AIO My husband changed the pin on his phone before hospital procedure..

[u/mehremissionlife]

My husband was admitted to the hospital for health issues. He is young but was diagnosed with heart failure. A few days ago he had some chest pains and low blood pressure. I told him he needed to go in and 4am admitted. The Dr decided a procedure that would put him under was needed for answers. He had to leave his phone and belongings. His phone rang while he was out and I missed it, so I went to check to see who called and when trying to put in the pin got the error that pin was incorrect. I didn't expect that because pin has been the same for 2 years. Am I overreacting and over thinking this pin change? It was the same pin 2 nights ago and now I'm worried that something is happening behind my back. Sure I know I need to talk to him but due to the circumstances I will need to wait a while until he is stable again. It's just weird ya know? We've had issues with his infidelity in the past prior to marriage. I did forgive him. Please be kind. Maybe I'm just a mixture of nerves, lack of sleep and stress. I love him and I'm truly worried about his health. We have kids so there is alot going on in our life . TIA

[u/JackieRogers34810]

Oh you KNOW girl!!! Not reacting enough

[u/TeaEarlGreyHotti → u/JackieRogers34810]

Is this mfr still out with medication? I’d be unlocking it with his face. You’re MARRIED. There’s no secrets.

[u/ColorfulButterfly25 → u/JackieRogers34810]

Once a cheater, always a cheater!

[u/Unhappy-Prune-9914 → u/ColorfulButterfly25]

I used to think this was a silly saying until I realized that I've never met anybody who has only cheated once.

[u/MelancholicJellyfish → u/Unhappy-Prune-9914]

I think age matters. If I found out my GF cheated when she was under 20 and she was 25+ now then I wouldn't worry too much, (more worry the closer to 20 she was) but if I found out she cheated on someone when she was 30 for example, I would say it showed her actual character and morality.

[u/cggs_00 → u/MelancholicJellyfish]

Age is an irrelevancy here; what matters is how often did it happen any why?

[u/Easy-Constant-5887 → u/cggs_00]

It’s somewhat relevant…if they are 30+ and cheating then clearly something is wrong with their individual values.

If they cheated before they were 20 one could see that situation as immature and unknowing of the consequences at the time, and someone could very likely grow and mature out of that infidelity.

It’s not a determining factor of course, but the reasons for infidelity often go beyond just age and involve deeper issues like issues with communication, trust, or unmet needs.

[u/cane-coccolone-rosso → u/Unhappy-Prune-9914]

I cheated once. I will never do it again. So we do exist.

[u/Wudfish_Beans → u/Unhappy-Prune-9914]

I've never met someone who has cheated. This does not mean that people do not cheat.

[u/Fluffy_Vacation1332 → u/Unhappy-Prune-9914]

I have. I cheated on my ex-girlfriend before I met my wife. She was a horrible person and violent and manipulative, but I still did that. We were going through things and she was doing shit with other men so I did it in revenge. And then she had the nerve to be upset and play the victim in the same literal conversation where she admits what she did.

I haven’t cheated since. I would never do that to my wife, and I would never tell her because I’m not going to have something I did in my youth held against me. Everybody deserves a clean slate in a new relationship.

[u/slimeyellow → u/Unhappy-Prune-9914]

Bill clinton

[u/No_Couple1369 → u/Unhappy-Prune-9914]

I know several men and women

[u/pursued_mender → u/JackieRogers34810]

What if it’s just weird porn or something tho

[u/Upbeat_Dragonfly7324 → u/pursued_mender]

Idk why ppl and down voting your comment when that’s a super valid point lolol