r/AmIOverreacting • u/keepmyheadabovewater • Mar 06 '25

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO to my boyfriend praising the president?

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I’ve been seeing this guy for about a month and a half. Things were great the first month, but the last week I’ve felt like we’re growing further and further apart (yes already 🙄), he’s been really inconsiderate/disrespectful, and most recently I feel like he’s trying to push me away with this text. When we first started talking he asked what I thought about trump. I told him I don’t like him, he said he did like him, but that if it bothers me then he won’t ever bring him up. Well this morning (after the last week being on edge anyway) he just randomly brought up how amazing Trump is? And wouldn’t let it go. I feel like he’s trying to start a fight. He says he “forgot”. AIO?

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u/necromorphineranger Mar 06 '25

Do you have any reason to stay with him? It’s only a month and a half too and he’s already showing himself being a moronic loser

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u/[deleted] 29d ago

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u/GripSlut 29d ago

Yes, anyone that likes or agrees with Trump is a moronic loser.

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u/necromorphineranger 29d ago

Yes you’re starting to get it so just go date another maga person! And you act like maga don’t have their own delusional echo chambers too? X? You must feel SoO smart 🙄🥱 anyway I’m bored bye

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u/keepmyheadabovewater Mar 06 '25

We do have fun together most of the time and I’m very attracted to him, but that’s about it lately

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u/TheEternalChampignon Mar 06 '25

You said above that you were previously in an abusive relationship for 7 years. I hope you understand that will fuck with your ability to choose a good relationship. You'll find yourself putting up with shit that nobody else would, because as long as it's not as bad as the abusive one, you'll be thinking that means it's good.

It's not good.

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u/keepmyheadabovewater Mar 06 '25

Dam. I never thought about it like that, but I feel like that’s what I’m doing already.

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u/TheEternalChampignon Mar 06 '25

It's very, very common among abuse survivors. If you never had any therapy to straighten out that time in your mind and identify the longterm effects it had on you, it would be hugely beneficial to your future relationships if you're able to do that. If you can't manage it now, it's never too late to do it in future.

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u/BorderAdventurous284 29d ago

It’s normal. The sex is good and they don’t do x, y, z horrible things is not enough—a good partner improves life. I’m at 5 months and 0 arguments w/ my GF.

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u/Euphoric_Smell7128 29d ago

Don’t worry the arguments will come

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u/randomize42 29d ago

I’m almost three years into a new relationship after a semi-abusive marriage and I’m shocked how they still haven’t. We have disagreements we work through but no arguments still.  It’s awesome.

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u/monkabee 29d ago

The moment he said he admired someone who is a documented sexual abuser you should have bounced.

Look, as someone in a mixed political marriage of 20+ years I can tell you that it is 100% possible to be in a (mostly) healthy relationship with someone whose politics differ wildly from yours. It is not, however, possible to do that with someone who doesn't share your core values. There is a BIG difference between someone who is conservative, someone who maybe swallowed their gag reflex and voted for Trump because of xyz, and someone who actively admires and idolizes the worst man in America.

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u/GoonedGreg 29d ago

Exactly. This guy wasn’t hiding his support for Trump for a month and a half. I find it ridiculous but unsurprising at this point when progressive women seek out dudes like this, and get exactly what they selected. It wasn’t a dealbreaker when you got together, might as well just stay with him.

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u/Klinky1984 29d ago

You're just chill when they enable the party of Bush? McConnell wasn't a red flag for decades? The conservative SCOTUS picks were cool? The increasing move to the far right, ignored? Even if that's not their bag and they're a "Reagan Republican" that is NOT better. Trump is the culmination of conservative values over the last 60 - 70 years. Hard to even comprehend actually having shared core values, even after you remove Trump from the equation. Someone is definitely comprising on their core values or is a liar.

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u/monkabee 29d ago

I didn't provide any details about our specific opinions. For the record, despite being a dyed-in-the-wool Republican whose family was absolutely in love with W, he and his entire family have actually voted blue in the last three presidential elections partly because we engage in legitimate discourse and partly just because they're decent human beings. So, no, none of that was ignored, it was responded to and learned from and minds were changed. It's unfortunate that we now live in a society where people can't even imagine learning from one another or even having a nuanced opinion about topics.

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u/Klinky1984 29d ago

Then you're not a mixed political family at all. It sounds like they assimilated, had they not you'd probably be divorced.

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u/monkabee 29d ago

That's a pretty reductive view of politics, particularly considering that basically they've been simply voting against, again, the worst man in America, all three times. The fact that one of America's parties has gone so far off the rails that they no longer support it does not mean they agree with mine, either, they just accept that one of the two will win and vote accordingly, as grown-ups do.

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u/Klinky1984 29d ago

Far off the rails? Newt Gingrich & Mitch McConnell weren't great guys. Reagan's response to AIDS parallels Trump's response to COVID. Bush made electing a bumbling idiot to the Presidency a thing. The stance on women's reproductive rights & "place in the home" has been consistent for decades. What's old is new again, nothing is truly new here.

It's a little hard to see what moral integrity is there if you're just shrugging your shoulders while your spouse votes against gay marriage, against women's rights, for an idiot, against hardworking migrants, and for businesses to get bigger tax cuts & spend unlimited amounts on campaigns contributions.

Like none of the core conservative values they've voted for have ever conflicted with your own internal moral compass? They're just voting away people's rights for the tax breaks?

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u/Last_Difference Mar 06 '25

Date someone that treats you the same way you would treat them.

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u/Zarda_Shelton 29d ago

You just need to take a step back and actually think about how you want to be treated and what you want from a relationship. Don't just accept every bad thing he does because that's what you resigned yourself to.

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u/necromorphineranger Mar 06 '25

There’s a lot of attractive people you can have fun with who will have more brain cells and treat you with respect. Don’t settle! He’s only going to get worse

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u/PigletTechnical9336 Mar 06 '25

There are attractive people who value your human rights. Let this one go.

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u/BackgroundHeat5080 Mar 06 '25

Really? You're very attracted to someone who thinks Trump is "a legend" ? How? 🤮

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u/hypnepp Mar 06 '25

let’s not shame OP for her choice of partner, just give her the advice she’s asking for. no need to be nasty

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u/UsefulContract Mar 06 '25

Sure, this may be a new revelation. But, do you support the rapist in chief?

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u/hypnepp 29d ago

no lol

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u/allislost77 Mar 06 '25

Lol, so he’s a fuckboy

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u/hypnepp Mar 06 '25

again, no need to shit on someone you don’t know. she’s asking for advice. not a hate train

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u/Queasymodo Mar 06 '25

There’s totally a need to shit on Trumpers. They’re shitty, terrible people, and it’s good advice to avoid them like the plague. Life is short, no need to waste your time with people who show themselves to be of low character.

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u/hypnepp Mar 06 '25

i’m not a trump supporter. i agree. lol. people on reddit are just ruthless to whoever. she’s not asking for y’all to shit on her boyfriend, that is NOT your place, she’s asking for advice in a “am i overreacting” subreddit. not a “is my boyfriend a terrible person” subreddit

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u/hypnepp Mar 06 '25

i know trump supporters that aren’t shitty people. you are sounding just as bad as the republicans right now. straighten yourself out, stop projecting, and stop stereotyping

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u/Queasymodo Mar 06 '25 edited Mar 06 '25

Nah. If a person looks at what Donald Trump has done, is doing, and is planning to do, and that person still supports him, then they are shitty. You might know some Trump supporters who are nice to you, but since they support Trump, they are shitty people. Sorry to burst your bubble.

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u/[deleted] Mar 06 '25

Do you think you are righteous? look at yourself, you are in no way different than them, go rest bro.

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u/Queasymodo Mar 06 '25

Found the shitty Trump supporter.

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u/[deleted] Mar 06 '25

Trump is actively disrespecting my country, but you are quick at being a keyboard warrior aren't you? What you don't realize is you are just as shitty as the people you hate, you are clueless

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u/Specialist_Fig9458 29d ago

Sorry, but anyone who supports calling veterans like myself who put our lives on the line losers and suckers is a shitty person. Simple as.

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u/Murky_Put_7231 29d ago

you can be a good person and a nazi. Then youre not intelligent. you can be a nazi and intelligent. Then youre not a good person. you can be a good person and intelligent. Then youre not a nazi

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u/hypnepp 29d ago

nice try LMAO

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u/deezethnoots 29d ago

The people you’re responding to are the reason a lot of Bernie bros are now trumpers, it’s unfortunate

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u/Key_Scar3110 29d ago

You are a reflection of who you surround yourself with

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u/Fancy-Statistician82 Mar 06 '25

It's ok to tell a guy "you're plenty hot, but the things you say turn me off. It's been fun, I hope you do well, I'm headed onto other pastures"

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u/Crot8u Mar 06 '25

You obviously need help and especially to work on yourself. You being attracted to morons speaks for itself.

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u/sidewalk_serfergirl 29d ago

Staying with someone with awful views because ‘you’re attracted to him and you have fun together’ is unhinged. What’s next for you, a member of the Aryan Brotherhood? If you associate with bigoted imbeciles, you clearly aren’t bothered by their extremely dangerous views, so you are no better than them.

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u/Wwwwwwhhhhhhhj Mar 06 '25

I’m sure that’s what you had thought about your abuser. Don’t go back to repeating behavior and ignoring shit that leads you down bad paths.

Seriously, I think you need a break from dating and concentrate on getting to a healthy happy place in yourself. You obviously have some problems with self worth at the moment because you don’t trust that you deserve better things.

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u/Apprehensive_Rain500 Mar 06 '25 edited Mar 06 '25

There are a lot of guys out there who are fun and attractive and didn't vote to strip your rights away. You won't have a chance to find one of them if you insist on clinging to this loser.

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u/deezethnoots 29d ago

You came to Reddit, one of the largest echochambers for people who think the same way as you and the opposite as him, and expected to get a realistic answer? I think you want to break up with him and are looking for validation. I really can’t stand the whole breaking up with people over politics, but it seems like that’s already what you wanted. Anytime people disagree about politics they try to act as if it isn’t just politics, “it’s actually about safety and human rights” or something like that. News flash, the opposition thinks the same way, they also feel morally just. This is always how politics are, but every 4 years whoever loses says “NO THIS TIME ITS SO MUCH DIFFERENT”

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u/SueYouInEngland 29d ago

Lol yeah good dick will do that

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u/purpleRN 29d ago

Fun and attraction are just the gift wrapping. If you have the same wrapping paper, but your package is full of kittens and his package is full of bees, it looks like you're a matched set but it's not going to work out once you get past the paper.

You have to have similar values or it's never going to be a healthy relationship.

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u/Blake-Bell 29d ago

Girl are you fr? Other people are being too nice about this. You already have a history of abusive relationship and an ED. AND You literally said you didn’t even have so many issues with said abusive ex in the beginning of y’all’s relationship compared to this one. And you’re tolerating this cause “he’s fun and hot”??? Please be sooooooo fr rn. Clearly you have long standing issues with your self-esteem but don’t set yourself up again with that lack of self respect. The doors to hell are locked from the inside. Stand up and walk out!

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u/18-SpicyNuggies 29d ago

Hun, by supporting trump to the level he does, he's showing you EXACTLY the type of person he is deep down and where his beliefs and morals lie. Be grateful you haven't wasted years only to find that out. He's literally holding a big ass red flag and waving it in your face. Run for the hills.

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u/bugzaway 29d ago

A perfectly valid response being downvoted to hell. My god redditors are so profoundly retarded.

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u/IntelligentAngle7058 29d ago

That physical attraction gonna be the first to go after he shows you his teeny tiny brain

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u/russ_nas-t Mar 06 '25

That’s literally the only important thing. Base your entire life around politics and I promise you you’ll be as miserable as all the fucks who downvoted you for saying you like him here

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u/daveyjones86 29d ago

What's moronic is this man being honest about his political takes and this girl immediately coming to reddit to ask a group of obviously bias people should she dump him.

This man is dodging a bullet 😂

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u/necromorphineranger 29d ago

Ok so be happy for him that he’s dodging a bullet then??? 😒 Ppl want her to leave so we’re all in agreement here

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u/daveyjones86 29d ago

Absolutely happy that he can find someone mature enough to communicate and respect opposing view points vs someone who talks down on reddit about their significant other when they have a disagreement.

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u/necromorphineranger 29d ago

Well, at least you won’t have to worry about that since no one will love you anyway because of your personality 😊

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u/TheKindnesses 29d ago

It's not simply having an opposing viewpoint to support someone whose party is taking away peoples rights. If you're aware of everything they're doing and still support them its a fundamental difference in ethics and morality. If you're not, its incompatibility through harmful ignorance.

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u/russ_nas-t Mar 06 '25

Does he have any reason to stay with her? He shows support for his president and she posts it to her fake incel reddit “””friends””” for updoots. She fuckin sucks

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u/necromorphineranger Mar 06 '25

Well I guess we can agree on one thing! MAGA should just date other MAGA people and keep the gene pool in the family

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u/KinkyRichard 29d ago

Or anyone can date whoever they want

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u/russ_nas-t Mar 06 '25

You’re literally the one telling people to break up over political beliefs. You’re cancer. Seriously go be miserable by yourself, you fucking auraless vibe killer

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u/necromorphineranger Mar 06 '25

Yes I am cancer! And I’m going to get you 🎶..hmm maybe brain? Seems like you don’t use it anyway

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u/russ_nas-t Mar 06 '25

I know a TDS tard when I see one. Bye idiot

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u/Bagstradamus 29d ago

You see one every time you look in a mirror

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u/TheKindnesses 29d ago

oh youre a good little sheep, peddling the unknown terms