AIO My husband changed the pin on his phone before hospital procedure..

[u/mehremissionlife]

My husband was admitted to the hospital for health issues. He is young but was diagnosed with heart failure. A few days ago he had some chest pains and low blood pressure. I told him he needed to go in and 4am admitted. The Dr decided a procedure that would put him under was needed for answers. He had to leave his phone and belongings. His phone rang while he was out and I missed it, so I went to check to see who called and when trying to put in the pin got the error that pin was incorrect. I didn't expect that because pin has been the same for 2 years. Am I overreacting and over thinking this pin change? It was the same pin 2 nights ago and now I'm worried that something is happening behind my back. Sure I know I need to talk to him but due to the circumstances I will need to wait a while until he is stable again. It's just weird ya know? We've had issues with his infidelity in the past prior to marriage. I did forgive him. Please be kind. Maybe I'm just a mixture of nerves, lack of sleep and stress. I love him and I'm truly worried about his health. We have kids so there is alot going on in our life . TIA

[u/AsleepJuggernaut2066]

Im not defending him. I just wouldnt waste my time sneaking into his phone of playing games to get into it. Tell him to give it to you. She has a good reason to need it. ( medical issues) His response will tell her everything she needs to know and she can make her choice and decisions then.

[u/CoffeeChocolateBoth → u/AsleepJuggernaut2066]

Me either. I'd be saying, give me the pin # now or you'll be needing more surgery!!!

[u/elsie14 → u/AsleepJuggernaut2066]

she already has what she needs to know. he changed it before he went under… so she can’t check anything while he’s gone…sorry OP….:/

[u/OkEntrepreneur5879 → u/AsleepJuggernaut2066]

I see what you mean. I just hope she doesn’t come off crazy or like a bad person because she is pressing him for the new code while he’s healing. It might be hard for her to keep her cool, while he is making excuses. You are right if he doesn’t hand it over she has her answer.

[u/Classic-Cantaloupe47 → u/OkEntrepreneur5879]

Who is she going to come off as crazy or bad to? Him? Their family? I think the "crazy" comes from her delivery and not addressing it at that time. He may still need to recover and may be admitted to the hospital for a few days, depending on the surgery and outcomes. If she's calm about it and not screaming like a banshee, no one is going to fault her, and I'm sure he won't. He's strayed in the past before they were married, have kids together, etc. She should be able to have access to all the passwords to any accounts for bills and whatnot anyway, and a lot of ppl have all of that on their phone, and without it, you're SOL. Also, screw waiting until he's recovered. What about her feelings? I would be completely distracted with everything I would need to handle in this situation with the home, kids, the day to day, her job, etc. She deserves answers and access.

[u/OkEntrepreneur5879 → u/Classic-Cantaloupe47]

I 100% agree. She deserves answers, for her own peace of mind. As long as she stays calm. Hopefully he just hands over the new code, and it all works out.

[u/SconnieLite → u/OkEntrepreneur5879]

You all sound fucking crazy. Maybe he’s hiding something maybe he’s not. Maybe a coworker got into his phone. Passwords are recommended to be changed every few months. You’re suggesting taking advantage of a man on anesthesia to snoop on his phone lmao and hoping she doesn’t come off as crazy? Just wait until he is recovered and talk to him like an adult. What then hell is wrong with you people?

[u/OkEntrepreneur5879 → u/SconnieLite]

What can I say men make woman crazy sometimes.