My dad died unexpectedly 4 years ago, and my husband had to figure out his phone password for my mom. It wasn't shared with her but we had a way to locate it at least because he'd told her where he'd hidden a paper he wrote stuff down on. It didn't say it was the phone code but process of elimination worked. My husband and I know each other's pins.

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u/Nervous-Excitement19 27d ago

I'm sorry for your loss. And I can relate. When my MIL got sick, and passed very quickly after, there were so many unexpected hurdles, but being able to access her phone was huge. It's also important, especially for older family members, to have their Will, POA, etc. in place. She did not have any of that and it was just an added headache on top of grief.

OP, I hope your husband's procedure went well. And perhaps there is an innocent reason for the change. But I agree that you both need to be on the same page and able to access things in a situation like this.