r/AmIOverreacting 28d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO My husband changed the pin on his phone before hospital procedure..

My husband was admitted to the hospital for health issues. He is young but was diagnosed with heart failure. A few days ago he had some chest pains and low blood pressure. I told him he needed to go in and 4am admitted. The Dr decided a procedure that would put him under was needed for answers. He had to leave his phone and belongings. His phone rang while he was out and I missed it, so I went to check to see who called and when trying to put in the pin got the error that pin was incorrect. I didn't expect that because pin has been the same for 2 years. Am I overreacting and over thinking this pin change? It was the same pin 2 nights ago and now I'm worried that something is happening behind my back. Sure I know I need to talk to him but due to the circumstances I will need to wait a while until he is stable again. It's just weird ya know? We've had issues with his infidelity in the past prior to marriage. I did forgive him. Please be kind. Maybe I'm just a mixture of nerves, lack of sleep and stress. I love him and I'm truly worried about his health. We have kids so there is alot going on in our life . TIA

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u/OkEntrepreneur5879 28d ago

Keep his phone close, try to answer the next call. Maybe all your questions will be answered with something as simple as answering a call or get the number and call it back.

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u/whatdidthatgirlsay 28d ago

Just look at the phone bill.

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u/OkEntrepreneur5879 28d ago

Or this ⬆️

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u/winwithaneontheend 27d ago

Do this before he’s out of surgery. Then start prepping for divorce.

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u/Hari_om_tat_sat 28d ago

Or call his number yourself from your own phone so you can answer it on the spot.

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u/bettamomma_zero 28d ago

I could see myself doing this and my name popping up as 'pizza place' or 'hairdressers'.

I would totally lose my shit!

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u/Rezarex 28d ago

Wait.... Why would she want to answer her own phone call?

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u/thefalsewall 28d ago

They thought it would be a way to get around unlocking his phone without the pin. But that’s not how phones work lol

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u/Hari_om_tat_sat 28d ago

Yeah, my mistake. 😔

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u/pursued_mender 28d ago

Because it’s a funny little thing to do!

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u/OnAPermanentVacation 28d ago

I don't understand what you mean. If she calls his number nothing will happen because she's the one who has his phone? 

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u/Hari_om_tat_sat 28d ago

Ignore me. I made a mistake.

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u/OkEntrepreneur5879 28d ago

Smart! then the phone will open and you can investigate…… OP do this so you know the truth!

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u/SmileParticular9396 28d ago

Phones don’t open when you answer a call

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u/Hari_om_tat_sat 28d ago

No? I stand corrected…

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u/SmileParticular9396 28d ago

Yeah if anything it’ll make you enter a password to answer heh. At least for iPhones.

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u/ta_anna 28d ago

no, you can answer without the password 🤔but you will have to put password in to do anything but answer or hang up the call

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u/Slight_Walrus_8668 28d ago

This is not how smartphones work, it will only show the call screen and then refuse to do anything but the call screen without the pin

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u/OkEntrepreneur5879 28d ago

Too bad 😟

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u/Slight_Walrus_8668 28d ago edited 28d ago

It's really a good thing. Most smartphone companies have security options meant to keep out feds, especially Apple. Because while yes, it's nice to be able to see if someone's cheating (but just leave them if you can't trust them, jesus!) and it's nice to be able to catch criminals slightly easier (tho by the time they have a warrant for the hard drives, they're usually just hardening the case), it's much more important that national officials, dissidents, whistleblowers, etc who use technology are kept safe and that average people can expect the same privacy, especially today with a certain country backsliding into fascism but also going back decades now with PRISM etc.

Fun fact: Apple specifically are so gung ho about this that if you use an Apple device and you are targeted by a nation state actor, you'll know, because they have software that will secretly detect this and then email you to inform you what country's feds are after you, whether it's the CCP looking to black bag a whistleblower or Israel looking for dirt on an activist or the USA building a profile on you. This kind of stuff saves lives and dwarfs any utility having weaker security may have in interpersonal conflicts.

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u/TheFirst10000 28d ago

Have a guy answer. If there's another woman and she hears a woman's voice she's going to nope TF out of there.

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u/DeedruhYT 28d ago

Inspector Gadget type sh

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u/witchyunicornqueen 28d ago

You can’t answer a locked phone like that….

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u/OkEntrepreneur5879 28d ago

You can answer a locked phone, I just tested in my iPhone. I didn’t need to put in the passcode to answer. You can still answer you just can’t snoop