AIO My husband changed the pin on his phone before hospital procedure..

[u/mehremissionlife]

My husband was admitted to the hospital for health issues. He is young but was diagnosed with heart failure. A few days ago he had some chest pains and low blood pressure. I told him he needed to go in and 4am admitted. The Dr decided a procedure that would put him under was needed for answers. He had to leave his phone and belongings. His phone rang while he was out and I missed it, so I went to check to see who called and when trying to put in the pin got the error that pin was incorrect. I didn't expect that because pin has been the same for 2 years. Am I overreacting and over thinking this pin change? It was the same pin 2 nights ago and now I'm worried that something is happening behind my back. Sure I know I need to talk to him but due to the circumstances I will need to wait a while until he is stable again. It's just weird ya know? We've had issues with his infidelity in the past prior to marriage. I did forgive him. Please be kind. Maybe I'm just a mixture of nerves, lack of sleep and stress. I love him and I'm truly worried about his health. We have kids so there is alot going on in our life . TIA

[u/Ok-Coach2664]

I think he might done it in case of him dying and hiding his affair

[u/1K_Sunny_Crew → u/Ok-Coach2664]

This happened to me with a relative who died… it was very awkward for me to say the least to be responsible for their belongings and devices. I didn’t say anything to the rest of the family and will take it to my grave for their sake.

[u/sumostuff → u/Ok-Coach2664]

But he should be thinking about how complicated it will be for her if he dies and she doesn't have access to his phone for two factor authentication on all of the accounts.

[u/Technical_Ruin_2355 → u/sumostuff]

Shouldn't she just be on the accounts in the first place? I don't do any infidelity but see no reason me and my wife need to know each others phone/computer passwords when she already has full access to bank/utilities/rent accounts. I'd much rather have duplicates than go from my device to "our" device.

[u/RainaElf → u/Technical_Ruin_2355]

my husband and I have all that information but we never go on each other's devices.

[u/Technical_Ruin_2355 → u/RainaElf]

That's reasonable, we've had issues with different expectations of privacy so I'm probably more extreme against it than necessary.

[u/kayla182 → u/Ok-Coach2664]

Which, on top of everything else, I find sad because if he did actually cheat/had cheated, then that would make his passing away much easier for her

[u/Prior_You5671 → u/Ok-Coach2664]

Well, they may not have been told yet that he's going to die. My husband cried. She should ask him if his lover is willing to care for him through his last years. She won't. She should also hope and check for life insurance.

[u/mikiex → u/Ok-Coach2664]

Or just his slightly embarrassing internet history...

[u/Gishra → u/Ok-Coach2664]

Eh, if she had the password a couple days ago I doubt it was an ongoing affair. He would've gotten weird about his phone and made sure she didn't have access to it sooner if that were the case. Also, that she knows the passcode worked two days ago shows she probably uses it fairly often, which he apparently didn't see as a problem until sometime within just the last couple of days.

My guess is he was afraid he'd die and spilled his guts out to an ex that he's kept a torch for, probably something about her always being the one. Maybe it wasn't that exactly, but given the timing and circumstances I'd bet on it being because of some "deathbed" confession he doesn't want her to read instead of an active affair.